I would like to ask you if you could help me out with a piece of advise about how could I rebuild attraction without him realizing what I am doing? He knows my tricks and methods, so I would need new ones but don’t have a clue what should I do to charm him but still be myself. I would like to build up at least a little bit of attraction till March, as I will be in his town for a week, and I know that that week will be decisive in what will happen next. Could you please give me some examples or a direction how should I approach him in a romantic way without scaring him?

Remember that cycling relationships (those that experience breakups and get back together) tend to have a higher rate of dissatisfaction, lack of trust, and eventual failure, so be prepared to put extra work into your new relationship.[19]

(Disclaimer: I promised myself that I was going to use this page to legitimately help people. So, I feel that this section is important. While this may not be a section about how to get him back it is a section that is something I added in to prevent you from making a big mistake, going after a guy that will only hurt you very deeply again.)

He comes from a very religious and very strict family. So Our problem is that his mother told him that she “doesn’t think God wants us to be together.” And he, of course, listened to her opinion… keep in mind, we are in highschool.

So the one I love just stopped contacting and stopped taking my calls all of a sudden and everything was perfect the day before…but when there’s a call with another line,the dude picks up….do you really think the no contact rule will work in this case?….Please help

I dead inside and out for the the last 7 to 8 my girlfriend of 4 years and the only woman ill ever love truely I feel like I can never trust again. We just had a beautiful son and she moved 160 miles away back with her mother. I tried everything I let her be a stay at home mom and didn’t ask for anything in return till I relized she never fed me cleaned the house. Witch she blamed on me not taking care of my son. Yet the place was never clean before she even got pregnant. I just got done reading a thing about emotional abuse and I’m so confused. Did she feel that I was. Is that why shes had such a easy time leaving me? cause she felt I was but honestly I feel that I am abused. Still to this da and to top it off I cant get her outs my mind. Almost every thing I see touch taste I hear the question in my head man I bet Tabatha would love this. Then I weep like a little hitch. Then smile seeing that shes happier without me atleast I think so. She makes it apparent that she wants nothing not even a chivalry friendship from me. Example this is my sons 2nd Christmas she always wants to buy him more presents then he will know what to do with. So I tell her I haven’t bought his gift yetwould you like me to get something off your list. Responds yes. Lastnight I am told I can come spend Christmas with my son. Yet I want to get her a gift as a friend and ask permission. She denies stating she only has me around for Jonah’s sake. Yet to me that contradicts basically to me it says. No Jonah will not see a proper relationship between his mother and father with respect and love. Just like she was without father. I almost feel he was driven away to look like the crazy drug addict dude that hes not I don’t know though. Growing up like that did it make it ok in her mind that she needed to leave me after getting stressed from a dirty home that I bated as well just didn’t feel my job to do if she wanted to play house and make the nest. Will this result in the same way with my son and his relationships when he grows. 2 so I get to go there no friends no family mind you I don’t have any here at home either due to my depression and choices past 8 months since she stole my son from me. Pay for somenof her presents to him and watch as what my son has learnedly to call a family open presents and be joyful as I gibe and Recieve nothing cause I’m only allowed there for my son. Sorry so long I’m breaking down and don’t have anyone in my life to confide in that dosn’t hates. Her anyway lost confused and feel like giving up I felt this was my only chance. Please help me I feel like I should go to be with my son but like I said I feel abused neglected and in turn I don’t even have my family to help me. They want me to help myself but I don’t drive I am unemployed since break up and almost feel like not doing anything is the only thing I can do. No motivation and noneone will even give me help I feel like ive been screaming for it for months now and all that got me was a DV with my brother that neither one of is violent people stuff just happens more stress more typing sorry. Help me decide see son ignore abuse or sit here in this bated town and rot either I feel will be the end of my ride. Again sorry for small book.

My ex and I broke up 2 weeks ago and we tried not talking at all, however we could only go two days without talking. He broke up with me because he said he is unhappy in his life right now and that he has to figure his life out and that he doesnt want to drag me down too. He says he still loves me. I still love him to. I just am confused on what to do. We talked and I asked him if he wants to hang out and be friends and have sex sometimes. He said he doesnt want to do that because he doesn’t wanna make it harder for either of us, but I convinced him to hang out with me. We started having sex and hanging out. He has been worried that we both won’t be able to move on if we continue to do this. I told him that I still want him in my life and he said he still wants me in his. He just doesn’t understand why I can have sex with him without feeling guilty. He told me that me having sex with him confuses him and he wants to but is worried it will make it hard for him in the future. I wanna be with him. I wanna get back together with him I just dont know how. I have tried everything.

Afterwards we texted for almost three consecutive days, but we both agreed that it felt weird and decided to text each other every other day for the whole day. We both have every intention of finally meeting up on Christmas. She’s said she’s really wanting to focus on school right now, which I completely respect, but I do want to get her back. I want to prove to her that I can not be a clingy, jealous, insecure guy! Are the steps we are taking the appropriate ones?

Experiencing our loving self through this internal image can be a powerful motivator during times of struggle. This is similar to imagining a parent being proud of our accomplishments, long after he or she is gone.

This is something that you should avoid doing if you really want him back. Maintain your dignity. After your break-up, there are really instances when you want to come running to him and beg him to be with you again.

Compounding all this is the isolation we might feel, particularly if we have exhausted the patience of friends and families. After all, they have supported us through the relationship’s difficulties and the break-up. Following a prescribed period of mourning, they expect us to move on.