Need help please!! My ex and I have been dating for almost 3 months but it got very serious and things moved quite fast. We met online and it’s been long distance. He is currently living in Europe for his basketball season which is ending soon and I live in Vancouver, BC. We flew down to see each other over a month ago in his hometown of Toronto. We spent a weekend together and it was so great. I even met his family. Our relationship has been so great and we told me he has told me many times that he never felt this way before and has never had someone understand him so well because he has had major issues with his mom growing up and I can relate in so many ways and he once told me that means more to him than anything. We are even exactly the same mixed race which is a rare mix and we always thought that was so cool. He has shared things to me he hasn’t with others. We have even hinted marriage to each other. He has always said he has never met someone so similiar, and it’s true. We’re like the same person. This relationship was so special. We were in love. He is a major relationship guy. He is moving back to his hometown this month and I was originally moving there at the same time for my job. So we had so many plans for when we’ll be together. This past weekend I went to another city with a girlfriend of mine and posted a snapchat that ended everything. I did not cheat but it made it seem like I did. He called me as soon as he saw it and was yelling and was so extremely upset with me. He told me it was over. He blocked me everywhere on social media instantly. He then unblocked me on whatsapp a few hours later and the next day he told me to call him. I couldn’t really talk because I was at work so I did not get to say everything I wanted to. He told me I disrespected him and said he can never trust me again and there is no chance of us getting back together. He was really angry and I know he is reacting right now. This was 2 days ago. I am completely heartbroken. I am still blocked on facebook, instagram, and snapchat but I am no longer blocked on Whatsapp which has always been our main point of communication. I feel like that’s a good sign because he hasn’t cut off ALL communication so maybe there is a chance in the future. I wished him a Happy Birthday yesterday but he did not respond. I know he is so hurt and angry right now so maybe he is just acting on his emotions and needs time. Should I try the No Contact rule? I want to send him one more message just to say everything I wanted to and let everything off my chest and just tell him I truly love him. I will also say this is the last I’m contacting you but just wanted to say a few things before I move on. It will be a positive text. Just so he knows. I just want him back ? What should I do?
Take your time, do things you love. Connect with other people who will support you and help you get through it, know that it’s normal to miss people who are no longer in your life. Talk to someone about it, talk to your ex about it if it’s necessary. Don’t blame yourself for whatever happened in the past, and maybe love yourself before you love others.
That’s the thing about men; they don’t like to feel as though they are so easy to get over. And if you are willing to sit across a table from him with nothing but the friendliest of intentions, he is going to feel suddenly driven to get you back.
I am afraid he completely lost his faith in it which is not a wonder if I think about it. Even I am happier without that relationship because that was a constant fight between my heart and mind. What I would like to do: start a completely new thing with him because I think we might match naturally, only I protected myself against love all along. But I am aware that human beings are not guniea pigs so it might be late. I just wanna get the highest chance to start it again if possible at all. I hurt him so many times and we had 3 breakups during 3 months. So it is almost hopeless to base a new start on good memories.
This may put pressure on you and make you feel self-conscious, and it should. The fact is, you conquer a man’s heart by conquering what’s in his pants, like no other woman ever could. Everything after that is easier. Yet again, this night needs to be different than in the past. It should not remind you too much of the time you were together before, it needs to be better.
He broke up with me a week ago over the phone. We were together for 7 months and had a deep connection. I have not contacted him since. Yesterday I received a text from him explaining why he did it and apology. Pretty much he is not over his divorce, has health issues, dealing with work problems, trying to work on a relationship with his kids and now is not a good time and not fair to me to continue the relationship. Should I respond or keep no contact for 30 days? Or should I acknowledge the text and respond?
I met a guy whilst on holiday in Egypt. He seemed really lovely and we saw each other every day and eventually went to his flat ad stayed there at night with him so we were spending 24 hours a day together. Hr said he loves me and wants to marry me I didn’t take it too serious but then I found I had called for him. On my last day he gave me his number and Facebook. When I got back to England I looked at his Facebook it was all women tourists which he has commented on their wall my love habibi and sending hearts to them. The two profiles I could see were a year ago these comments were made but I would not have gone there at all of I had of seen this to start with. He also had one for Arab friends. I went to finish it because I am 43 and he is 26 and I can’t be doing with the drama of Facebook. He never added me but said he would delete his facebooks it took him a couple of weeks but he did it. I said messenger as well because of all these women he had contact with. He said he would and he did. We have spoken everyday and night then hr started no messaging me at night his cousin told me he takes women out shopping at night for money so when he wasn’t messaging me he was doing that and he was saying no women. I made a fake profile of a woman who was gorgeous and he added her on messenger before he deleted it.It came to a massive argument he said I was jealous etc and he said he wanted to finish it. I did a terrible thing and emailed his work and told them he was taking women outside the hotel (they aren’t supposed to) and he got fired. When I got a response from the hotel they said this isn’t the first or last time it will happen that’s why he got fired. We still were speaker he was still telling me he loved me and messaging me but he was sad about loosing his job and I feel so guilty I just got sick of the lies (if they are lies) I was to meet his family and then we were planning to get married. I forgave him for all that because I know I can be jealous. I don’t know if it because I wouldn’t act like this when I have a boyfriend. Anyway a week ago he sent me a message saying I will need forgive you for loosing my job no work etc. Although I had sent money equilvilent to his monthly salary that he lost and said I would do it every month till he gets a job because his family rely on HIM for money. We had a n arguement he blocked me off wats app downloaded messenger again. I downloaded viber a day later and said I loved him he said he loved me and missed me and hr wasnt going to delete messenger although he says he wants this to speak to his family he has gone to see his family so I wander is he speaking to the women he had on Facebook? He hadn’t initially told his mom about me sending and email to his work bit has now told her she says I am bad and he isn’t to marry me he said loves me still I said I will leave him till he has got rid off messenger. He said OK I love you and that was three days ago. I read this article and feel better but I do miss him but do wander is it worth all the bother with this silly apps x
For example, a boy comes to you in a bar and offers you to buy a drink. What will be your response? Most probably you would not value his friendship that much because you didn’t work for it. You may though of saying ‘YES’ to him but very next moment after buying drink you wouldn’t be giving any attention to him. Why? This is because you didn’t work for it.
He did send me 2 happy birthday messages on the 2nd day to which I ignored both and he hasnt reached out again to me since then. I’m really afraid he’s never going to contact me again. How long should I wait until he calls me?
Having an “emotional flu” helps you get it all out, fast, says Sandra Ann Miller, co-author of A Sassy Little Guide to Getting Over Him. So sob, scream, listen to “Someone Like You” on infinite repeat, whatever you want. Just give yourself a time limit so you don’t wallow forever.
If you’re a homebody, try being more outdoorsy. The sun and beautiful weather and landscape are really good to restore your mood. It’s so much better than languishing in your sorrow at home watching endless TV and binging on calorie-dense snacks.
Given the circumstances, even if he moves on and dates someone else, he would not be happy and the same issues would occur. If he is genuinely depressed that it’s affecting his happiness and daily life, you should strongly recommend he seeks help and go through therapy to recover as ‘being there’ alone would not be enough.
As he is only 16, it could be very likely that he is still exploring his options which was why he did not want to stop talking to the new guy. There is a chance he still has feelings for you but isn’t sure, but you should be mentally prepared to walk away because he might not be emotionally mature enough to be seriously invested in the people he chooses to date.
Reason #3 – Increases Your Value: How many times you have heard people start giving value to things once they are gone. Similarly, your ex boyfriend will understand your value once he misses you. You have to reach that value and then your boyfriend will come to know how valuable you are in his life.
Your situation sounds fairly close to mine, except my ex is not dating anyone but I know he is talking to other girls. We broke up about 3 weeks ago. I would really love to know where you & your ex stand now & if you both are in a good place (which I hope you are). If so, would you mind telling me the steps you took?
Let’s just start with,I was dating a ex and we moved together, I always wanted to move smewere else so I did,we worked together n all.but it got rocky n ugly.his bbymama was a mess starter n so we broke up very.i hurted n was going thru a break up.I came across this gentlemen.. He was full of life,outgoing,working hard,n has a son.we got to talking gettn to know each others,I let him know I had not long got out a relationship n to take it slow,not fast.he understand he said so we just remained friends..he got me a valentines day gift,n I got him one.u know just smethng to smile about than bn sad from a breakup.alil of 2 weeks I met him in person n it was very nice.we talked in the car.he said I was everything he imagined,but he could see my smile was hidden my pain n hurt n in my eyes.I teared up.so on we texted,he sent prayer photos n texted every morning when he went to work n off checking on me n talking to me.I met his family which was nice n his mom.I think I made a mistake there.but it too my mind off the pain n hurt.soon I found myself spending time with him,he wiped my tears n all held me so much..I could do nun but thank him for all that.he took my mind off his depressing a break it was with my ex to someone who cares.but like I told him I didn’t wanna rush..on a few months I felt like I needed to get myself a Lil distance to see how far he would go for me,cause I bn thru relationships that bn a lie n I’m a caring n effort woman.always smiling n liftn people up.so I bk off some form him.it got Lil ugly.his jib laid him off to workn a day out week cause of no wood from sawmill.he just was drinking away more,but he kept reaching out to me begging me.wishing we could start over fresh n everything. I didn’t leave him,I just stepped away for a moment.I know I hurt him tho,he said I did cause he was ready to love me n so focus on making me happy n I wasn’t ready. I felt so bad.but later we started back talking but wasn’t the same as first,no txts in morning r nun that.he was down as well frm no money cause he wasn’t working the hrs much,n child support was taking him n his bbymama was giving him hell.she was so jealous of him having a girlfriend she stopped him from seeing his son so it too on him too.she did childish things on fb tryn get me to accept a request but I never did.he has her blocked he can’t stand her since she hit him with a frying pan on top his head n cut his skull open.that was way before my Time.so thru on I was there for him helpn him while he wasn’t working n I can say I admire the man he is cause he love to work for his own,not ask for no help, but I did.he came to my house plenty times activited with my 2 sons as well they got to know him some.I met his son as well which is 1 yes old.after SME weeks he text me told me he didn’t want b with me,which was a lie,but I didn’t say anything out the way I told him I accept his wishes n we stopped txtn n convo.its bn it was 2 in half months now, our birthdays was in September I did wish him happy bday,I was under surgery in sept had vowel blockage n cancer.I go under chemo some now but I done came along way.but All thru those months its bn a blessing.so on in weeks off sept Oct n some of Nov lol he bn asking his family mostly his cousin have she heard from me,n have I said anything bout him.lol he talks to her all the time cause him n his brother n her talk about everything. She told me he asks n she told him it has nothing do with him if she did talk to me.she stalls him good cause his family likes me n they hate we split up cause his pride n ways he had.but she said she told him text r call me.his rely u know that grl don’t want to talk to me..lol she says u never know u had a good woman n she say she walked off,n he looks askn fareal she ain’t mention me lol this was a few weeks ago at a gathering for his brother birthday party.also a convo between him n guys at her house she told me he was talking abt me,they were outside having a discussion on women n she was doing her curtains n they were sitting under her car port but her walls thin,u can here everything said she wasn’t bn noisy but she heard him talkn of me.n later one the guys came in her house n said ur cousin was really in love with me,n he told him just to own up to his mistakes cause we all do.that was last month.we haven’t bn talkn r communicating at all.but just Friday night I got a inbox text from his brother inbox.it was hilarious, I thought it was his brother,cause it was from his page inbox n asked was I’m in his town,n he seen me over his aunty house.I text said i do brothers n he should b ashamed cause he got a woman he with.and I’m done in boxing,so he tct back said holla at you later u getting ghost.few mins later he text my phone from his number asking me were I’m at.I new it was him on his brother phone cause he blocks me from his page.he used the inbox as excuse to see will I reply.so finally he text me after few months.even text me pass Saturday to.say he working on his self n don’t want to hurt anybody.I told him I respect it like I did before. I just don’t know if he really into me like that but then I thank he is just scared he b hurt again r something.he didn’t want his family in our bidnes say they noisey n he didn’t want me really around some of them,must b a conflict with SME if them.can u give SME advice? I’m not rushing nothing I’m just tryn get myself healthy n recovery but I do miss him but he don’t need know that from txtn cause he reached out to me lol I never text him first n it was 2 months we stopped all communication. I think it’s worth saving.plze give me feed bk