There are certain techniques to get him back again and you will learn them here. When someone tells you that you can use tricks to get him back you can often assume the worst. Of course no relationship should be built on deception and you should not have to trick someone to want to be with you. What I am talking about here are psychological tricks that we are unaware of. If you understand the way that the male psyche operates you will be able to change your behaviour in a positive way to make him more attracted to you.
Hey so I was with my girlfriend/ fiance for 6 years, and i knew her for 8 years. We had our problems about being faithful after I cheated and then she did the same, but we were teens then and made sure I would never do that again. However I became insecure after she cheated and became verbally aggressive and controlling and eventually she broke up with me because I caught her talking to another guy. My worst fear. Now their relationship isn’t sexually at the point i found out but I still panick and began to beg and cry. the same day we broke up we had sex and said we would remain friends. Then we went like 4 days or so without speaking each other, I tried to get her back by being confident, like day six or seven. It didnt go well. It was suppose to be friends outing but I called it a date in front of her. Then I tried to have sex with her and she said no. Then I told her that I love her. Now I wondering if I start NC that I can healed up and eventually become a guy who she could re-attract her, or is it too late.
Have you broken up several years ago but still wondering if it is possible to get back with that ex? Many times relationships don’t end up working out but circumstances can change. Other times you just mature or are faced with certain life lessons that push you to understand mistakes that you may have committed in the past. You are left wanting a second chance because you firmly believe that your ex may be the one or simply because you strongly believe that you can both be really happy together.
It’s been a little over three months since my ex and I broke up. I’ve completed no contact and given my ex space, a task someone difficult because we work together. I never begged or been pushy did the right moves based on advice given on here and other places. She’s still will barely talk to me and will barely reply to text messages. Typically she’ll reply to the initial message, but getting a second reply doesn’t happen much. Back in September I purchased a Christmas gift for her and even though we broke up I still sent it to her on Friday. She replied thank you for the gift. You didn’t need to. Merry Christmas! Attached to the gift was a clean slate letter. She made no mention of it. I told her she was welcome for the gift. I asked her if she was going to be up for talking soon to clear the air. She never replied back. She isn’t seeing anyone, nor did we have a bad breakup. Since the breakup I have found out that she is mad at me about something I said but I don’t know what I said or who I said it to and she won’t tell me. We’ve had some positive interactions as of late at work, but she’s got a wall so high up now. Where do I go from here? Three months, no contact completed, clean slate letter given, space given, showed activity on social media sites as well and not much recoconcilation has occurred. What can I do? Or is it time to accept the fact that I’m not going to get her back?
Now that you have your ex girlfriend back, all you have to do is keep working on the relationship and making it stronger. You need to work on developing a deep connection with her so she never even thinks about leaving you.
I need help! My boyfriend and I just broke up 4 days ago and we were together for 4 months but I’ve known him since we were in 6th grade (I’m a freshman now) and since then, he has liked me. So, a month ago I found out that he liked my best friend and I broke up with him. A week later, we started dating again. The problem is that I’m bipolar and I get jealous really easy, especially when he’s around the girls that he use to like. When we started dating again, we decided to be honest to each other no matter how bad it was and I did my job, from the beginning of our relationship, I told him I still had little feelings for my ex but it didn’t matter because he goes to another school. We promised each other that I wasn’t going to text my ex anymore and he wasn’t going to talk to my friend or even get near her. 4 days ago, my best friend and other 2 girls were in a group and I guess he was waiting for his friend but I didn’t care, I wanted him away from her. I told him to move and he kept saying he was waiting for his friend. I started counting till 5 and I turned around and left. He followed me but I ignored him. I knew that if I talked to him, I was going to break up with him and I didn’t want that, so I left. I texted him 30 minutes later explaining why I was mad and why I ignored him, I even apologized and all I got was “…. I dunno…” At that moment, I knew it was over. I begged him not to break up but he wouldn’t take me back. The next day I talked to him, I had to. I told him that… I might be pregnant. I told my mom and she was not okay, I lost all her trust. He also told his mom and she said if I was pregnant, she was going to support him but since I’m not, she doesn’t want us back together. I know he still loves me but I don’t know what to do anymore. Today I found out that he started talking to his ex, so I did the same. This is really affecting me. I did not go to one of my classes today because he has the same class, I also left school early because I couldn’t take the pain anymore. I feel like this is slowly killing me. I feel like I need him! :'( Can someone help me?
You let your ex walk all over you. You become a doormat. You agree to the most ridiculous demands your ex has. But your instincts tell you, it’s OK. Because having your ex in your life is the only thing that matters.
This guide covered the basics, but to have a full understanding of what you should do, you should read the full four steps in the How She Wins Him Back eBook. It’s available free of charge and goes over every one of the above steps in detail, ensuring that you have the best chance of success.
So let go of over-thinking about the other. That’s part of what doesn’t work in relationships. Responsive is fine, Trying to guess all the time what the other person thinks or will do, that’s disaster.
I think you do have a good enough reason. You already have the right attitude on how to approach this. Take things slowly, and have patience. Things are probably going to work out for you. All the best.
If that’s you, you need to understand that your priority during no contact is to heal and become a better version of yourself. If you try to play this game of social media jealousy with her, you will lose.
The point isn’t just that you get your ex back, but that you KEEP him. Often folks just have sex again, once or twice, but things don’t work out and they end up breaking up again. So don’t take anything for granted. Make sure he has the best night of his life when you make up, but after that don’t drop into your “old” relationship with your ex, instead – create something new.
You guys weren’t together for a long time so him moving on would be dependent on how meaningful the 2 months were. Typically someone blocking you would be his way of wanting to avoid you, and this could because you were acting needy by trying to change his mind. Continue with NC but spend this time to work on your issues, and at the end of it, if he has unblocked you, you could try initiating contact to see where he stands. Bear in mind that there is a small likelihood he has moved on already due to the length of the relationship, and may have blocked you as a way of ‘indicating’ those feelings.
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(You want to give them something to chew on. They will be thinking about what’s happening in your life and will want to call or text you to talk about it. You are using curiosity to get your ex contact you. Of course, something must be happening in your life. That’s why creating a positive change in your life is absolutely important before contacting your ex.)
If you dig deeper, you will find many things that make you uncomfortable with your ex. However, you keep on ignoring them thinking it wasn’t worth getting into an argument over. By ignoring these small things, you have allowed them to become a full-blown breakup.
Accept the break up and move on. If none of the steps above have worked for you, and/or if you have assessed the situation and decided it is not healthy or wise to continue trying to get your ex back, be sure that you take time for yourself emotionally to recover from your broken heart.
big problem here. my ex and I have been broken up for about 2 years. HOWEVER none of his relationships have progressed into anything and have always ended horribly. we have maintained contact since but I was the one who first initiated no contact and he always broke it. I sent him an apology letter in the mail and he and I eventually got back together after our neighbor had a talk with him. my ex suffers from “lone wolf syndrome”. he hates any kind of attachment, is extremely stubborn and doesn’t like anyone telling him what to do. one common thread is he always comes to me when his relationships fizzle out. I have no idea why because I have always maintained that I agree with being friends with him (since we broke up he insists he just wants to be friends but I HATE IT) and I strive to be the best one he has. I try to build him up and make him feel like he’s doing the right thing with his life (when he gets down) and he has been helping me out too. even this past memorial day we had a REALLY good time with my friends (I introduced them to him because he had been feeling down). but recently he’s fallen back into his shell because of some really stressful things going on in his life. I had texted him to see if he had wanted to come over and hang out to get away from it and he didn’t text me at all. TWO WEEKS passed and I barely heard anything from him other than seeing he had been online. so I texted him saying I felt hurt and neglected and he responded with “I’m sorry you feel that way, I just want to be friends” now I can’t stop thinking about what he said and I want to get OUT of the dreaded friendzone and get back to being his girlfriend. advice please! thank you :)…
If you have ever heard the old saying that if you love someone set them free, you will probably know that there is a lot of truth to it. Most men love to divide and conquer. With that being said, don’t make it too easy for him to come back. However, before you get to this stage, you need to first build interest on his part in wanting to get back together with you.
Get to know one another. Especially if it has been a while since you were together, you and your ex have both changed as individuals in that time. Don’t assume you know everything about him or her. Take time to get to know one another again.
Hello guys this is testimony that this NC stuff absolutely works! Ryan you guys are geniuses dude. I got my girl back! I didn’t think it was working at first and I panicked a lot during the whole NC process. She even started messing with her ex and one other person. So my advice if you really know and want your ex back then keep pushing everyone! it works with time. also focus on yourself. This website is very helpful. Now to Ryan.. thanks dude again. I do have one last thing I need your help with. I realized that she clearly didn’t respect me or our relationship before because she was able to so easily start messing around with someone we both know and someone I didn’t like. Yes we are together now and things have been great! My question is, how do I get her to respect me more? she has not done anything to disrespect me since we got back together , however I want to know how to build strong respect from her, so that she is loyal to me no matter what? if she had respect, she would have been loyal and not cross the line with other folks while we were broken up.
We talked about me going at their house to personally confront his whole family and ofcourse to apologize for what I did. That is the best thing that I can think of to show him/them how sorry I am for what I did. He also told me that I have all the courage to beat him up, but I don’t even have the guts to face his family on what I did. I told him, since I wanted to take full responsibility of my action, even though Im so scared to death in facing his family, I will do it just to show him how sorry I am. I also told him that once I told his family everything, that will be the last time that Ill show my face to him and his family, and even though we still want to fix things up, it will be impossible already once I told them everything. So its like, it’s the last string for both of us. We had this conversation 2 days ago, and everyday I keep on asking him what time I can go there to talk to his family. And I didn’t receive any reply since.
Hi there I’ve been apart from my ex for 15 years now. We had a fiery relationship. She was feisty and I loved her deeply. She hurt me by splitting from me and then having a one night stand when we broke up. We got back together and she told me about it. I was very angry. She had a daughter who didn’t like me and there was a big fallout over her daughter on holiday. We ended our relationship and both of us were very hurt. Years have gone on and I still love her. I sent her a couple of messages on social media and she responded a little but I get a sense she may be with someone else. I know we both deeply care for each other. What is your advice?
A few days afterwards, we spoke on the phone for two hours and had a great conversation. We talked for two hours, one about the relationship and what happened, and the other just general talking, laughing, and having fun. A day or two after that, I told her I had a date, to which she got kind of upset but tried to brush it off by acting “happy” even though I heard her cry on the phone. The date ended up being cancelled, but I feel like that might’ve been a step backwards.
Thank you for reaching out to me and congrats on doing so much leg work already with this situation. I know it can be really tricky! In order for me to help, I’d like to learn some more things, and so I invite you to book a session with me.
At the start, it might be better to avoid him so that you don’t have to deal with the negative emotions. Continue with no contact and even if you do see him, you could acknowledge him, but do not engage in small talk for the time being.
He broke up with me over a month ago and i am still upset. I know he is not seeing anyone else and he knows i’m not either. When we broke up he told me he wants to be happy (he’s very depressed). He told me that he loves me way more than i love him and it’s just difficult to deal with that because i think that 2 people who love each other should be with together. we have been texting and it’s either very short or very long and we also have our location on for each other. we were together for almost 15 months and i see a future with him and he is fully aware that i would do anything to have him back. i want to see him so badly but i don’t think he wants to see me. He’s going through a lot of stuff like depression and he gets lost in his thoughts and this caused him to think i was cheating or lying to him or that i didn’t love him. I think cheating is disgusting and i’d never lie to him. He also can’t get over certain things…. such as him not being my first sexual partner which bothers me because i am a year older than him and it just bothers me that he doesn’t understand. all i want is for him to be happy but i also want him to be happy with me and i am so stuck. i asked him if he would ever come back and he said he doesn’t know. everyone keeps telling me to focus on myself and i can’t because i’m only focused on him and i really have hopes that we will get back together.
Luckily for our readers, I can share the four steps right here in this article. But keep in mind. You may have a ways to go before he shows back up at your door. These four steps work, but they may not be quick. I’m not promising your ex is going to show up on your door step tomorrow, begging for you to let him back into your life.
You split for a reason…even if it’s hazy now. But you and your ex-ex need to face what went wrong the first time if you’re going to move forward, says couples therapist Robert Buchicchio, author of Taking Space, and then let it go, once and for all. Try hashing out the bigger points of what you want to do differently this time in a way that isn’t threatening, like “It would make me happy if…” and have him do the same.
I talked to her over the phone for over two hours last night and she persistently and very surely said she no longer have any feelings for me and she doesn’t have to think about it anymore. Her tone very so cold and rock-solid.
Most Christian guys get really spiritual when their wives leave them, but in my experience, only 30% stay earnest with God after the crisis has passed. That is because they are desperate and are ready to do whatever it takes to get back what they have lost. Unfortunately, such guys are as crippled by self-centeredness as their wife believed them to be. The same selfishness that alienated their wife in the first place will make their zeal for God fade away when their wife returns and the crisis is over. [otp_overlay]