About 3 yrs in the relationship I got really fed up of everything I’ve tolerated & noticed that once again he was acting strange & distant. I would go to his house be intimate and then find myself be the only one trying to contact him. He would call or text only here and there.
Don’t keep doing the same thing and expect different results. If you begin to notice an unhealthy pattern within your relationships, consider how you can avoid this. Whether it’s being taken advantage of, or letting a negative side of your own personality take over, recognize that failure to change this habit will result in a similar outcome.
So here’s my situation. I’ve had a relationship for the past 3.5 years. For a long time prior to those years she had a huge crush on me, but i never really did anything with it. Even still we got together. During the relationship i never really felt i was truly in love with her, at least i thought so. But i also need to mention that i was smoking weed on a daily basis. (She hated that) Which resulted in me not to be able to express my feelings in the right way, or even to be having’ feelings. During this time i was unemployed and living in her house pretty much rent-free, and even still she was the sweetest girl in the world for me. (make’s me sick to my stomach even thinking about that now) I was a really selfish guy over the years, never surprised her or anything like that and have been taking’ her for granted During the entire relationship. Never really considered her feelings. (Again, sick to my stomach) So due to text messages she started building a emotionally relationship with some guy she met a bar way back before our relationship. Can’t really blame her for that giving the fact i was emotionally unavailable due to smoking weed. It always stayed with text messaging she claims and i believe her. This lasted from May to August. I forgave her. Last September we’ve been on holiday together, for here it was a sort of last attempt to save our relationship. Which i didn’t knew at the time. So i continued in my own selfish ways, and continued smoking weed. She was slipping right from under my nose and i didn’t even noticed. After the holiday we’ve stayed together until November 10th which is when she dumped me. Again, cant blame her, thinking back i am surprised she even last this long with me. Since then i have stopped smoking weed, cant even stand the smell of it, got a job, and starting to express my emotions again. Needless to say that i want her back, in fact i feel like im in love with her. She says its to late, that she really would want it but that her feelings for me has changed. However, she does keep contacting me, even send some nudes and stuff like that but still don’t want te be in a relationship anymore. Also does she really badly wants to stay friends and gets really upset if i suggest to brake contact, just because i cant handle this form of contact we are having right now, simply because i want her back so badly. Do think NC will do the trick? I’ve been trying it 2 times already but never got past 2/3 days as she keeps calling/texting me and i feel bad for her and cave. And its hard for me as well of course. Sorry for my English, im from Europe.
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We don’t like to call each other “ex”, so my friend and I were together, but we broke up a year ago due to a stressful issue. We have remained friends, and still wished to be together. But now, he is starting to date someone else who is more similar to him. I did some stupid things, and it felt like I got this big slap in the face- he was always right. He always was telling me things that were disconnecting us that were things I needed to work on. He admitted to me that he was scared of being with me, let alone staying friends. I’ve told him that I felt this slap and everything and that I’m going to change because I’ve been making myself unhappy. But I’m also very determined to reestablish our relationship as a couple and not just friends. I’m scared of what will happen, but I know I have to move forward and be better for myself. I realized I’ve been letting my emotions control me and that it has been destroying myself and my relationships with other people. He is someone I see frequently (fyi, not a co-worker) and we text a lot still. I’m still afraid. He loved me once, he even got me a promise ring of sorts… If he sees me changing for the better, will I still have a chance? The fear comes with the fact that there is another woman who could steal his heart. Yet the funny thing is, she loves and adores me beyond anything. I am not sure if she is romantically interested in him, but I definitely wouldn’t call it unlikely. She also knows my history with him. It’s tough, but I want to become the woman he always thought I could be, which is someone amazing. I don’t really know what I’m asking now, I think I just need some support and to know that I’m doing the right thing, and that I’ll be okay… I can’t just forget about how much I want him back by my side.
also he has already given her diamonds for her recent birthday, seems to be moving fast. And I can’t help but thinking of him proposing to her soon since they already knew each other so well. No, I don’t believe she ever cheated or started this with him while we were together.
Pick ONE friend that you trust or better yet, stop yapping to your friends. Comment on here. You never know which “friend” will go tell the wrong “friend” of his that you’re struggling. No dramatic, long, drawn out depression and good-byes. Let him wonder what in the hell you are avoiding him for.
Hey, it is New Years day and my EX broke up with me around October. When this happened I cut and dyed my hair, I got a new phone, I brleive I cut off all the ties and well contact was a problem given I see him at school all the bloody time and I wishes everyone in my contacts a happy holidays. He wanted to be feeinfs, but ignored me. I stil l have feeling for him and I don’t know why. I feel like I have moved on till I see him then I lose all of it and can5 help but smile and LOVE him. See my problem. Big I know, can you help me?
Of course, trying to learn how to get your ex boyfriend back the wrong way doesn’t have to be so dramatic. Simply emailing him two weeks after the breakup to ask if he has your electric toothbrush can be enough to sway things out of your favor.
Hi guys, great article. How about if this is not a rebound? My ex and I broke up two years ago, I left him. For over a year he tried to get me back, but we fought because he always did it while dating other women. We both cried a lot during this time, and in January I asked him to go no contact. He then started dating this woman and February! And have been together since. That’s 8 months now, and, after not seeing him for 7 months, I found them at a park where we had released a memorial for a baby with lost. It was a huge surprise to see him there. We started emailing again, and earlier in October he asked me to do grief therapy with him. It seemed very strange to do it almost 2 years after the breakup. We have had three sessions, to have been incredibly emotional, with crying from both of us, with his long-term therapist. But it seems to be couples therapy more than grief. And afterwards, he always wants to have a couple drinks and talk some more. During this times he just stares at me and cries more. I asked him if he loves his new girlfriend, to which he said he does and looks down to the floor when he mentions it however, he writes and tells me that things are not the same, and that there are very specific things he’s missing about us. And he wonders if he will ever be able to love like that again. I know the new girlfriend is a very powerful woman, and Rich, and everything in her CV is what he had professionally longed-for. I don’t know how to bridge my emerging feelings, and have requested to stop therapy. I know they fight because she doesn’t agree with the therapy, obviously, but, he really wants to continue doing it. He also says that he loves me still. I don’t think she’s a rebound. Is she? And, what can I do to turn this around? Thank you for all your help!
You need to look within yourself and be honest. If you think you can still trust the person wholeheartedly then go for it. But you have to be careful. Seriously—if he cheated on you once he’ll cheat on you again, that’s for sure! What I’m trying to say is, it’s better if you don’t look back. Less conflict, worry-free and new possibilities for love and better life. Science have proven that once a cheater is always a cheater so do yourself some favor and look for someone else who would see your true value…