You need to make him feel terrible for breaking up with you. He should feel like a dumbass for letting you go. That’s what you need to make him feel like if you want to get him back. You won’t get him back by spying and stalking him (stop checking his Facebook every 2 minutes), but by making him remember all the great times you had together, and making him imagine how nicer life could be if you were still together.
Once you finish writing, now you should find a private and quiet place where no one can disturb you. Start reading each reason one by one and feel each emotion that comes to you. Don’t feel ashamed by reading these reasons. These are the reasons that making you angry and this doesn’t make you a bad person.
Create boundaries at home and limit the time spent there while she is around. Perhaps go out more, and even if you are at home, sleep in different rooms and engage in as little small talk as possible. You could use this article to provide you with more tips on what you can do while she’s still around.
Sometimes after a breakup, you realize you still have feelings for your ex and want to be with them again. Asking your ex to get back together can be scary, but if you take your time and learn from the past, there’s a chance they’ll say yes.
Everyone knows that reverse psychology essentially involves trying to get someone to do something by suggesting they do the opposite. For example, if I was to ask you to stop reading this article right now and not another sentence …what would you do?
What has happened here is that by creating a diversion, the main point (i.e. that your exes frenemy smiled when they heard about the breakup) will bypass your exes conscious filters and go straight to their subconscious mind. The subconscious mind will pick up on the point that this frenemy is happy at the expense of the failed relationship …motivating it to look for ways on how to remedy this. This helps create fertile ground to begin the process of getting your ex back and making them fall in love with you which I outline in full in my book.
I talked on the phone to her last night, and she said this me we cant be together, you don’t handle situations well, and at times I am like a child. And that she has chosen the new guy, as he was excused to break up with me, then move into it as or just after we break up. She also said to me that why keep trying and pulling back to you, can you give up.
Another factor to consider is…was there financial trouble, which tore you apart? If so, you can possibly figure out a way to solve this. It really depends on the specific situation if you are willing to compromise and make changes.
For example, even if your relationship with your ex was abusive, you might want to rekindle it just because you are missing them. Our mind often confuses the act of missing someone with “love”. It’s normal to miss someone after you’ve been with them for a long time. But it doesn’t necessarily mean you still love them.
There are the ones who are fully past tense, the ones that we know weren’t right and who we wouldn’t bonk again even if they were the last person on earth. Then there are the others, the ones who we lost to circumstance, the ones who got tired of our crap. The ones who got away.
Don’t worry if this all sounds confusing. While it does require a good sense of creativity and strategy, there is an easy shortcut you can use. For now though, just think of it like fishing…use the right bait and you can easily pull your ex back into your life.
Every relationship is unique, so it may take several weeks for you and your ex-partner to reconnect or it may take several months. Gauge your ex-partner’s comfort level by gently suggesting meeting up in person for a coffee or a drink after a period of talking back and forth via text, email, or phone. Choose a place that you know will be comfortable for your ex-partner, preferably a public place, and be accommodating to your ex-partner’s schedule when choosing the meeting time. It’s important that your ex-partner feel that you are willing to meet them on their terms, as this will demonstrate respect and care for their needs.