What would you suggest for me now? I bombarded him with texts and calls yesterday and then this morning I text him apologising for what he said, and I also said I wouldn’t contact him again. It’s been two and a half months since he contacted me. I’m so depressed. How do I go about this now? I think he might have found someone new.
You just started dating a new guy. You are in that honeymoon phase and everything is great. You are constantly complimenting him and giving him acknowledgment that he is wanted by you. Basically he loves hearing that you are interested in him. However, as time goes on things begin to change. You don’t compliment him as much because you don’t need to land him anymore. This is when the problems begin for him.
My ex made me do things am not suposed to do because i could not stand is new behaviour and act towards me anymore and we lost trust for each other dor i still love him but i was the one who decide the breakup cos i had enough of it already nw he is far from me we don’t usually see on the road is there a chance of getting him back and making him beg me to come back
Ah so you had a sneaking suspicion but were proven wrong. This is bad for you for a couple of reasons. First off, your boyfriend surely will feel worried about incurring your wrath whenever they want to do something. Secondly, it makes your ex feel like you never trusted them. Luckily, you can work on this and prove to him that you are no longer the person who suspects him every time he goes out (without you.)
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Hey 2 months ago I said my ex broke up with me because of long distance and I was moving back to her hometown because I wanted to move there for a job offer and you told me keep doing no contact until you arrive there. I just moved here 2 days ago and she keeps liking my posts on social media even the one where I took a pic of the back yard of my house and said a paragraph about that j moved here and I’m blessed. She saw that post but hasn’t messeged me or anything shes not dating anyone. What should I do I texted her 2 months ago but she seemed uninterested but she still sees my stuff??
Some people say that time heals all…or if not all, at least calms folks down so that they have a shot of enjoying pleasant interactions again. If you’ve been apart only two weeks, it might be a good idea to relax and rejuvenate for a while before you try to reconnect.
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Sorry to send a direct email. I feel I need a serious support from you. I’m 50. We’re having a wonderful relationship with the girlfriend for last six years with high intimacy and enjoyed sex to the fullest. She is 45. I’m having a wonderful family with two kids and she also got the same. But due to some doubts about me, she broke with me two to three times. But I’m able to manage her back and we started back normal. She is heading a division my company and I’m her boss. I brought her to my company to that position only after one year of the starting of our relationship. She is very capable and doing her job very successfully and additional responsibility for secretarial assistance to me. We are able to spend a lot of time together in the office and our families also in the good relationship.
You’ll have to decide if you still want him back. Since you’ve been on no contact, complete it first. It would seem like he does miss you to some extent so you could always contact him again when you feel ready.
Well Its been 3 months. I did reach out with a text to wish him Happy Holidays. He responded with the same. He then has been liking my Facebook posts and even commented. I feel he wants to be in contact with me.
I had a guy whom we dated for 8 months then all over a sudden he started saying that I was cheating on him.he broke up with me saying that he never wanted anything to do with me.I pleaded with him to hear me out but he refused…I begged him to no avail,so I decided that I will never contact him….after 2 months of no contact we meet on a certain place….at first he didn’t talk to me then after like 20 min he came to where I was n started to talk to me….we talked for like 30 mins then he was supposed to attend to something. So he asked me for my contact and told me that we will communicate bt its now the third day and he haven’t contacted me…..so should I contact him or not??? Pliz advice
Again, your instincts are screwing with you. Trust me, no one takes their ex back out of pity. No one is attracted to someone who is miserable. And even if your ex came back because of this, do you really want your ex to be with you just because of pity? Or do you want them to respect and love you?
My experience is that some abusers are genuinely willing to learn and to apply what they learn so that they cease their controlling and abusive ways (note: the controlling stance as well as the explicit abuse must change for the future to look promising).
I have sustained a period of 30 days and now looking at trying again. I have identified several areas where i have needed to change and continued to develop. Some of these no doubt contributed to the split.
If I don’t do anything right now, they’ll fall in love with this new person and forget about me forever. I better go over there and do everything that this article has told me not to do. Including begging, using pity, telling them how much I love them, agreeing to all their conditions (be a doormat). And if they don’t open the door, I’ll just stand outside and call and text them all day. It will be even better to tell my ex how this new person is totally wrong for them and what a big mistake they are making by being in a relationship with this _______(INSERT DEROGATORY REMARK).
Thanks to Amanda, i try it and it works as mad, my Ex is back now, i am hoping we get married by December according to the way Scott keep saying it often that we have to get married and bare kids…. Dr odoma is my best experience this Year!!!!
Again, this is risky since there is a higher chance of him saying no. However, if you two were really making a lot of progress via texting and you really think he is feeling the same way you are about your current relationship then the “I was in the neighborhood method” may do the trick for you. The obvious advantage is that you get an instant date/meet up!
Go ahead, he likes you and misses you, just follow your heart here, not me ? If it’s meant to last, then so be it, if it’s not, then you’ll have had a nice time with him, you are the most pressure thing to yourself and if you think he deserves to be with you, then let him in, it’s up to you.
If you have kids together- The last thing you want is to come off like a jerk. So, if you are in this situation make sure you keep your interactions to a minimum. Keep things short, simple and positive.
I am deeply in love with my ex, and i know he is too. He is just like a girl tho so indecisive. doesnt know what he wants.. he does know he wants me, but he thinks that he cant tell me. he has an issue with expressing his feelings. and he has made me cry, and been a jerk sometimes… but i still love him soo much and dont know what ill do without him.
also he has already given her diamonds for her recent birthday, seems to be moving fast. And I can’t help but thinking of him proposing to her soon since they already knew each other so well. No, I don’t believe she ever cheated or started this with him while we were together.
Ok. When I started with this whole dating thing, I have decided: I wanted only sex. I missed sex since I have not had any for 2 years after breakup with my husband. Right? But I did not want to lose my independence just because my body needed sex. That was the starting point. I had more dates but I selected this guy because kissing was the best with him. We had chemistry. We have not had sex only on the 3rd date. Basically we were speaking about philosophical questions and everything. I found him interesting as a person. He was a kinda weirdo like myself. I told him I wanted only kinda special frienship but he wanted something more. He left some of his stuff at my house, cooked for me, stayed over the weekend and started to repair my boiler. Even mentioned that I should have reareanged my room. These things terrified me so I started fight. We had great sex and then loads of fights. In the meantime I realized I might needed something more than sex. We had fight about Fraud and these things. In this respect the relationship was not swallow.
Broke up with your boyfriend? Wondering if he still has feelings for you? Wondering if you two should get back together? What are the chances that you two can salvage the relationship and is it worth it? Remember that no situation is impossible, I know from the loads of e-mails I receive that people are getting back together every day. This ex boyfriend quiz will help you figure out how he feels.
Everyone deserves to be happy and you shouldn’t settle for less just because you’ve ‘invested 5 years into the relationship and it would be a shame to give it up’. If you genuinely want to give it another shot, go ahead, but if the abuse continues and she does not change, I would suggest you be fair to yourself and walk away.
(Disclaimer: These only work if you actually do the things you are talking about. So, don’t make any situations up. How will it look if he goes to verify and finds out your lying about being out and about with another guy?)
You’re overthinking it.. The nc rule is for you to focus in yourself, so that when you initiate and try to rebuild rapport, you’ll be thinking rationally instead of being emotional. We only recommend up to three tries after nc.. after that if it doesn’t go well, that means it would be better to move on.
I had to end relationship up with my girlfriend (5 years living together) due the fact she found another man to entertain her and she was not willing to make the decision: me or other guy. I tried this no contact rule and she keeps calling and texting me once a day (or so). If I did not answer her contacts, she is getting very upset and sends me irritating messages (like blaming me that I can’t be trusted in serious situations). If I answer her because I assume that there was a really serious reason that she would call me, but there isn’t. If we talk about weather and general stuff, it is fine. If or conversation goes to us or our past, she gets upset and tries to end the call. Last conversation she hinted me that if I would not call her more occasionally, I would waste my opportunity. She even encouriged to call her any time. [otp_overlay]