Yet another example of the man in the relationship not taking the lead, and perhaps even behaving submissively. Nowhere is the male dominance/ female submissiveness dynamic more important than in the bedroom. Bucket loads of attraction gets lost this way.

Hey, Ryan. I was with my ex for almost three years. She broke it off five months ago. I was in a bad place at the time and was causing a lot of unnecessary discussions. I took care of my problems and I’ve been working on myself a lot since. I insisted on getting back together for the first two months, which didn’t work. We have kept in touch this time, but not in a flirty way. Plus she hasn’t agreed to go out with me. We saw each other twice on October, but she has declined to see me since. I tried no contact back in November and after 12 days she texted saying she missed her best friend (me). I started conversations and she said she was working on stuff of her own, but then started kind of ignoring me. For a while, I wished she would just shut the door on us so I could move on, and the fact that she refuses to do that makes me believe she still sees us together, though I don’t want to be seen like an option and that I’ll just run right back whenever she wants. I sent her flowers for Christmas, for which she thanked me and sent me a picture of them a week later out of the blue, but I didn’t make conversation. Early this year I asked if I could see her and she said no (actually says “not now”. Like I said, she always sort of evades being straightforward, and I don’t know what to make of that). I decided to get more serious with no contact. It’s been like 15 days and I’m getting the no contact “symptom” of thinking she doesn’t care/is trying to forget about me, etc. Is it too late to be doing no contact? What are your insights on her attitude of not giving clear answers? Thanks!

I had 3 month long relationship with a guy from a dating site. I have trust problems because of 20 year long marriage in which I was kinda abused. So that is why decided I did not want a serious relationship, only a friend with benefit type of thing. The guy was very polite. We had only kissing on first date and it took a while for him to even ask for it. Later I told him I did not want a serious relationship but it seemed he was hoping in it. We had very strong chemistry. After we had sex he was taken to hospital. It was crazy. I started to feel something however the plan was not that. I have decided to split up with him but someway I was not able. So we were keeping in touch for 1 month then he was released. I did not trust him. First I though even hospital was lie and then I discovered he was texting with others. I tried to get closer to him but he had walls. We had fights since I felt him cold, too rational therefore I got angry towards him and we had awful fights.We split up 3x but it started again. I emphasized that it was only about sex for me but he wanted sg more serious. Once I have seen him to chat with someone else for a long time. I asked him to tell me if he had someone else and let me go since it is too painful this way to me. He told me that there was no anyone else just he did not know where he stood with me since I was working against the relationship. Basically I think I did not know what I wanted and we had walls. Ok. I asked him to start it again. He asked for time and I promised time. So he messaged me but when I wanted to reply I saw he was chatting with someone again and got angry and attacked him. I said really really mean things. He switched off phone. I was thinking I might have hurt him deliberately because I was not brave enough to start sg serious and wanted to get rid of him instinctively. Next day I said sorry. I was feeling really awful about myself. I am not an evil person. But he did not read it (or yes but it was not displayed).

Alright, lets say that I was trying to get an ex girlfriend back and I had made it this far into the step by step process I am outlining here. I took out a sheet of paper and wrote down what I thought our best couple experiences were together. For the sake of this page lets say that me and my ex had an experience where we were watching a football game outdoors and it was really cold. She was getting very cold so I offered her my jacket.

I am not sure of your age – you didn’t give it – but from what you have said it sounds as if you met your ex in your early 20s, maybe even your late teens. Anecdotally, those we fall in love with at this time – early adulthood – can have a real hold on us, even long after the relationship is over.

Me n my gf broke up so I’m tryin wit all my strength to get her back but what she wants to still be friends weird right, so I’m askin what I’m suppose to do to win her back n how do u act like a sexual guy please help me thanks bro

Now this may come as a surprise, but it is crucial. After you make an apology, put some distance between the two of you and refrain from learning about her life from any source whatsoever. This shall give you the time to focus on you, work toward reinventing and refashioning yourself into the man who’d not make those fatal mistakes that led to the breakup whilst also picking up new hobbies, interests, and living it up.

Remember that whether or not your quest on how to get your ex-girlfriend back succeeds or not, it shall still be worth every bit of this process – coz you’d either come out of it two-ly together or healed and ready to move on!

Think of it this way, if you do this set of messages correctly then you have a good chance of getting your ex to feel the same feelings you are feeling and they will start to remember how great your times together were.

But still there is no such program or plan that can actually fulfill the needs of the individuals in those difficult circumstances. Today we are going to enlighten you with some of those excellent yet undiscovered concepts of getting back in a relationship with your girlfriend, that aren’t been discussed before.

I struggle with getting over her and letting go completely and finally. Most of the time I still wish there was a chance this was a rebound and maybe she’ll check in from time to time. But I don’t know how to not think that. She is still what I want, is that even right of me to think after everything she has done with her 60 days?

1. Backed off /stopped all contact with ex , delete number face book , collect all stuff like jewellery, photos and other stuff put in the box and give it to ur family or friend to keep 4 while… So u don’t get reminded of her…

You need to work on making some big changes, whether it’s controlling an aspect of your personality that led to the downfall of the relationship, or to think about how you can change the dynamics of the relationship if it started again.

I know you love this girl, but any relationship she has with you or anyone else has with her is going to be EXTREMELY unhealthy. Look at this list. Trust, jealousy, emotional infidelity (at least), and potentially lying. Being in a relationship with her will make you miserable in the long run. It’s going to sting like hell for now, but you are much better off without her.