“Start talking again, and get your friendship back,” Phoenix writes. “Realize how much you’ve missed her! Not her in your arms, or her in your bed, but her as a person. She knows you so well, and vice versa.”

Be specific. Don’t just say, “I’m sorry for everything.” Say, “I’m sorry I didn’t listen to you when you really wanted to talk. I should have been much more attentive.” She will appreciate this, and it will make you seem more self-aware.

I already made my mind up that should she suddenly want me back that I will not move in again. Why do something over that didn’t work? Besides of that we won’t have the roommate-roomowner issue in our relationship but be equals. But I don’t know. Im choosing for myself right now and will act to it. If she realizes she misses me well then we need to talk at one point. I still have feelings for her after all and can’t ignore that aslong as I have them. Question is: will she miss me that much that she wants me back?

Hi, I’m Les. My gf mentioned to break up due to another man and no more feeling with me, I’ve stopped this action taken as I can’t take it! We’ve been together around 5yrs. We never stay together. I was leaving the state around half year and she had ask me to stay but, I insist to leave due to good opportunity. I came back finally and she told me this. I nearly gone crazy as our relationship was quite stable. Never think this will happen. She keep saying no more feeling with girl, what can I do to get her back again coz I too love her. I’ve tried to make her think back how hard we start together and so on. I even pay more attention to her, Concentrate on her. Just feel like fall in love again. Feel like I can’t live without her now. I wanna die if breakup. Please help. PM me if possible. Thanks in advanced.

Not only we share the situation, we also share the name. My girlfriend and I agreed to break up on basically the same grounds, same EVERYTHING, so reading about your relationship is painful. Anyway, since you broke up about two weeks earlier than me, how did the getting back work? Did you quit? Still trying? Already together? Any tips? HELP ME!

A wee bit of fun, a guilty pleasure, reversing the traditional superhero dynamic: what if a woman had the superpowers? In this film, played for yuck-yuck-yuck-yuck-yucks, naturally she’ d have to be, er, you know, a little, er, difficult, yah? So what if its a one joke premise? The ensemble has some fun with it, with Luke Wilson as Lois Lane, Rainn Wilson as Jimmy Olsen, and Eddie Izzard as Lex Luthor. And of course, me always liking some Uma Thurman and Anna Faris. Its better than it sounds.

In the first part of this 3 STEP PLAN, I am going to tell you what are the biggest mistakes that people make after they’ve broken up. These extremely common mistakes end up hurting your chances of getting back together. This is perhaps the most important part of this series so make sure you read each and every point and follow it.

Use the things she liked about you before to your advantage – For instance, if she likes a particular outfit, then consider wearing it again when you are meeting her. You can also talk about a fun and light-hearted memory you once shared. Have dinner or visit a place that both of you are familiar with since you hang out there before most of the time.

Ok, so you sent out your text to remind them of the good ole days where the two of you were as thick as thieves but they haven’t responded yet. First off, it isn’t the end of the world. Sometimes people get busy and don’t have time to respond right away. Waite a few days before you jump to any conclusions.

Up until this point this “guide” has been over twelve thousand words. I am telling you that because I could literally write a guide of the same length to cover EVERYTHING you will need to know about going on a date but I don’t really have the time or patience to do that (though maybe one day soon I will.)

The message seems fine. And I think texting him on that particular day is fine, because ultimately you bear no ill intentions. If the relationship you shared with him was meaningful enough, he would know where you’re coming from, and that you simply wish to let him know that you’ll be there for him.

And you know what happens to a relationship where one person is a doormat? They end. Sooner or later they all end. If you want to get your ex back and give it a real chance, please do not become doormat.

Note that most issues in a relationship do not just come up unexpectedly. They actually build up overtime. There is a chance that the problem is not just one-sided. Both of you played a role in the break-up. In fact, you will realize that there were actually signs that showed up before that the break-up was imminent.

My situation is a little different. I am 22 and my boyfriend of 2.5 years broke up with me. It was basically because he thought we were sexually incompatible (which isn’t really true, as I change drastically depending on what’s going on around me) and it wasn’t going to work out.

If you do succeed in getting back together, don’t dwell on past wrongs or spend time blaming each other for what went wrong. Instead, focus on discussing what each of you needs from the relationship and discuss how to help each other get it. Focus on what you want moving forward rather than on what you did or didn’t do in the past. For example, you might explain, “I felt like you got annoyed with me when I went out with my friends, and I think it might have been because I didn’t let you know about my plans far enough in advance. Is that right?” Then suggest ways of resolving the problem going forward, like agreeing to give at least 5 hours notice before going out on weeknights, etc.

I am thankfull for the breakup, because it gave me the opportunity I never had before. I got to know myself better, who I am, what I want, and that this school doesn’t make me happy. I learned how to be happy. I learned, that my inner fire dissapeared, and I have to respark it by doing the things I love, not what the others want me to do. I lost my optimistic and happy attitude. Thank you a lot for this opportunity.

Finally she contacted back after NC. She said she is fine and she will be back but still need a bit more time for herself to recover. Her name is aparna and i love her. Thanks for your help AMOR. Couldn’t do it without you.

2. Do not stalk her or check her Facebook, every time u do fell like doing it Talk Your Self Out and every time u think of her -count till 10 and shift ur thought somewhere else positively eg, having piña coladas with naked woman, happy thought only..

In this case, should i inform her that I would not contact her for a while, or still answer her calls but keep the conversation to general topics and avoid getting to serious topics? Or should I just ignore her (and might push her more away)?

Go to the places where you know she’ll be without being too obvious about it. When you see her, stop and chat to let her know you care, but don’t drop everything to go talk to her. Instead, have a great time with your friends and make her want to join in on the fun.

Personally, it’s been quite a long while. It may be worth a shot to try contacting her once more and you could be honest and explain the situation back then and apologize for it, then see if she’s willing to still stay friends.

You don’t have to avoid her 100% of the time, but you should cut back on visiting your favorite hangouts or hanging out with mutual friends in hopes of seeing her. Think of this as your time to regroup before you win her over again.

Spend some time looking at your relationship and figure out which parts work and which parts don’t. Bowman suggests that you take a moment to imagine a perfect day in your perfect relationship. What would this look like? How would you and your partner interact? Then create a plan of how you might get from point A (your current reality) to point B (that perfect day). Write it down if you need to, then start breaking the issues into bite-size pieces and tackling them one at a time. Before you know it, there will only be a few bite-size problems left.

Now, there are two ways that you can contact your ex. One is through a letter or email, and the other one is through text messages. You can also call your ex but I recommend you first build up some attraction using text messages and letter before calling them.

Write in a journal- Sometimes your mind is constantly racing with thoughts about your ex boyfriend and since you can’t talk to him for 30 days it might be a good idea to jot your thoughts down in a journal.

Typically men don’t like to hurt your feelings. Thus, it is entirely possible that whatever reason they gave you for the breakup may not be completely true. I’ll admit that we men sometimes don’t even know why we want out of a relationship we just do.

Many texts went back and forth he stated he was in a bad place he is drinking too much and angry at his ex. he said his heart wasn’t in it with me. He asked me to give him time, he said he wanted me to meet the real him and not the angry guy he is now. He wants to bring me on romantic weekends away and surprise dates when he gets his head straight. He stated he was only dating me and had no interest in dating sites. He asked me to give him time stating he really liked me. I asked him to delete any naughty texts etc we sent each other he said he was sad deleting them and would miss spending time with me. I did did not reply two hours later he texted again asking me to give him time and said please don’t hate me. I told him to sort his head out and id look forward to meeting the real him but told him not to take too long. He said he wouldn’t as he really liked me. All his messages were signed off with an x.

You are right, the respect thing in the relationship is a big issue and you should have a serious but calm discussion about it with her, in fact you both should let one another know what is important in order to make this new relationship a happy success for both of you. You don’t wanna run into the same mess as before.

If you’re unhealthy, clean up your diet and start working out. If you’re a workaholic, cut your hours at the office. You need to become the best version of yourself now that you want her back. [Read: 25 signs and qualities that make a great boyfriend]

Knowing the signs that your ex may still be in love with you can help determine exactly how and when to take action. Whether or not you can fix your breakup will depend upon how successful you are at:

You have to figure out whether his intentions are out of concern as a friend, or he actually likes you still, or just wants the benefits (hookup). Regardless, it would best for you to give him some space, considering you don’t know what his intentions are, and he may not know either. Apply the No Contact Rule and focus on yourself in the meantime. If he likes you, he will come back.

Hi, need help. my ex boyfriend called my recent boyfriend and told him not to call me anymore. I tried to explain to my boyfriend that the dude was just jealous that I’m now seeing him but he doesn’t wanna take my story. I love this guy and had been with him for 3 weeks but now we don’t contact each other anymore. What must I do?

Getting her to want you back in a committed relationship is more about what NOT to do, than what to do. Because, you have the attraction back by this point from the previous steps, so all you need to do here is get out of your own way, and let the getting-back-together happen on it’s own.

I cannot sleep or eat because all I can think about is her. And when I try to just forget about her and hang with friends, even then there is always a connection or a reminder that I see that reminds me of her. I get super depressed and I cannot focus. Lately Ive been feeling like the biggest bitch in the world. Usually I try to just let things go but everything in my body keeps telling me that “don’t give up on her”. And honestly I don’t want to give up. But I’m just stuck because I don’t know what to do. I don’t know what I can do to get her back. She means more to me than anything else in the world, and I would do anything to have her back.