I have been divorced for 2 years now, after a 23 year marriage. I cannot get over him, I still see him lots and hang out as friends, but everything you said is true. I wish I was still married. I am a strong person, I came alone to this country from Europe and was doing great. Now, I am not so great, I like being married and it felt comfortable. Now I think I am worthless – nobody wants me and I am really afraid of a future alone. I have one 19 year old daughter who is everything to me. I feel that all my life I have lost things that were dear to me. I left my family when I was young, my husband left me and eventually my daughter will move out and start her own life which is normal. I just feel I am nobody without a man on my side, I totally miss it, I don’t know. There is my heart and then my head, two different feelings, I know all the stuff I should do but my heart is not always where it should be I still miss him tremendously. I have a hard time moving on and I know I am not free of him yet. I just miss my little family – it was comfortable and good (well not always) but now in my mid 50ties, I feel that there is nothing good coming. And yes, I work full time and also have a little part time job to kill my time as I am lonely. I do reach out to friends, but many of them are women and I miss being with guys.

According to relationship expert, Randy Bennett, these three methods can create powerful mood states, get him thinking about you and make him desire you like no other woman. You can learn exactly how to do it here.

This is the ultimate way to get over your ex. Even though your past relationship didn’t work, it shouldn’t stop you from loving again. Try not to close your heart to a new possibility of a love that is better, bolder, and greater than the previous one. Smile and be hopeful. There is someone who is right for you, someone who will be thankful to have you, someone who will treasure and respect you more than anyone else.

“At first, do no harm” is actually an old Hippocratic Oath that applies mostly to doctors, but I think it’s a good metaphor to use after a breakup as well…especially if your end goal is to get back with your ex boyfriend. The absolute first step to take is to make sure you don’t do anything stupid and make things worse than they already are.

Thank you for your reply. I understood that one of the purpose of NC to introduce changes to my own life and approach. But I am not addicted to this guy, only attracted to him and wanna try if it works with him. I can live without him. I have my life, my goal in life without him. I am aware that both of us should work on it and use a different approach. Definetely I should starte. What I am saying: it is not a more year old relationship but only 3 month long and basically was about sex. Ergo, if I wait say 1 month my chance to get him back is decreasing in my view.

Often relationships end badly due to the fact they were unhealthy to start with. With that in mind, acknowledge what went wrong in the relationship and what you learned from it all rather than dwelling on the feelings you still have. These will fade as you seek resolution in yourself by reconnecting with yourself the way you did with that person. Soon you will look back and understand that you mistook a life experience for a soul-mate.

Watch For Trouble Signs- No one is perfect and this is especially true of relationships. Each one has it’s ups and downs. Your job is to keep an eye out for his troubles with his new girl and be there to provide support and remind him how good he had it with you.

If you’ve been searching about breakups and getting your ex back online, you’d know that there is a thing called no contact rule. It’s simple and very effective. All you have to do is stop all the communication with your ex for a short period of time. This includes

Know that you are not alone on this journey. You know that you are not the only one who has ever felt the hurt of a break up. You will get over them. Time is a great healer. Do not get back with this person without a lot of consideration. Keep thinking about the reason you broke up. You do not want to go down that road again, do you!

Now, the key is to getting your ex back is making him want you. This means that despite how much you may be tempted to beg or plead for another chance, you should never do this — it’ll make you look weak, desperate and even pathetic…. that’s not the image you want to give yourself if you’re trying to win him over again.

Moreover, I have worked with many thousands of men and you know what I tell them when they’re not getting the results they want in their love life? I tell them that they need to change something… and some of them whine, “Why do men have to do all the work? Women just have to show up and their desires and wanted, men have to move mountains, etc.”

The last of the things you want to do in such occasion is to become hasty and nervous. Do not let the fear of losing your boyfriend overcome you. Just keep calm and cool. Shake hands well enough to let her know that you were never ever in close touch with the man.

I had 3 month long relationship with a guy from a dating site. I have trust problems because of 20 year long marriage in which I was kinda abused. So that is why decided I did not want a serious relationship, only a friend with benefit type of thing. The guy was very polite. We had only kissing on first date and it took a while for him to even ask for it. Later I told him I did not want a serious relationship but it seemed he was hoping in it. We had very strong chemistry. After we had sex he was taken to hospital. It was crazy. I started to feel something however the plan was not that. I have decided to split up with him but someway I was not able. So we were keeping in touch for 1 month then he was released. I did not trust him. First I though even hospital was lie and then I discovered he was texting with others. I tried to get closer to him but he had walls. We had fights since I felt him cold, too rational therefore I got angry towards him and we had awful fights.We split up 3x but it started again. I emphasized that it was only about sex for me but he wanted sg more serious. Once I have seen him to chat with someone else for a long time. I asked him to tell me if he had someone else and let me go since it is too painful this way to me. He told me that there was no anyone else just he did not know where he stood with me since I was working against the relationship. Basically I think I did not know what I wanted and we had walls. Ok. I asked him to start it again. He asked for time and I promised time. So he messaged me but when I wanted to reply I saw he was chatting with someone again and got angry and attacked him. I said really really mean things. He switched off phone. I was thinking I might have hurt him deliberately because I was not brave enough to start sg serious and wanted to get rid of him instinctively. Next day I said sorry. I was feeling really awful about myself. I am not an evil person. But he did not read it (or yes but it was not displayed).

But this is how you start to get into his head; it is how you speak to his ego and leave him questioning his importance in your life. The best way to get your ex boyfriend back is to make him think getting back together is the last thing on your mind.

He broke up with me over a month ago and i am still upset. I know he is not seeing anyone else and he knows i’m not either. When we broke up he told me he wants to be happy (he’s very depressed). He told me that he loves me way more than i love him and it’s just difficult to deal with that because i think that 2 people who love each other should be with together. we have been texting and it’s either very short or very long and we also have our location on for each other. we were together for almost 15 months and i see a future with him and he is fully aware that i would do anything to have him back. i want to see him so badly but i don’t think he wants to see me. He’s going through a lot of stuff like depression and he gets lost in his thoughts and this caused him to think i was cheating or lying to him or that i didn’t love him. I think cheating is disgusting and i’d never lie to him. He also can’t get over certain things…. such as him not being my first sexual partner which bothers me because i am a year older than him and it just bothers me that he doesn’t understand. all i want is for him to be happy but i also want him to be happy with me and i am so stuck. i asked him if he would ever come back and he said he doesn’t know. everyone keeps telling me to focus on myself and i can’t because i’m only focused on him and i really have hopes that we will get back together.

So this guy I like, dated for about five months and then we had to break it off. Our relationship was a long distance one so I didn’t know if he was cheating on me or talking trash about me. So one day I text him in the morning letting him know that I was having my surgery and nothing. Then around 3, I texted him letting him know it went good and my shoulder was going to heal. Still heard nothing back from him but when I went on facebook he was active so I texted him and he saw it and no response. But then there was a post on facebook with him kissing my best friend. I acted as if I didn’t see it and then three months later he finally respond to my texts. I broke up with him and didn’t talk for two years. Then after the two years, he asked me to take him back so I did and then he did the same thing again and I left him again. Now he texted me last night asking me to give him a third chance and I haven’t said anything. I don’t know if I should answer him or not! What should I do? Plz, help me with this!

If you have kids with your ex your no contact situation is a little different. Obviously you can’t just disappear off the map for 3 months. So, here is what I want you to do. I want you to enter into a limited contact period.

It can often be difficult to get over a relationship you were heavily invested in. My personal feelings are that reaching out and developing new friends and new experiences tend to move you past the older events that you hold on to. A new relationship won’t fix the feelings, but new friends and experiences often lead to you moving past the old feelings.

If you are afraid you are going to end up alone I want you to take a massive action and go out and date more people when you are ready. Don’t let your breakup with your ex affect you to the point where you actually believe this non sense of “No one loves me.”

Some women are prone to falling in “love” immediately after a breakup but see this for what it really is – not wanting to be alone. Nobody enjoys being alone all the time and every human wants company and love but achieving that through a rebound relationship is a bad idea in 99.9% of cases. You’ll either emotionally hurt yourself even more than you are right now or you’ll hurt an innocent guy who genuinely cares for you and might have become a long-term boyfriend if you’d only waited a little while longer before going out looking for a relationship again.

If, for example, you cheated on him, I must say to you now, you have small chances of getting him back. He is hurt and things will probably never be the same. So, maybe the best thing you can do is move one and leave him alone.

Then you are still suffering from post-breakup denial and bargaining. Denial and bargaining are two of the many stages of grief after a breakup. It’s extremely common for people to want to get their ex back after a breakup. However, it’s not always the right choice.

Dear! Sometimes it is really important that you tell the truth , how harsh it might be to the listener. It eventually does good to both the persons involved.If you do not want to face him, write a mail and make it absolutely clear that you are totally over him.And that you are not comfortable with him interfering in your personal life more than required.

This is a pretty fun topic for me personally because I’m married to my high school ex-boyfriend, and my college ex-boyfriend is my business partner, so I guess you could say I’m a real ex-back success story!

Look, you were fantastic while the two of you were together. You’re an incredible person to begin with. And you just side tracked a little. But, there’s no better feeling than running into an ex when you are at the top of your game.

When the string of messages, calls, and meetings keep going, gauge how it is going. See if you’d really like to rekindle the romance or it was just a mere ‘post-breakup’ urge that has long since been extinguished. A flirtationship is okay too, if you think that the signal is green. But do not create unnecessary pressure or expect it to magically be ‘like always.’ Reflect on all your interactions, meetings, and try and figure out from his responses if he really seems interested in giving it a second shot.