Before you approach your ex-girlfriend and convince her to give your relationship a second chance, make sure that you have already spent time alone. Alone time is crucial during your break-up. Ensure that you have already focused on improving yourself and you are now really ready to make the relationship work. For this step to work, consider doing the following tips:
How and when to bring up the subject of getting back together so that she agrees (there’s a right way and a wrong way to do this – the former works like a charm, while the latter fails every single time).
1st – It will help you to avoid looking needy and insecure. As you already know, neediness and insecurity are biggest attraction killers so it is better to avoid displaying these two unattractive qualities.
Remember that one thing that you can no longer stomach may actually be very tolerable for another. That said, you have to reflect on your past relationship and ask yourself what’s the exact reason for your breakup. Dig deeper. Once you figured out the reason, it is time to assess whether it is something that you can live with, tolerate, or forgive.
Same case is with me mate, I want my GF badly but do not know how? She stopped talking to me and replying me as well but most surprising thing was she did not tell me why she did so? I never did any thing that hurt her, she is not telling me the reason as well, I am extremely disappointed. Someone help me please.
After a year and few months, my ex left me cold turkey. I’ve been told that it was immature or just selfish the way she just stopped..talking. She was 25 and I was her 2nd real boyfriend, she was a goodie stay at home girl. Well it’s been almost a year, and she’s still on my mind, i still wish we were together, maybe after I get my RN license, i can talk to her again. Sometimes I want to text her just to ask how she is or somehow to see that beautiful smile of hers again..It sucks that when I think of us, I think of all the good, fun, and happy times, and I never think of the bad times that happened between us, unless someone actually tells me to think about it, and think about how she made me stress and how she didn’t appreciate the things I would do for her. Sad thing is it feels like all she ever thinks about are the bad things and the faults during our relationship. I think this is where people that are in love differ…I can only see what makes her so special to me and why its so hard for me to remember the not so green side of the relationship. Maybe finding someone that sees only the good in me is what love truly is. Its 3am I’m incoherent, I’ll probably forget I ever wrote this..
It may be possible there are numbers of things that your ex was doing that make you uncomfortable. For example, she may leave all her crap in the bathroom, and you get angry for not having any space for your stuff. Or she may yell at you for watching television and drinking a beer when you are in the mood of unwinding yourself.
Text messages should ideally be used after sending the hand written letter to build up attraction. You can even skip the hand written letter and move on directly to text messages. You know your situation and your ex better than anyone, so it’s your decision whether or not you want to use just text messages, just the letter, or both. But I highly recommend you use either one or both of these before actually calling your ex.
Well here is my situation – I started dating this girl 10 months ago right after her break up with her last boyfriend. Actually we started dating before they had even broken up. But everything was going smoothly; I am a really and I mean really kind person and I treated her really special. Everything was going so well I thought this wasn’t possible. Too good to be true, right? So after the 6th month I had to go to the US to work and travel for the summer ( I am from EU ) and we were really sad but we were still making plans for after I come back from the States and how everything is going to be all good and we are going to be happy etc. What really happened is – she started acting weird a little bit before I came back. She wasn’t writing me that much on Facebook anymore, less “I love you” lines which really got me thinking ( well, I was actually foooling myself as I thought that will pass or she is not in the mood these days… She actually really wasn’t but I was the reason ) So 3 days ago she came to visit me ( we study in the same city and same university but she was away from her home town because ((which was the town where we both studied)) she had a summer job and she worked close to where MY hometown is. So on the 4th day after i had come back we finally got the chance to meet when she was not at work and she just came to visit me in my home town. After we spent the whole day together, all my worries dissapeared. I thought I was worrying for no reason and it was all butterflies and rainbows. NO. We would usually have this thing to say “I love you” right after “talk to you soon” after we finish a phone call and yesterday she just didn’t say it and we always say it, as stupid as it sounds… it was our thing. I called her 2 mins later with some questions in mind to keep up a conversation for more than 2-3 mins just to see if she didn’t say it on purpose. Second time – no “I love you”… just same old “talk to you later” and that made me feel terrible. I texted her i wanted to talk and that something is wrong and we can’t keep this going like that. I meant it in good way, we can always fix something in a relationship right? I mean if we both loved each other. She replied “I want to talk to you too”. This was the text that made my heart go as if I had jumped off an airplane and both my parachutes had failed me. I instantly called her and asked her if she REALLY wanted to be with me or not. The answer was devastating for me – “I need to talk to you about that”. This just almost crushed me on the inside. We started talking and she explained to me that the feelings are just not the same; that feelings change and given the time that i was gone and distance she had from me, made her realized she felt a lot better having her own freedom.”I just felt free” she said. We both didn’t cheat with anyone but she said she feels better alone now and she doesn’t want anyone. She said when she saw me the other day the feelings weren’t the same as before. She just did not feel the happiness of seeing me like last time we were away ( winter break – about 3 weeks). “We are just not right for each other” – words no guy wants to hear from his beloved right? Well imagine how i felt yesterday. “You will find a better one than me, trust me”, she said. I told her that i still loved her but she kept on saying she didn’t feel the same way anymore. I explained that I would be devastated for a long time but she just kept on saying it is going to pass really fast and I am going to find a really better girl than her.
Hey guys i really need help. Me and our gf have gone through a breakup its not the first time this would be the third time. But i do not know if this one is serious. She said shes too young for a relationship she just wants to be single an live life. She does not want a bf. weve been together for 2 and a half years. I took her birginity and she took mine. But i dont want to lose her im desperate to have her back. I waited a couple of weeks then started speaking to her again. We caught up a couple of times just as friends. But even then she doesnt txt me unless i txt her. And when she replies its only short words. She actually got angry coz i went out with a few mates drinking and she asked if i hooked up with another girl. So that msg to me feels like she still cares for me but doesnt want a relationship. I snapped last night and txtd her and askes if she ever misses us. She said i dont think it can work anymore i just want to live life on my own. People are saying find someone new she was your first love. But the thing is i dont want to. We shared so many good times together. It was always me and her. She was me to a tea i couldnt see myself with anyone else but her. Shes the girl i want to spend the rest of my life with. I need this girl back so bad its not funny.
1. Backed off /stopped all contact with ex , delete number face book , collect all stuff like jewellery, photos and other stuff put in the box and give it to ur family or friend to keep 4 while… So u don’t get reminded of her…
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