Another thing to know and understand is that you don’t want to discuss the breakup at all. Don’t even bring it up. And whatever you do, do not tell him you miss him or you’ve been living a nightmare since the breakup. None of that! All that he knows is that you’ve been just fine and the breakup didn’t affect you at all (even if it did).
If things went wrong and you did something that you regret, apologize. He is probably very hurt and good apology will go a long way. At first he will act like he don’t want to hear about it, but trust me, he is expecting you to apologize.
“I got over my ex by simply listening to all my good friends, and letting them find other cute new guys for me to look at. Like they’ve always said to me, ‘It’s not like good guys aren’t there; you just haven’t found them yet.’ I listened to happy, peppy music, like Taylor Swift’s ‘Picture to Burn.’ That song really helped me through some tough times!” –Taylore, 15
Okay my NC days are over! but he didn’t contact me and he is my classmate.. so my friend helped me a kinda today she called him and he came while i stood by her and then she said make it good between you, he gave a good response he gave me a fist (for greeting) and i gave it back. He did well at P.E so i said: Well played! and he said thanks you too “Bro” and then he left.. what do i have to do now? Just keep talking to him or something? Because i know he won’t begin a conversation with me.. he is a stubborn guy. And i want him back as well and maybe he acts that he doesn’t miss me?.. Shall i begin to keep a small convo with him? What he only does is looking at me for 1 second.. and then he is turning is head around.. and last week he did talk about me to a teacher like:
i cant seem to forget about my ex i tried all the tricks in the book , worse even went to as far as going to traditional doctors . he is dating someone else now and he is truly in love with her he said we should give us a try but he treats me like 2nd best to i really deserve this…? how do i move on its almost year now but am still holding on.
Why a year though? Truthfully, I wanted to tell you to never contact him again. However, experience has taught me that in certain cases it is never good to burn any bridges. Now, while I will concede that cutting someone out of your life for an entire year may seem like burning a bridge and maybe technically it is “burning a bridge” but you are only setting that bridge on fire for a year.
Find out if they are still interested. Before you start trying to win back your ex’s heart, you need to know whether he or she still cares or not. Knowing if your ex still cares about you is the first most important clue and hint that things can still be mended.
The rule of every relationship is never ever be clingy. You have to learn to let go. I know it’s not easy. Letting go is actually the most crucial and the most difficult phase of every relationship. There’s just too many memories and forgetting these memories feels like an impossibility. Well, who wouldn’t find it hard to let go? You have invested so much time, money effort and tears to make the relationship work out only to lose it in just a moment. Of course it’s hard to let go! Who am I kidding? However, you also have to think of yourself honey. You ought to respect and value yourself more than anyone and being clingy indicates that your self value is way below the line. Do not cling to someone who doesn’t see your true value. It’s just not going to work.
There’s more to getting your ex back than this post of course. Every situation is different and requires a slightly different approach. Hopefully at least one tip from above rings a bell and gets you closer on your path to getting Mr. Right back to where he should be, with you, the perfect girlfriend for him. Once you get him back, don’t take him for granted – a relationship… love… is something you must work on and maintain so that the fire keeps burning, if you just leave it unattended it’ll either go out or get out of proportion and burn down a whole forest.
I have been dating a guy for the past 6 months, last week I did throw a surprise birthday party for him. everything was going good when all a sudden he started ignoring me for the past 3 days. I got the guts to go at his place today in order to talk to him. He said that he wants us to be best friends and we will still meet and be the same was we were the only difference is we are no longer dating. I know there was nothing serious between us but I’ve started loving him and he made a promise to me that he will not tell me to date someone till he doesn’t find someone. Somewhere somehow I still have a hope to be back with him. I don’t know how to win over him. Anyone can help me.
This is almost a cliche these days, but it’s no less true. The no contact move works. Simple as that. But with one proviso: what you do during this time is even more important. If you’re unsure about this step, about why it works and how it benefits, take some time to learn. It is too important to be unsure about.
Everyone deserves to be happy and you shouldn’t settle for less just because you’ve ‘invested 5 years into the relationship and it would be a shame to give it up’. If you genuinely want to give it another shot, go ahead, but if the abuse continues and she does not change, I would suggest you be fair to yourself and walk away. [otp_overlay]