There are so many ways to contact a person these days, it’s almost ridiculous. You can call them, text them, facebook them, tweet them, and so much other stuff. And this comfortable technology leads to one of the worst mistakes people make after a breakup, texting their ex all the time (sometimes hundreds to thousands of texts a day).

Now here’s something to chew on: she wants to come back to you right this very moment… she’s just waiting for you to pave the way for her return. How do I know? Because I’ve seen it happen time and time again… I’ve seen men (men on the verge of giving up on their ex-girlfriends) take their breakups and effortlessly turn them into a stronger, healthier relationships by following a few key pieces of my advice.

Some people try to be there for their ex. They walk their dog, they show up at their door with some gifts, and other things. This hinders your value, and makes them wish you were gone. Aside from cutting off communication, it’s imperative that you are not visible. You cannot be seen by her, by your own doing. This will create value, as absence makes the heart grow fonder. You’ll force her to think about you, and will not let her have control, you’ll be in control.

Your action item during the no contact rule when it comes to looks is to not get enamored with them. Realize that if you don’t feel you are good looking your other qualities can make up for it. Trust me on this.

Listen to your friends and family. Although you might feel defensive, those who are close to you and know you well often have good insight into your relationships. If someone you know and trust has a bad feeling about your relationship, you should take that as an indication that there could be trouble.

It is essential that you talk about experiences that your ex enjoyed. A lot of people screw up because they only talk about stuff that they miss. Make sure you are talking about stuff that your ex misses as well. Here is a good example of how this should be done.

“Thank you, my ordeal is now over and i am back with my girlfriend. After doing what you instructed she confessed that she couldn’t handle loosing me and we are now back together, but on my terms. The story went like this…”

Delete those old emails. Erase your text conversations. Stop looking at the hair ties and bobby pins she left behind. Put away the last shirt she left behind at your house. Reminders are only going to make it harder to get over missing her and force you to stay focused on the past.

Do you post sad facebook status messages all day? Do you hope that your ex will see them and come back to you? Whenever your ex calls, do you tell them how much you miss them and how much lonely you are without them? Do you think your ex will take you back because of pity?

Asking how to get YOUR ex girlfriend back is a broken question.  I’m sorry, but it’s true.  It’s like when people ask what exercise to do to get defined abs.  Not gonna happen with 20% body fat.  Crunch all you want.

Thanks so much for that post. It helped me out in a bad place. But, if the person I spent 9 months with, and who told me she loved me and couldn’t imagine life without me, doesn’t miss me, then who will? That’s been an enormous source of self-deprecation for me.

The point is many of the men think of themselves as complete and according to demand. But it has been said by the dating specialists and gurus of the field, that the men are mostly lacking in the fulfilling of their girlfriend demands. This is where relationship gets broken. When one of the partner is working hard to get upto other, the other one thinks of himself as great enough or complete enough to meet the other demands. [otp_overlay]