It is tempting to offload the burden of losing the girl to a single, out-of-character interaction. The answer is a cosmetic fix. Send a text. Apologize profusely. Stay the same and she’ll see it was all just a fluke.
Don’t underestimate the power of having a support system! You may not want to admit to your friends that you’re feeling this way, but they probably understand way more than you’re giving them credit for. It’s okay to reach out to someone and talk when you feel like you need it.
Negative responses do not feel good at all. It really sucks and can feel like the end of the world especially if you put a lot of work into getting your ex boyfriend back. Your best bet in these situations is to simply not respond at all and understand that your ex is still processing their emotions. It doesn’t necessarily mean that all hope is lost it just means you may need to be more patient and try again in a week or so.
My situation is a little different. I am 22 and my boyfriend of 2.5 years broke up with me. It was basically because he thought we were sexually incompatible (which isn’t really true, as I change drastically depending on what’s going on around me) and it wasn’t going to work out.
However, if you can be honest with yourself, you can admit that you don’t NEED your ex in your life – you CAN live without them, you CAN be happy without them, and there ARE other very attractive, wonderful people out there for you.
Again, this is risky since there is a higher chance of him saying no. However, if you two were really making a lot of progress via texting and you really think he is feeling the same way you are about your current relationship then the “I was in the neighborhood method” may do the trick for you. The obvious advantage is that you get an instant date/meet up!
My boyfriend broke up with me 2 months ago because of the distance and the fact that he has lost feelings for me (about this he wasn’t really certain though…). I have accomplished NC succesfully and got in touch again with him in the begining of December. We started to have small talks, videochating occasionally and we have even achieved an active snap activity. However, recently, to be more exact, when going back to school he started to be distant and cold. I know that he has a lot of work as now he is in exam period, but he always replies short and almost after 24 or 16 hours, which is not typic of him.
Hi, my ex and I (both 18) broke up in October and were together from June to September. He broke up with me because I wasn’t reciprocating the love he was giving me and he now feels like since he put his all in the relationship and I didn’t, he can no longer give me a relationship. After the breakup, I was very needy and constantly begged him to get back together. Since then, I have recognized my mistakes and am fully in the mindset to changing them but I’m not sure how to prove that I’ve changed. He’s recently got back with his previous ex about a week ago and I’m scared that he might not want me back. I personally think it’s a rebound relationship since he did try to have sex with me while they were together but he swears he loves her and is serious with her. He still acts as if he has feelings for me but denies them. We never went through a no contact stage either. So, would it be best to do the no contact stage even if it’s been 3 months since we’ve broken up? Is there a good chance that I can gain his love and trust back if I do this? Is it not too late?
The fact is… ploys, tricks, mind games or any form of manipulation and persuasion that you might have heard about do not work on a lasting basis. While they could be effective in getting your ex-girlfriend back temporarily, she’ll be gone again as soon as she sees the reality behind the ploy. Worst of all, your ploys could backfire on you — and repel her away from you for good.
Remember to be yourself. Though if you needed to make a dramatic change (for the better) to be in the relationship, then so be it, but you shouldn’t walk around like a dog with his tail between his legs because you’re so set on making up on whatever hurt you caused that you can’t relax. In the end, your girl started dating you the first time because of who you are, so don’t forget to let her see the parts of your personality that she loved the most.
1. Your ex needs some space and time to remove all the negative associations from the breakup and start missing you. People have a common misconception that if you don’t contact your ex, they will forget about you. But in reality, if you don’t contact your ex, you will give him time to miss you more and he will be wondering all the time why you are not contacting him. Remember all the mistakes in Part #1 of this guide. Every one of them made your ex think of you as a needy person. By not contacting him, you immediately become not needy in his mind.
Gottman’s studies were interesting, he would lock a couple in an apartment and videotape their every move. Every discussion, every interaction, every argument was caught on tape and carefully analyzed.
The logical approach to get your ex back seems that you should tell them how much you care for them and how much you love them as soon as possible before it’s too late. But trust me it’s not a good idea.
Guys, let’s have some real talk here: you miss your ex girlfriend. Society wants to teach guys to be tough and to not have the same soft feelings that women have, but that’s just not realistic. When you get together with a woman and share intimate moments and time with her, you’re going to have fond feelings that are hard to shake if or when you break up.
You have spent a month not contacting your ex. You spent that entire time working on yourself becoming more and more confident as the days past. Everything seemed to be going fine until you hit your first road block with a negative response. Make no mistake about it, negative responses are never good. However, they don’t EVER mean that you should give up right away. It just means you have to be smarter about how you approach things. Lets take a look at a negative response example (from my past) this is a true story.
I’m not sure exactly how our relationship ended, just like I can’t pinpoint the moment it began. Don’t get me wrong, I remember very clearly the night when she turned to me in bed and asked if we could talk. And I remember crying in the bathroom stall at work the next day, not because I was hurt — it was something I had wanted, too — but because the relationship I’d been in for almost four years was suddenly over.
She made all kinds of excuses. That shes become very negative and it’s not just about “us”. I know I changed and became too forgiving to her when she acted bitchy (I should have maintained control), but I let her get the best of me.
I saw many boyfriends that get pissed when their girlfriend talks about other men or just hangs out with other men. Men that show jealousy look ridiculous to women and this is where women start losing attraction.