Remember that no contact is ultimately meant for you to pick yourself up and to create a version of yourself that would make your ex fall for you again. Whether she starts to move on or not shouldn’t matter, because she’s moving on from the image and impression she had of you before the change. As long as the relationship with her was meaningful, there’s always a strong possibility of her falling for you again if you seemed to have made significant positive changes to yourself, which captures her attention.
Focus On Work – Is there any area in your career that need little bit extra work? Are you spending less time in your business or work? Use this time to improve your career and try to accomplish goals.
Avoid laziness. The idle mind is the source of all misery. This is the time for you to try new things or do things you never thought you would have time to do. Force yourself if you have to. You’ll thank yourself later for having the tenacity.
You will instantly know that you are willing to start fresh if there are no longer negative feelings towards each other as well as when you can start talking about the break-up in an honest and civil manner.
We can’t all do an Eternal Sunshine Of The Spotless Mind on our ex. We’d love to be totally over him, but you know what? Sometimes it just isn’t possible to be 100% over someone. Sometimes, a bit of scar tissue will always remain.
Reflect on why the breakup happened. The first thing you need to do is take a long, hard look at what factors led up to the breakup. Consider whether these same difficulties are likely to cause more relationship problems if you try to get back together, or if you might be able to get past them.
Find out if they are still interested. Before you start trying to win back your ex’s heart, you need to know whether he or she still cares or not. Knowing if your ex still cares about you is the first most important clue and hint that things can still be mended.
When you know what your ex is thinking, it becomes much easier to get him back. There are certain situations under which your exboyfriend becomes a lot more approachable, and this is why it’s crucial to know how your boyfriend still feels about you.
Around the same time that Eric and I were talking, I’d been hooking up with this photographer from the neighborhood. He was hot and detached and, according to Myspace, embroiled in lots of exciting romantic entanglements.
Keep the conversation light and enjoyable, and try to steer it away from anything too heavy and emotional. Keep it short. For one, he will come to want more of your time and attention when he doesn’t have it, but it will also help you keep a clear and objective mind.
So, we did the interview and afterwards we got to talking about our likes and dislikes. Anyways, I happened to mention that I was a big fan of Buffy The Vampire Slayer and he stops everything he is doing and says this to me,
Then randomly one night he messages me saying he still hopes I’m alright and happy. But that was the end of it. I got all worked up and started messaging him. (No response) then a week later I messaged him and he responded to me and we started friendly chatting that turned into sexual or course. I kept trying to see him but he kept backing out and then finally told me he recently started seeing someone and he didn’t want to fuck it up because he actually likes her. He thought we could be friends but we’re so attracted to each other that we’d end up sleeping together and he wants to see where this new relationship goes. I told him I wish him the best of luck and then the next day he asked to meet him if I wanted to talk. We FaceTimed for two hours and I couldn’t take it anymore I had to hang up. He texted me saying he thinks he has to block me because of temptation. He didn’t block me but I left It as I wish him the best in his new relationship. We went from not talking to him responding to my messages but he said all he can give me right now is friendship and that I had no problem breaking the news that I was engaged to him and he tried to understand and accept it.
I am going to be mean for a minute here but it has to be done. If you are trying to get over your ex boyfriend and are committed to doing so then I want you to stop whining. I don’t want to hear how he wronged you or how you wronged him. There is only one time where I think it is ok to feel sorry for yourself and that is literally the day after the breakup. After that I don’t want to hear your complaints.
You’re probably now feeling very defeated. Many of your tactics for keeping your girl sweet have unfortunately worked against you, and this leaves you asking, “So what the f*** do I do?! How can I get my ex-girlfriend back?”
My ex and I broke up a month and a week ago. I have been doing the no contact rule for 38 days and still ongoing. I’m still doing it because I know he’s a stubborn person. I thought I was okay and already emotionally and mentally ready until my friends told me that they found him with someone else. It hurt me to the core. He was the one who broke up with me (had been cold for almost a month before that) and saying he wanted to be open and see other people. I asked him if there already was someone else and he denied. At first I tried saving the relationship but in the end, I gave him his freedom. I even gave him a closure message 2 days after the break up and he replied too. 1 week after the closure message, I texted him because I found out his grandpa died. When he replied so late still, that was when i realized and started the NC rule. And now, I’m so confused on what to do. I thought about still continuing the NC until 90 days just to make sure that I feel better emotionally and mentally again (and I’ve been working out on my physical too and had good results so far). If you have any idea on what I should do, please let me know.