Showing her you’ve reflected on the relationship and are prepared to learn from previous mistakes will demonstrate that you’re serious and willing to change. If you approach your ex with a thoughtful response to past problems and a willingness to change, she’ll be more likely to reconsider the relationship. You might say something like, for example, “I’ve thought about why we broke up, and I think part of it was because I didn’t understand that when got mad at me for being late, you were really upset because you felt like I wasn’t making you a priority, and I’d like to change that.”

Evolution and the desire to have the strongest possible offspring, dictate that your girl gets attracted to guys she sees as superior to herself. All women have this mechanism wired into their DNA in order to keep the human race strong.

hello charlie,my girlfriend doesn’t want to date me again and has told me to move on cos she has move on with her life now and is now and is now dating some else. All because my blood brother and one of my friends told her that i have been sharing with them what i do with her in private. She says they told her that i told them she begs me for sex and also to suck me. She got so much upset. I have apologize to her that i didn’t do it but she doesn’t believe me . I have done everything a guy will do show i still love but still she doesn’t want to get back to me. Is been close to 5months but she still doesn’t want us to get together, i love her so much that i can’t see her go. Am short of ideas i need ur help. Thanks

If you have to work out some major issues, then make a long-term plan for how you’ll do it, whether it’s going to therapy, dropping an addiction, or giving yourself a major personality overhaul in some regard.

Please tell me what to do, I’m prepared to do no contact with the wxpevtion of talking about the kids and I’ve joined the gym also. I want to get fucking ripped!! I want to show her that I can be a better person on the inside and out. Any help folks would be great!!!

Heyy !!! It’s been two months I and my girl broke up.. As like normal guys v guys were in contact, latter on she kept on tellin you gotta move on and all that.. Recently I avoided textin her callin for lik two days, I had even tried avoiding her even b4 once she herself had called from front to know if I am fine.. I acted all fine.. Nd lst night I just bumped at her in place … V wer together boozing she had come with her friends, even then she ws full time wit me , all off sudden topic off our relationship started I was in tears , she wiped my tears , hugged nd kissed me on forehead .. Nd I got to know through her friends tat even she broke down… I really don know what to do??? I just love her alot!!! Tis is killin me .. Plz help.. Does she still love me ??

Accept the break up and move on. If none of the steps above have worked for you, and/or if you have assessed the situation and decided it is not healthy or wise to continue trying to get your ex back, be sure that you take time for yourself emotionally to recover from your broken heart.

Thank you for your reply, he has not blocked me just deleted me, I got the impression that it was out of anger but I’m not sure. He has not blocked my phone number so should I message when NC is over?

After your isolation period of no contact, which typically lasts about 29 days (during the peak of your ex’s loneliness), you will then be able to contact your ex. However, you simply can’t text or call your ex and ask her to hang out. You have to look non-threatening. Meaning, you can’t give them the slightest indication that you actually want to get back together with her.

I am saying this confidently because I have apply these techniques when my first love broke up with me. I can’t tell exact reason for our breakup but after talking with Brad I realize one thing and that is…

Get to know one another. Especially if it has been a while since you were together, you and your ex have both changed as individuals in that time. Don’t assume you know everything about him or her. Take time to get to know one another again.

It may be possible there are numbers of things that your ex was doing that make you uncomfortable. For example, she may leave all her crap in the bathroom, and you get angry for not having any space for your stuff. Or she may yell at you for watching television and drinking a beer when you are in the mood of unwinding yourself.

Yes, you should definitely have this conversation with him. I recommend that you write down the type of relationship you want in your life. Write down the 5 most important thing for you in a relationship. And after that, write down your boundaries. Write down what is non-negotiable for you. This could be things like “Cheating, emotional abuse, verbal abuse, physical abuse etc.”

A “pull” is what the other person does in response to the push. A “pull” is a loss of interest or a display of indifference. It can be anything from them saying “I need more space” to completely leaving you. Usually the less interested person is doing all the “pulling.”

If your ex isn’t someone you could see yourself being friends with, either because you don’t get along, they did something unforgivable, or you’re too hung up on them to simply be “just friends,” your first priority after the breakup should be getting over them. There are a few different ways to achieve this, but ceasing contact with them — both in person and via your phone or computer — is of paramount importance.

However, if your ex is currently calling you everyday or texting you everyday, then yes you should let them know that you don’t want them to contact you for a short period of time. Don’t give them any specifics. Just tell them to not contact you until you decide to contact them. Let them know you need some space and time right now.

So my ex broke up with me a little over a month ago after a 3 months relationship & several months of talking & getting to know each other really well (starting in the summer but wasn’t a fling). He is 24, I am 21, we felt serious, he would mention marriage. We had many common goals & other things & he loved that. Commitment/marriage seemed serious to him, he was all about values & didn’t like relationships where he wasn’t sure about marriage (I was a little hesitant about it). I was getting out of a breakup as well & vented to him a lot in the first 1-2 months/I mentioned the ex sometimes which he didn’t like & looking back I shouldn’t have done.