It was the strangest break-up I’ve ever had. I’ve never broken up out of a relationship when things were going well…. was she just putting on a mask while we were dating???…. She said she tried developing feelings for me but she just couldn’t… But her actions 100% prove otherwise… she could never keep her hands off of me!!!

We already know that you are the kind of person they like (since they were attracted to you at one time) we just have to work on restoring what dissipated over time and repairing any errors that have occurred since you have been together.

In these situations, it’s impossible to not want to try again, and I forgive you in advance for doing what all the movies and TV shows tell us not to — and for trying to get back with your ex. So here are some tips for not screwing it up too bad.

Avoid contact for the first month after the break-up. They will call you if they want to talk. If they don’t, nothing you say or wear will change that. Sometimes, ignoring your ex makes them feel like you are perfectly fine without them and are moving on, which is the exact opposite of what they want.

The secret here is to assess the specific reasons why your relationship did not work out in the past. Find out if it is any different this time. If no one changed and worked on improving himself/herself, then there is a chance that your relationship will fail once again. With that in mind, you have to make sure that you are both mature enough before rekindling the relationship.

Make her jealous (optional). This is an optional move because it depends on the situation. If your relationship ended because she was so jealous that you were always hanging around with other girls, then you shouldn’t make her jealous or she’ll just be reminded of the reason why things didn’t work out between you. But if your relationship ended because she thought you were just too into her, or that she was bored by you, then making her jealous is a great move. Here’s how to do it:

Last week, I learned that my coworker, Maria Del Russo, “goes scorched earth” any time she gets out of a relationship, cutting off all contact from her former love interest. I can’t fault her for that; plenty of people would probably agree that severing all ties is the clearest way to say that it’s really, really over.

On the surface, everything seems to be going perfectly now for Rebecca and Josh’s wedding to be the dream she’s always envisioned, the ceremony which is taking place in a couple of days. She sees the…

#4 Is this what you really want? Are you just doing this because you see her with a new guy and you’re jealous? Or do you really feel you need to be with her? There’s a huge difference. The last thing you need is to realize you actually don’t want to be with her. Are you just lonely? Scared? Confused? Figure out your shit before you even contact her. [Read: Getting back together? Why slow and steady is the only way ahead]

My girl and I had been trying to figure out something to do for New Years. Her friends had asked what we were going to do, and I through out the idea of going to Atlantic City, in which they politely declined. Than I figured, what the hell, let us just go, and she started to say how she isn’t going to have the money for it since she will be heading to Michigan with family for the holidays and wouldn’t be working. While she I was away, all I could think about was ringing in the New Year with her for the first time. Things have been perfect. I have never been happier. She brightens up my world.