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Look, I realize that your situation is unique (perhaps quite complicated). And you know what? It is unique. In fact, each one of my readers had a story that was different from everyone else’s. Because every breakup is unique.
The thought of your ex being with someone else is a gut wrenching one. But in reality, it’s not as bad as we make it out to be. We will get into that later, but first, let’s take a look at how your instincts react when you find out your ex is dating someone else.
Women are submissive by nature and they want their man to be the polar opposite (dominant). Leaving decisions (could be about anything) to her, is submissive behavior by you, and it places her in the dominant role – a role that the female kind doesn’t take naturally to.
More often than not if you have gotten this far in your conquest to get them back they are going to respond back positively. Except this time you are going to engage them in a conversation but make sure that you don’t go too fast. Remember, you still have to be the one to end the conversation first. Lets look at how a conversation like this might play out using an example from above:
First, I would find out why your “friend” and brother is spouting lies about you. Anyway, It doesn’t matter if your ex believes you or not. She has moved on and told you to do the same. She has another person in her life. Give her space and use this as an opportunity to grow and work on yourself.
i fall in love with a girl from the first sigh i keep asking about her then weve meet up a few times as friends then i send a friend to ask her if she wanna be my girlfriend this how its works in my country in the first she says she will think about it then i go by myself to talk to her then she says no and my heart was broken i really love her i was watching for over 4 monthes i cant hold on what should i do to say yes
Anytime a girl is breaking up for a time, she is unsatisfied and trying to do better, but wants to know you’ll be there if she can’t. She is basically treating you like an insurance policy. If she doesn’t find another guy, she still has you at the end of summer. If she does, sayonara.
Getting her to want you back in a committed relationship is more about what NOT to do, than what to do. Because, you have the attraction back by this point from the previous steps, so all you need to do here is get out of your own way, and let the getting-back-together happen on it’s own.
Jealously is the ultimate form of insecurity. Do you hate when your girlfriend spend time with her male friends? Or do you hate when your girlfriend laugh on her co-worker’s joke? If you let these come over you then you are showing that your girlfriend is having higher value than you – simply showing jealously.
Thanks for the advice. I forgot to mention last night after a stressful week I had some anxiety and said some insecure things to her while we were talking. Stuff along the line of “you were my best friend” and “second chance” were mentioned. I realized my mistake changed the subject almost immediately and continued to have a good conversation, but it was a moment of weakness nonetheless. Do I just continue on as normal?
My girlfriend broke up with me after 4 years due to me being controlling and clingy. Told me the night of the breakup that she loved me, but wasn’t in love with me anymore. We talked every so often afterwards until I figured out I was actually making things worse and proceeded with NC for 25 days. We’re long distance so it’s a bit easier than others. We had plans to meet up when I came home to visit family for thanksgiving and talk, and we did meet up but we hardly talked. She said it was too soon and didn’t want our emotions to get the better of us. I was a bit mad, because I waited almost an hour. We spoke on the phone afterwards and got into an argument about what happened and both said some mean things.
That’s a rough situation, but whatever the answer is, waiting around for her relationship to end is going to make you miserable. You don’t have to jump into the dating pool just yet, but spend some time on your own activities and stop following her social media. It’s more likely a rebound if it happened right away, hasn’t lasted long, and if she’s trying to rub it in your face, but that doesn’t mean you should hang around waiting to be thrown a bone.
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Your ex girlfriend will respond to escalation and as you can see we are slowly rebuilding it here. The texting rebuilt some attraction but now it is time to use the phone to really kick things up a notch.
Well I tried adding her back on Facebook about 6 days ago and she hasn’t accepted. She told a mutual friend that she doesn’t want to accept and doesn’t want me to think that there’s still something there between us. Also she said that she was done with the relarionship but kept changing her reasons to the mutual friend. She has also deleted a lot of “couple photos” of us and has changed the description from “my man and my baby” to just nothing. It seems as though she’s trying to erase me out of her life. She also told this mutual friend that she can’t remember the last time I made her smile or laugh, which is a lie. I made an instagram post, she still follows me on there, and has seen a couple funny/silly videos i posted up on there but hasn’t “liked” any. Not sure if she did that on purpose or is genuinely not wanting me back at all. She seems quite set in her decision. Our mutual told me that she might be suffering from a mild form of depression due to hating her job so much. and she mentioned the girl I was talking to (the reason for our 1st breakup 4 years ago) and was angry about it. Seems like she’s still jealous about something that happened 4 years ago. Our mutual friend told her that a healthy amount of jealousy is a good thing and that she must love me if she’s mentioning that and is jealous about it. Our mutual friend believes that she doesn’t know what she wants. She went from quite an abusive relationship where she was emotionally and mentally abused and used up, and then she got me a guy that treats her like a princess.
You may be having the favorite gift of your girlfriend around like a watch of a tablet. Or you may be having a birthday card stating” Happy birthday Honey”. But the fact is that the removal of these sites from your eye is important. You cannot afford to have all the remembering around while you are doing your daily stuff. It hinders one patience and focus while doing his work.
Now, the texting rules as mentioned in the video I linked you to, will do a lot of the work to make her WANT to hang out, and as soon as she WANTS to hang out, then arranging to meet should be very easy. I’ll talk you through what to say to set up a meet with her regardless, though.
You need to learn what to say to your ex, when to say it, and even anticipate what she’s going to say in return. By being totally prepared for such contact, you can stay one step ahead whenever speaking to your ex girlfriend.
One additional thought. You might want to check out my post on infusing your interactions with positivity. It’s not just moths that are drawn to light. See http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/resolution-not-conflict/201207/10-ways-radiate-positivity-and-be-attractive. Maximize the positives in your interactions, delete the negatives like criticism or irritated emotions, and the odds will be likely to shift in your favor.
As I already mentioned, working out is quite important as it will improve your overall look and boost your confidence as well. It is very important to have good confidence when meeting up with your ex girlfriend after long time.
You may notice that a lot of what you are doing during the no contact period is working on bettering yourself. I am not saying it’s going to be easy but doing what I recommended above will really help to heal you. Oh, and you may realize after some time that you don’t really want to get back with your ex (stranger things have happened.)
Second, don’t text like you are still in your relationship. Don’t use quirky old pet names or baby-talk text. Avoid emoticons at all cost. You are now two adults who are communicating via a message made up of text. No one needs to write out kitten noises.
I just broke up with my girlfriend today and it’s all because of me. She said I was being harsh and she said I don’t love her when I actually do love her soo badly. And she said she cant handle me anymore. Can you help me solve my problem and help me to get her back.
Love should never hurt it should be the one thing thst makes you happy. If she is talking down to you for no apparent reason then she is not the one for you. If she can’t see thst you are in her corner and love her unconditional then it’s time to move on. Wasting time is not a good look especially when yoy are young. I thought thst i could not get over my ex but I am living and making the best of the situation everyday.
Be the person he fell in love with. While spending time with your ex as friends, give him reasons to remember all of the things he loves about you. Accentuate the traits you know he loves, like your sense of humor or your empathy.
It is good to improve your personality and getting rid of negatives. However, it is not only okay to change yourself for an ex-girlfriend who cannot love you for whom you are, then you deserve better. The time you spend away of your former partner, use it to take care of yourself. Try to improve your appearance and indulge in a particular activity that you like.
This is my last year in college. Some guys would just say fuck it and go bang other girls and move on. But I won’t because there is nothing more that I want than to be by her side. Im lost and confused and broken hearted. I’m really struggling here. days feel like weeks to me. I’m desperately in need of some advice, wisdom, and knowledge.