i cant seem to forget about my ex i tried all the tricks in the book , worse even went to as far as going to traditional doctors . he is dating someone else now and he is truly in love with her he said we should give us a try but he treats me like 2nd best to i really deserve this…? how do i move on its almost year now but am still holding on.
My boyfriend broke up with me 2 months ago because of the distance and the fact that he has lost feelings for me (about this he wasn’t really certain though…). I have accomplished NC succesfully and got in touch again with him in the begining of December. We started to have small talks, videochating occasionally and we have even achieved an active snap activity. However, recently, to be more exact, when going back to school he started to be distant and cold. I know that he has a lot of work as now he is in exam period, but he always replies short and almost after 24 or 16 hours, which is not typic of him.
5. Go out on a date. This is absolutely essential and if you are reading this, then I will recommend that you definitely go out on a few dates before ending no contact with your ex. It’s absolutely imperative for you to get some perspective right now and meeting new people is the best way to do it.
“If you know the enemy and know yourself, you need not fear the result of a hundred battles. If you know yourself but not the enemy, for every victory gained you will also suffer a defeat. If you know neither the enemy nor yourself, you will succumb in every battle.”
The end of a relationship is always the hardest to get over. Even if you lost interest in your partner and did not feel the love anymore, it may still be hard to move on. They were an integral part of your life. It is definitely hard to see them move on. You cannot just sit there and mope around. It is not a healthy way to live. You are an independent person and do not need to have a partner to make you happy. Here are some tips that might help.
My ex broke up with me almost a month ago. We went about 18 days with no contact whatsoever. I’ve reached out to him via text, and am trying to keep the conversations neutral as possible (it’s still pretty hard for me to talk to him without getting emotional, so texting is the best way I can communicate right now, so he couldn’t hear me over the phone, etc.), and the texting is at the point where I’m not overbearing (we’ve had small exchanges every couple of days). I’ve initiated them all, however. Now I’m wondering if I should go back to a no-contact period. He’s never been the one to initiate much conversation with anyone, including those outside of me. Help?
Right now, your number one priority isn’t “what is he thinking?” It is to heal from the breakup. Essentially in this case it is ok to be a little selfish and not think of your exes feelings. After all, this isn’t even about his well being it’s about yours.
So one of two things will happen… he will either get his act together and clearly, unambiguously and boldly do what he needs to in order to get on the same page with you in terms of the relationship you want… or he won’t and you’ll know that it was never going to happen.
Be there to support him. No matter how much the break-up hurt you, you can make a powerful impression on your guy by putting past feelings aside at critical moments and stepping up as a supportive friend. But also make him realize that support is more limited now that he’s just a friend. Try to be the one to end phone conversations, for example. Let him fondly recall the times when he enjoyed your limitless support.
Yes, now I know that I had feelings in it. I was picking up fights because I was afraid of them. That is why I want to start it again with feelings and without fears. I wanna give it a chance. Yesterday I wrote him: I written down what I have learnt about myself during the relationship but I did not mentioned that I wanted him back or anything similar. He read it in a minute but no answer. I was not surprised. (Basically I was surprised because he read it immediately.)As for no contact rule, I feel our relationship was different: I was not clingy. Not that was the problem, quite the opposite. I feel I have to give him a way to communicate. Or am I wrong?
Believe it or not, you’re getting over him right now. No matter what you do, no matter where you go, some part of you is getting over him. Time heals. In time, you’ll look back and you’ll be over him. Make sure and realize it; even if you didn’t want to get over him, some part of you will definitely get over him. The pain we live with a one of our best teachers, at least in some ways. It’s a beautiful thing to love someone, even if things don’t work out. You still love him, and that’s beautiful. You want the very best for him – even if that means a breakup. That proves that you really love him, that you’re not just concerned about your own happiness. Nope. You want him to be happy, even without you. More than that though, take very good care of yourself. Do the things that you love to do. Move forward. Take that course. Study that subject. Learn that instrument. Go to the concert, the movie, the play. Be with friends. Develop and self-actualize.
Another tip on how to get over your ex boyfriend is to just accept that you will be upset for a while and allow yourself to grieve. Holding it in and bottling things up won’t make the pain go away, so you may as well get over it with a good, old fashioned cry. You can’t control grief and only time will truly heal it, but you can make sure that it doesn’t rule your life. As each day passes, the grief will become less, so don’t get angry with yourself, just because you feel sad.
Step 1 – Recover from your breakup and get to the point where you can think rationally and be around your ex without being too emotional. Remove reminders of your ex boyfriend and ignore him for now. This recovery/moving on phase is important, even if you just want him back.
When you believe that you could lose something, you’ll instinctively shrink inside and it will take the wind out of your sails. That feeling does not feel good, and the source of it is how you’re thinking about your situation, it’s your perspective.
Some women are prone to falling in “love” immediately after a breakup but see this for what it really is – not wanting to be alone. Nobody enjoys being alone all the time and every human wants company and love but achieving that through a rebound relationship is a bad idea in 99.9% of cases. You’ll either emotionally hurt yourself even more than you are right now or you’ll hurt an innocent guy who genuinely cares for you and might have become a long-term boyfriend if you’d only waited a little while longer before going out looking for a relationship again.