Improve your style and dressing, go to the gym and lose some weight, exercise and that will not only help you look better but will also help you feel better about yourself. Suppose even if you are not able to reunite, but these improvements will help you in future with your new girlfriend.
Sounds like you are stuck in a difficult place. On one hand you guys have ended the relationship but on the other you are still intimate. This will cause many jealousy and trust issues because neither of you are committed.
Below I have listed all of the qualities that women consider when choosing a potential mate. Some of these qualities mean more than others and some are completely out of your control. However, most women consider these qualities when they look at you. The idea is to maximize as many qualities as you can to give yourself the best chance to re-attract your ex.
Evolution and the desire to have the strongest possible offspring, dictate that your girl gets attracted to guys she sees as superior to herself. All women have this mechanism wired into their DNA in order to keep the human race strong.
Is there an exact reason why you want to rekindle your relationship with her? – Find out what your reasons are exactly for wanting to win her back. Is it because of some sort of pressure from her or the ones around you? Is it because of your family or your kids if you have any? You really have to reflect on this issue. Note that this should be your decision alone, not anyone else.
Once you are done, open your eyes and find the list you made in Anger Exercise above. Hold the envelope in your hand and feel how light it is. Things that putting the burden of tension on you is, as small and light as a feather.
If you’re on speaking terms, casually mention other girls. You can mention one girl a few times, leading her to wonder, “Who is this girl?” Or you can just talk about a group of girls, mentioning that you were at a party that was filled with mostly girls but that you were “okay with that.”
In such situations, you have to keep your contact with your ex-girlfriend at very minimum. If you are living together, make sure you spend a lot of time with your friends. However, don’t bring any woman into the house to make your ex girlfriend jealous. Your ex-girlfriend will also bring a new guy at home, and it will hurt you only.
Go in for the kill – After several casual meetups, invite her along on a night out with your friends or say to her that you’re going to be somewhere and she should come along. Then when you see her, you’re both drunk and you can be way more sexual.
don’t block her.. Just start the nc rule.. be active in improving yourself and in posting and make your posts publi.. focus on that instead of worrying. I think you should do 45 days.. If she doesn’t contact you in it, that’s good because you’re not supposed to reply. You can initiate after nc.
What’s up people, my ex of 11 years, 2 kids, engaged for 3 years and only in Portugal 4 months ago viewing wedding venues broke it off with me 2 weeks before Xmas this year. It’s now 6 weeks on and I still have the belief that I can win her back. I want her back, I fucking need her back!!! She’s the one no matter what anybody says. I need to know how to doh. I’ve meet for the coffee and it went fine until we started speaking about us and I had to leave because I didn’t want to meet up an dicuss us I just wanted to see her. So she’s given me all the talk that I need to let her go and we are done etc…
Another way is to travel. Yes, that’s good for the enjoyment and letting go off your worries as well as the understanding the women. Different women personalities are found around the globe. Try to learn their body language, there energy level and their eye contact. It is very important part of a relationship to think of these 3 points since you only get into real act with the understanding of body movement.
Also, take note that a lot of rekindled relationships deal with lack of trust, causing them to experience repeated break-ups. With that in mind, avoid making your move if you are not a hundred percent sure yet if that is really what you want.
This tactic may be a little harder to implement because it can sometimes depend on the situation that your ex is currently in. Basically you are going to bring up a stressful event very gently and show that you are going to be supportive no matter what with NO STRINGS ATTACHED. This has to be completely genuine otherwise you are better off not saying anything at all.
#12 Don’t talk about getting back together. We all know why you’re talking to her again, you want her back. She knows this as well, so there’s no need to tell her. Don’t text her corny messages that say, “I miss you” or “I wish we were together.”
Understand why she left you – The first step is to understand why she dumped you in the first place dude! What was she saying to you before the breakup? Were there any signs? Did she say why she didn’t like or love you anymore?
We are supposed to go to a concert in 2 days and bought her a ticket (before we broke up of course) and we are still supposed to go together as i dont know “friends”. At least thats what I said. Should I talk to her about something or what am I supposed to do? I can’t believe I love that girl so much. Distance and time did not change a thing for me. I could have had sex with 5 girls while in the US and same goes for her but we both didn’t… Doesn’t that mean anything… Please tell me what you think ASAP !!!
It would depend on your knowledge regarding what she seeks for in life. If the financial security it something more important to her, then you might want to consider walking away as it will be hard to compete with her boss on this aspect. If you know that she may be going through a tough time, and merely needs momentary financial support desperately that you cannot provide, then you could consider a second shot if given the chance. However, do bear in mind that she walked away from you once already, and if you get back with her, she may do the same again if ever she needs something you cannot provide.
We’re both in school so things started to get stressful a month in. We fought once a week then multiple times a week, all on text. I feel we started to focus on positive things less, he said he didn’t feel connected as much but everytime we saw each other, it’s like we hadn’t fought. We both acknowledged we couldn’t see each other to work things out as much. After another fight, he broke it off, saying we fought too much, didn’t feel trust, school/finals stress, & that we should take a break. We kept talking for like 2 weeks after saying we could work things out & even saw each other a week after the breakup. It felt like we still really wanted to make it work. That last time I saw him, he mentioned this classmate who he was talking about past relationships with (including ours) & I didn’t like it but didn’t think anything of it. She is 18 & he said he’d never be interested in her since she’s young, stuck-up, & have nothing in common. I mentioned a guy my friend was trying to set me up with to help me move on (I told my ex I wasn’t interested) but he didn’t like it. A week later, we got into the worst fight after my other ex messaged me after months (but I told him I denied him) then we didn’t talk for 2.5 weeks.
Sometimes, you can get angry with the situation you are in. For example, you don’t have enough money to do cool things with your ex OR your ex’s parents making the life hell for you OR you are angry because you have to work long hours and don’t get enough time to see your ex.
Hey Charlie great article, it was very informative!. By the way my gf of 3 years broke up with me cause she caught me in some lies, for example creating a Facebook behind her back. So she broke up with me cause she can’t trust, she say’s she hates me and that I’m not the right man for her. But when she talks to me she gets very emotional and starts crying. I’m going to give her space and work on myself like you said!. But my question is i have to see her once a month to give her my part of car insurance since were on the same policy and was wondering what should i say or do when i do see her *note(that i still want her back). Thanks for your time.
I have cheated lied abused gave her a std and this girl gave me her life since she was 16 and now it’s hard to get her back when she is 23 I’ve did so much but I’m 27 doing what I can to prove her I’m not who I was. We argue but hell anything not spoken is a secret right? I’ve put her and her mother as well as he sis in problem but that’s not who I am now what do I do n we have 2 kids one is mine and another isn’t but I treat them as one how do I get her to love me when she seeing another I’m sorry doesn’t cut it n gifts what do I do
I moved in with two people as roommates. And as you can guess I fell in love and started a relationship with one of them. I am west European..she Japanese and she is a few years older then I am and she is also the apartment owner. …ads up doesn’t it? Anyway for like 3,5 months we hat a intense relationship. everything started off fine…both being very happy. Occassionaly we hat a fight (both of us being very stubborn) but managed to make up with each other everytime. Up until she hat enough and told me: we are not fit for one another. and that is where she broke up leaving me devastated for a couple of days. The whole thing was more awkward because we still kept seeing each other as roommates. After a hard blank look in the mirror at myself I decided I did not like myself like this and that I would smash that mirror into pieces. So I started working on myself…being more tidy, clean, went running, hang out with friends more etc. She did started to respond positive to my new attitude, suddenly being overly sweet and nice (playing with my hair, gentle touches and telling me her favourite words were: stupid-*my name*) but also saying that we would just be roommates. For me who held myself together for 2 weeks that was just to much and boy did I cry once she left the house. Then I made a decision. I could not live together with her like this. It was pure torture. I mean: ‘no I don’t want a relationship with you anymore’ and ‘yes, I do want you to stay my roommate’ doesn’t add up now does it? So the next day I confronted her and told her I was going to move out. Then she starts to cry and telling me that she doesn’t want me to leave. ‘What the hell?!’ im thinking but also: ‘Aha, finally some emotion’. Next day she comes up with reasons why it might not be practical to move out yet and that I probably will not find a better place. At the same day I did find another place close by and later told her I would be leaving soon. Now contact between us is on surface-level…mainly being polite to one another. Soon I am going to move out and there are still a thing or two not talked over yet. Also im wondering..what after I moved out? Will she start missing me and try to contact me? And if she does how will I respond and what to do?
Find out if they are still interested. Before you start trying to win back your ex’s heart, you need to know whether he or she still cares or not. Knowing if your ex still cares about you is the first most important clue and hint that things can still be mended.