wow. The advice sounds great and seems so hard. I find it hard to grieve a relationship… I found it easier to just rebound… I know that will only mess me up more. I gona try these steps but what could I do when this hot new guy asks me out?

Thank you that article was great but I didn’t find it helpful. My ex and I are in contact after 33 years. We were first loves and his obligation to the military and me being so young is why were are apart. We never treated each other badly, it was just the opposite. Every time we looked for and found each other the timing was all wrong. I still love him and he loves me even though we are both in relationships. How do we move past and have a healthy friendship?

So since he wouldn’t believe me I think this is what made him go on a cheating spree. When I would leave him to try and move on I would try talking to other guys. But I loved him and kept going back to him. I would receive texts from this guy I wasn’t talking to any longer and my ex would get further upset and I would discover even more girls he would be talking to online and probably in person. So in reality I don’t how many times he cheated. All I know is that I was always loyal to him and honest.

You had a choice to think your relationship WAS EASY. When you think it’s easy, it will be easy. When you think it’s complicated, it becomes complicated. When you stress over it, it becomes stressful.

“After my boyfriend and I broke up I was devastated! My friends had my back, though, and they planned a girls’ night in, which included a pit fire. That night all three of us brought along things that we wish we could let go of. I brought notes that my boyfriend had written me, as well as a flower from him that I had pressed. That night we made a vow to be ‘freed’ from whatever we burned. I threw the whole pile in, topped with the rose, and watched as the pages curled with flames. I closed my eyes, took a deep breath, and haven’t looked back in years. It was great!” –Jenny, 18

Well i am absolutely in love with him and Im actually the one that broke up with him, because I knew he was cheating and he is still always flirting with me but he is also still flirting with the girl he cheated on me with and I don’t know what to do.

You have to make sure your ex boyfriend to start contact with you – but keep a balance. It is important to don’t avoid or ignore your ex boyfriend as these are ill feelings. Always try to look cheerful as you came out of breakup and enjoying your life. Allow your ex boyfriend to leave the conversation and let him do most of the work while conversing with you. Think about living with a female roommate.

Alexandra is a graduate from the University of New Hampshire and the current Assistant Digital Editor at Martha Stewart Living. As a journalism student, she worked as the Director of UNH’s Student Press Organization (SPO) and on staff for four student publications on her campus. In the summer of 2010, she studied abroad at Gonville and Caius College, Cambridge University, in England, where she drank afternoon tea and rode the Tube (but sadly no, she did not meet Prince Harry). Since beginning her career, her written work has appeared in USA Today College, Huffington Post, Northshore, and MarthaStewart.com, among others. When not in the office, she can be found perusing travel magazines to plan her next trip, walking her two dogs (both named Rocky), or practicing ballet. Chat with her on Twitter @allie_churchill.

My situation is a little different than most, we’ve been together for 5 years and he’s currently in the military now, he just ended things, with multiple reasoning but the last one was him saying he didn’t have time for a girlfriend nor did he want one. It’s been a week since we broke up and also a week of NC, I haven’t reached out, but is this going to work, is he really going to miss me even with us being so far away and his schedule being so hectic?? Please someone give me some advice…

The second I stepped onto the sidewalk, the photographer—sexy, scruffy, reeking of pheromones and cigarette smoke, and covered in skull tattoos—walked right past me. To make matters worse, there was a famous model on his arm.

It was hard getting over my ex-boyfriend, because we dated for three years, then he broke up with me right after New Year’s. I started drowning myself in my schoolwork, and I became very focused on my career goals and other dreams. It’s still a little hard sometimes, because we were high school sweethearts; however, I realized that by keeping myself busy I don’t think about him as much. –Naomi, 23