Should I try an wrk it out in the future? When I left the 1st time. I never contacted him. He did it all. The 2nd time. Ya, I did for 9mos cause he was such an ass an I was pregnant. Hormonal!! This time, Im different. Confused. Conflicted. He needs help. I was a very troubled kid/teen/young adult.. but Ive prevailed. I did it alone an not by choice. No one thought I could. He needs help.. BAD.. HELP!!
So here’s my situation. I’ve had a relationship for the past 3.5 years. For a long time prior to those years she had a huge crush on me, but i never really did anything with it. Even still we got together. During the relationship i never really felt i was truly in love with her, at least i thought so. But i also need to mention that i was smoking weed on a daily basis. (She hated that) Which resulted in me not to be able to express my feelings in the right way, or even to be having’ feelings. During this time i was unemployed and living in her house pretty much rent-free, and even still she was the sweetest girl in the world for me. (make’s me sick to my stomach even thinking about that now) I was a really selfish guy over the years, never surprised her or anything like that and have been taking’ her for granted During the entire relationship. Never really considered her feelings. (Again, sick to my stomach) So due to text messages she started building a emotionally relationship with some guy she met a bar way back before our relationship. Can’t really blame her for that giving the fact i was emotionally unavailable due to smoking weed. It always stayed with text messaging she claims and i believe her. This lasted from May to August. I forgave her. Last September we’ve been on holiday together, for here it was a sort of last attempt to save our relationship. Which i didn’t knew at the time. So i continued in my own selfish ways, and continued smoking weed. She was slipping right from under my nose and i didn’t even noticed. After the holiday we’ve stayed together until November 10th which is when she dumped me. Again, cant blame her, thinking back i am surprised she even last this long with me. Since then i have stopped smoking weed, cant even stand the smell of it, got a job, and starting to express my emotions again. Needless to say that i want her back, in fact i feel like im in love with her. She says its to late, that she really would want it but that her feelings for me has changed. However, she does keep contacting me, even send some nudes and stuff like that but still don’t want te be in a relationship anymore. Also does she really badly wants to stay friends and gets really upset if i suggest to brake contact, just because i cant handle this form of contact we are having right now, simply because i want her back so badly. Do think NC will do the trick? I’ve been trying it 2 times already but never got past 2/3 days as she keeps calling/texting me and i feel bad for her and cave. And its hard for me as well of course. Sorry for my English, im from Europe.
3rd Step: Collect all physical objects like Teddy Bear, Gift set, necklace, bangles etc and put them into a box. Put box somewhere in your home where you don’t go often or place that is difficult to reach without someone help.
You should get into your life once again if you want to learn how to get your ex back. Your body is full of negative feelings and these feelings don’t let you to work on getting your ex back. These feelings are making you sad and this is only hurting your chances. In this situation the best thing you can do is take some vacation. New environment and new people will distract you from negative feelings and you will recover quickly. Spend some out-of-city or out-of-country vacation with your family and friends to enjoy your life.
“I’m told that there are two people who have created this negative dynamic, and yet I feel like the only person being punished here. I’m locked out of my own house, living in a small lousy room away from my things, my comforts, my bed, and my wife, the only person who means anything to me in Denver. I am living like a gypsy …
There is no doubt I put expectations on the relationship and when her behaviors didn’t match up, I over analyzed and thought things were going south. I broke it off, as I was scared to keep falling for her.
Don’t worry if this all sounds confusing. While it does require a good sense of creativity and strategy, there is an easy shortcut you can use. For now though, just think of it like fishing…use the right bait and you can easily pull your ex back into your life.
This is when I felt like I really met Mary. I wasn’t angry, I wasn’t jealous, and I wasn’t distracted—I had a clear mind, and I loved her. She was the kind of girl I’d always call back, and always take out for dates, and always hold hands with. She’s the kind of girl I never want to be away from. I’d seen what life looked like without Mary (cue damp Jimmy Stewart shouting “Mahhhhrrrrrryyyyy, don’t you remember me Mary?” in It’s a Wonderful Life), and I had a new appreciation for her. I loved the person she had turned into: She had built a life for herself in New York and was the person I know she always wanted to be—she grew her bangs out, too, which I guess is a big thing for women?
We have since been not talking and from watching your videos I have learned that I should keep contact at a minimum, focus on fixing the problems that caused us to break up and show her later on that I have changed and could make her happy.
If he really loves you he will not find anyone.. don’t worry he will have more clarity by NC.. i have 1 more week for NC.. thinking that he will find someone = Lack of self confidence.. I lost my self confidence but now little by little im gaining it back.. Be strong don’t answer his call or text don’t reply.. Pray harder
Many women will, unfortunately, experience how excruciatingly painful it can be when you’re still in love with a guy after your relationship has come to an end. There can be a lot of insecurities that can come over you, and the last thing that you want to do is let these feelings win.
These 4-steps can also be thought of as are the missing ingredients that cause men to either go “all in” with you. And without the BIG FOUR, men are wishy-washy. Either they go off and try to find another woman. Or they ghost you… not texting you back or calling you back for weeks or even months!
After relationship breakup you are not in best condition to contact your ex. Therefore, it is better to stop contacting your ex in all ways. Don’t message her on Facebook. Just cut off all ways to communicate her. Instead of wasting your time in finding about her you should invest your time in learning about how to get your ex back.
So instead of writing I want my ex back and to be happy, write down I am back with my ex and have proved that I can make him or her happy. Stick this note on your bathroom mirror and read out loud 5 times in the morning and at night for a period of at least 21 days.
i have sent a letter to her talking of how i miss her and would like to go on a date again see if there is anything there but i havent heard anything back from her she is single i know that i am thinging of leaving it a few weeks and senting some flowers saying please could we go on a date and see if we get on again i dont want to push it i know it i wouldnt have a chance of getting her back then.
It would do you better to walk away from this since he has already prioritized another female over you and has even expressed his disinterest, which might have been caused by the loss of spark or interest after so many years.
My boyfriend and I got into a fight. He got arrested and charged. I understand that he’s very upset about that. I’m upset about it too. He moved some of his stuff out and staying at his mom’s house. He has depression really bad and now his even more depressed. I didn’t want him home until I knew it was safe for him to come home. We both said we are together but just taking a breather. He is so depressed that he quit his job, drinking and being neglectful. We will text great one day and talked about our issues. Everything seems great then the next day nothing. I picked him up one night he was shaking and have lost a lot of weight (it’s only been 2 weeks). We had a great night. The next more he got upset thinking that my kids didn’t want him around they are happy without him. My kids are really confused right now. I got him to eat and shower ect. Took him back to his mom ( not wanting to). We texted and I admit to my faults and mean it. He said he forgives me bit I broke him for what I said when I was angry and I said the same to him. But deep down I knew he was only mad but longer he stays away I’m starting to believe what he says. Now the next day no answer.. I know he has low self esteem issues and depression. He won’t take his name of the lease agreement and tells me he’s coming back. I’m starting to believe he’s playing games even though he’s not the type but being around his family he might have changed.. How long should I wait before shutting his phone off and car insurance. I’m not sure if he wants to be together or not. HELP PLEASE!!!
It is essential that you talk about experiences that your ex enjoyed. A lot of people screw up because they only talk about stuff that they miss. Make sure you are talking about stuff that your ex misses as well. Here is a good example of how this should be done.