We were together 5 years and did a lot of firsts in life together. Got my first apartment with her, rented my first house with her, bought my first brand new car with her, got sober and maintained a home for the first time in my life. We were best friends before we became lovers and it was complete unexpected when we did first get together. We had a lot of good times and a few shitty ones.
The next step for you is to share each and everything that happen in the relationship. It is not your mistake if you are single now. You have to realize your relationship is a partnership where you both have emotionally invested equally. The success and failure emotionally affect both of you.
Since she has felt this way, you could slowly warm back up to her. However, I would suggest continuing with NC because it may be too soon for changes to have occurred in both your lives, so if you guys get back together, the same issue might eventually surface again.
Hi me and my ex broke up 2 years ago just January we started back talking kissing and hugging, but all of a sudden the texting are not how they use to be she would text I would answer then ask her how she was doing then conversation would stop that was Thursday now it’s now Sunday, confused because she kept me in her for all this time, do I initiate the conversation again or just wait. Her actions speak louder than words there is a connection still no doubt even show said it herself.
Been trying to slowly get my long distance ex back since January, and we’re on speaking terms again now, and even though that’s a huge step forward, I still have doubt. He’s always been a kind of distant person, and since he first reached out to me like 2 months back, I have initiated all conversations since then. I’m suspecting that’s what you call the hot and cold-treatment? Still, I really wanna get him to open up and finally realize that he loves me after all. If y’all have any more tips, I’d love to hear them.
Women are attracted to men who they perceive to be at least a little higher than them in the social food chain (read: superior men). Another way of putting this is, women are attracted to men who have a higher Dating Market Value (DMV).
I again want to mention it is important to act happy, cheerful and calm when talking with your ex-girlfriend. Let the conversation unfold and allow her to lead the conversation. If she is bringing the relationship into the conversation, then it is fine to enter in the line of discussion but make sure you are not the one who is bringing it up.
What is my business however is that I care about this man and I see us growing a great deal together as people and helping each other reach our full potential as people. Changes in our behaviors and interaction since last year have been amazing. I felt very close to him that day, like a friend and confidant and someone he could depend on (I stopped coveting the girlfriend title and just relaxed). However, I do not want to be friend zoned, I’m too beautiful n great for that (not joking), never been friend zoned.
It motivated me to search for a job even more, to subscribe to a sport to meet new people and make friends, to give him the freedom and the life he was asking for. A few days after, we went to a party and i gave him his space, made friend with other girls, I was doing great but he started talking with his former booty call right in front of me, which of course, made me feel so bad and jealous. So I ignored him the rest of the night. But I apologised the day after and it was ok.
We talked about me going at their house to personally confront his whole family and ofcourse to apologize for what I did. That is the best thing that I can think of to show him/them how sorry I am for what I did. He also told me that I have all the courage to beat him up, but I don’t even have the guts to face his family on what I did. I told him, since I wanted to take full responsibility of my action, even though Im so scared to death in facing his family, I will do it just to show him how sorry I am. I also told him that once I told his family everything, that will be the last time that Ill show my face to him and his family, and even though we still want to fix things up, it will be impossible already once I told them everything. So its like, it’s the last string for both of us. We had this conversation 2 days ago, and everyday I keep on asking him what time I can go there to talk to his family. And I didn’t receive any reply since.
If your ex-partner was the one who walked away from the relationship, it may have been for all kinds of reasons. Maybe they met someone else, maybe they felt like they tried so hard to make it work with no return, or maybe they quit easily. Perhaps they haven’t yet learned that no relationship is perfect all of the time.
This is about trusting that giving him time is going to make him miss you, and getting into a better mindset so you are as attractive to him as possible. The alternative is panicking, stalking him, texting him constantly, and begging him to take you back – which never works. Trust that this is the only way to get him back (and keep him for good).
Hi! Thank you for reply. Few days ago we had short conversation,he said again that he cant effort marriage and etc. I asked him directly without any rudeness,did you found someone else? He said ” no, I dont have GF and i dont want. Then I asked him I am not yours anymore? And he said ” I dont know its complicated and dont want discuss this topic again” He always do it, keep silence and when Im asking broke up or what?? He always cant tell exactly, sometimes I even think better if he will tell me YES we broke up, I will suffer but anyway I will let go to everything and will try to focus on my life, but I will never break up with him first, and its not about I can or cant, its because I will regret then all my life, dont want remorse later. I dont understand his logic, I know he has money issues now and job not good, but also his silence and ignoring annoying me! And when Im asking does he want to break up and I will not bother him , he just replying dont know …
If you’re wearing your cutest outfit and you’ve been working out and you look amazing and you have an awesome tan and you’re having a perfect hair day and you’re in a bad mood and have a bad vibe… that’s the only thing he’s going to remember.
This tactic may be a little harder to implement because it can sometimes depend on the situation that your ex is currently in. Basically you are going to bring up a stressful event very gently and show that you are going to be supportive no matter what with NO STRINGS ATTACHED. This has to be completely genuine otherwise you are better off not saying anything at all.
Ok, so me and my ex were together for three months. He is 16 and I am 19. We are both guys. So basically we had an huge fight during New Year’s eve and broke up for two days. We decided to then to get back and try again, and then he decided that we would be better as just “friends” later on that weekend… He broke up with me because he didn’t want to cut talking with a boy he met (and kissed) during New Year’s eve… During the first the days after the break up he was acting like nothing happened or whatsover till I decided to use the whole “no contact” thing to him and then he asked to me go pick up my stuff on his house next week… So what should I do, is the any chance at all anymore or not.
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In any relationship, you always have to be able to show that you know what you want. Do you have a vision for the future? If so, be clear and honest about it at all times. Let everything unfold as naturally as possible, but stand your ground when voicing what you would like to see the two of you doing in the future.
Eventually i independently realised i needed to be happy with myself and not be independent on others for happiness, and now 4 months after the break up (after a month of no contact, which she even wasnt on my mind during) i have practically matured in the understanding of what makes me happy and consequently making changes (appearance, interests, friend choices, everyday life really) but she is always eventually on my mind again, not in a desperately missing way or i love her way, but more like a romance and companionship based nostalgia.
Unfortunately, this never works. In fact, most of the time, any attempts to talk with your ex after the breakup will harm your chances and drive him or her even further away. Begging, pleading, apologizing, bribing… It is absolutely awful because all it does is re-enforce that image in the back of your ex’s mind – the one that makes them think of you in a negative light, as someone whom they wouldn’t be their romantic partner and isn’t what they want in a boyfriend or girlfriend.
Before you meet with your ex, you should figure out exactly what you’ll want to talk about with him. A meeting like this can be an emotional experience, and it’s easy to get sidetracked. Planning what you’re going to discuss can make a world of difference.
I appreciate you sharing your story with me. Getting back with an ex after years apart can be tricky, especially if he has a child. However, the most crucial next step is going to be HOW to reach out. The initial contact must not involve any verbiage regarding the past or the breakup, and must be non-threatening. If you need help with this process, we can tailor the next few contacts together.
Sometimes after a breakup, you realize you still have feelings for your ex and want to be with them again. Asking your ex to get back together can be scary, but if you take your time and learn from the past, there’s a chance they’ll say yes.
I keep thinking what if I got a work visa and found a job for the summer after university ends for me- in his new city. would he consider trying again? I’m guessing this is a very bad idea as I would be inviting myself and this might look crazy to chase him. Should I just move on for now enjoy my summer and contact him near the end of it?