The unwritten laws of the ‘social food chain’ dictate that inferior people seek approval from superior ones, and not the other way around. Women naturally know this, and by trying to get your girl to like you more (approval seeking) using ‘nice’ behavior, you made her feel like she’s superior to you.
Jealously is the ultimate form of insecurity. Do you hate when your girlfriend spend time with her male friends? Or do you hate when your girlfriend laugh on her co-worker’s joke? If you let these come over you then you are showing that your girlfriend is having higher value than you – simply showing jealously.
Another way is to travel. Yes, that’s good for the enjoyment and letting go off your worries as well as the understanding the women. Different women personalities are found around the globe. Try to learn their body language, there energy level and their eye contact. It is very important part of a relationship to think of these 3 points since you only get into real act with the understanding of body movement.
Every single guy I’ve consulted with was guilty of making this fatal mistake: acting out of despair and desperation while trying to get her back. There’s no question that you’re doing the same. And it’s plain to see why given the emotions that go hand in hand with a breakup. But despite this fact, if you don’t stop everything you’re doing right now and start using the right approach… you risk losing her forever.
If you’ve been answering yes to lots of questions above, then it’s likely that you will answer yes to this one too. Why? Because believing that your girlfriend is the best chick you can realistically get, creates a scarcity mindset which brings out all the desperate and try-hard (i.e. unattractive) behaviors that we discussed above.
I know this is not going to be easy for you because of your indecision, but you also seem to be trying to keep everyone happy (except they are not, and you are not, either). But you have to do it, otherwise you are going to make a really big mess.
My bf and I were together for a year and a half.. What basically broke us up was I got injured and was unable to walk so I had to have surgery and I was also put on hormones which made me feel insanely depressed.. Since I couldn’t walk, I couldn’t go see friends or family and for 3 months while I was recovering, the only person I really saw was him, so when he’d leave to go to work I would cry because I know that I would be alone for 10 hours.. things just got worse from there.. since I couldn’t move, I just stayed on bed-rest, so he’d want to go do stuff, but I couldn’t and he would stay, but I knew it bothered him because before I got hurt we would always go places and do things. Then I started to get really insecure, because who wants to sit at home with their partner when all they do is cry and lay in bed? So I started telling him he was going to end up cheating on me (because there was this girl at work that really wanted him, even though she already had a bf).. Eventually all we did was fight and I’d cry, but finally I started to get better and was able to walk around more, but the damage was done. He ended up cheating on me and then he left me for the girl he cheated on me with. They moved in after only a week of being together, but he would call me the second that he would drop her off at work so that we could hang out (I never made a move on him while he was with her, because I feel that it’s wrong, even though she did it to me) They are still together after 8 months, but he seems miserable.. I sent him a picture of our dog we had and a sign saying “happy birthday” and she freaked out on him. She is insanely jealous and he isn’t allowed to talk to other girls, even girls at work. He is their manager and the girls will talk to him and he will tell me how his girlfriend will freak out, even though he didn’t do anything wrong.. she once gauged out pictures of a girl where they work just because she was his friend. We were both there for each other and we became each others best friends, I can tell that our friendship is stronger now then how it was when we were together. I finally told him I love him still and that I want to be with him and he told me that he won’t date me.. he said there were too many problems in our relationship and he thought we didn’t work well together, but I am his best friend and he cares so much about me and doesn’t want to lose me because I am the only one he can count on and the only one who listens to him. I feel like he is just looking at the end of our relationship when things were bad. I think our relationship wasn’t given a fair shot.. we started dating a few months after my best friend and mother died and then I became injured and sick, now I am better and have matured and understand how I was insecure and didn’t handle my emotions well and I am off of the hormones, so I feel like myself again. How do I get him to remember the amazing times? If I’m his best friend and he’s attracted to me, why wouldn’t he date me? I hate my situation so much because all I want is for him to be happy, but it’s so hard watching him be with this other girl because she treats him bad.. so do I just stop talking to him and lose my best friend?
Dude… be chill. I overreacted at first too but it was more so because there is a child involved. Mine left just a few days ago as well. The first day she texted me back a few times but then she either changed her number or just let her minutes run out (prepaid). But after looking through some of these sites… I took their advice. Start working out…. like wayyy harder than you normally do. Get the testosterone and endorphins flowing. It will take your mind off shit. It’s amazing how much similar your story is to mine. We had just talked about marriage a few weeks ago. I am going to give it about another week or so and see what happens. It’s amazing how much a little time away will make things much more manageable with your emotions. It will be hard to make that first leap to contacting her but just be subtle with it. Don’t go all Rambo gotta come back now guy. Just be polite and reasonable. Don’t have any thing set that should happen. Read her. If she is accepting to it… go on with your bad self. If not… say something chill… like “well… I just want you to know that I had fun while it lasted. Take care and I’ll see you around.” And walk the fuk away.
I got into a relationship with a guy and he wanted us to get married but he traveled back and after some months he stopped calling me and now he talks to me and told me he didn’t know why he stopped calling or thinking about me…..I still love him and I want him back….I need help.
DONT blow up her phone. and DONT beg for her, thats unattractive and foolish. you have to show her a friend, and that you dont need her. you wont be able to make her jealous because shell be glad youre gone. you have to meet her in person, and show her a man, and that you are serious. dont show her a little kid who wants her to feel bad for you. show her a man, looking for a serious relationship. dont be needy, and dont let your messages exceed double digits to her in a day.
Now it is important for you to know the difference between confidence and arrogance. Arrogance is sort of fake confidence and don’t try to show your fake confidence to your girlfriend. Females are naturally build to spot fake confidence from miles away. Try to build confidence that attract women