I truly believe that C. Terry Warner has uncovered the “secret” to having great relationships and a fulfilled life. His writing is clear (much better than mine :-), and his frequent use of stories makes the reading pleasant.

Money is one of the biggest stressors in a marriage. Couples worry and argue about it constantly. If you find you and your spouse are starting to badger each other over the bottom line, it’s time to have a penny-pinching powwow. “We are all guilty of something economists call ‘passive decision-making,’ which just means defaulting to the easy option,” says Jenny Anderson, coauthor of Spousonomics: Using Economics to Master Love, Marriage, and Dirty Dishes. “Couples need to make an active plan about how they will manage their money: Combine it? Separate it? Create a joint account and keep some separate? Whatever the decision, both people have to be part of the decision to do it and then figure out what needs to be done to keep the system humming.”

Prepare your words. The first thing that you say to your ex is extremely important. If you say the wrong words, you will lose the chance to get them back. You need to understand that even though you’re not together, there is a good chance they still harbor strong feelings for you.

Now, I do want to mention that I don’t recommend you lead on anyone you take on a date. If your heart is with your ex girlfriend don’t be an idiot and get involved with someone new. Not only are you going to hurt your ex girlfriend by moving on so fast but you are going to hurt the new girl you date because your heart really isn’t with her.

Jealously is the ultimate form of insecurity. Do you hate when your girlfriend spend time with her male friends? Or do you hate when your girlfriend laugh on her co-worker’s joke? If you let these come over you then you are showing that your girlfriend is having higher value than you – simply showing jealously.

I may be too late to get an experts’ advice on this, but lemme try. My girlfriend broke up with me about three weeks ago. I text and call her for like 20 times a day since the day of the breakup. Do I still have a chance with her if I take on this advice?

Peter also switched from “awfulizing” about his work situation from a stance of helpless victim to taking a problem-solving stance. What could he do to find a more positive work situation? He began networking with others in his field, stumbled on a job that sounded far more suitable, applied, and at this point is looking likely to get the position.  

Didn’t hear from her for a year and a half.  I really, really wish I had run into her somewhere – she sold her home but stayed in the same town, so it certainly could have happened.  I always felt on a gut level that a legitimate accidental encounter has an entirely different tenor than initiating contact.

If it was too easy the first time, make her chase you. If you can’t think of what went wrong in the relationship because you smothered her with love, then chances are that this was exactly what went wrong. She must have felt that your love and relationship was too easy, so you should try to make it more of a challenge.[1]

If you use any of these tricks you only will be destroying your chances for getting your ex for long lasting relationship. You may able to get your ex by tricking them but this will be only short-lived. Your ex will leave you again by finding the old problems in relationship are still there.

Ok thanks Ryan! Also we had a phone call recently just chit chat, it was a pleasant phone call I meantioned that I’m going away at the end of the week and if he wanted to see me, he said he feels pressured? And he doesn’t know, maybe another time then? I don’t know what he’s trying to communicate to me, as we’ve been texting for around a month and a phone call last night. At the end of the phone call we said it was nice to hear your voice and he said it was nice to hear your voice too. He sounded really depressed. I’m not sure if he needs more time? I’ve always been a go getter and he’s more relaxed and goes with the flow. could you explain what he means by pressured? Do I just give more time? My gut instinct and the way he sounded on the phone told me he missed me? Thanks

Stop texting your ex girlfriend to say how sad or hurt you feel. If she calls or texts, do not answer. If you really want to write something out, do so on your computer or a piece of paper and send it to yourself. At least that way, you get it out and can sort through the feelings without dragging her back into it.

My boyfriend and I broke up 2 weeks ago, and were actually texting everyday just to argue with the mistakes we had. He wants me back but I do want him to realize his mistakes first. We have 1 child, and he is so irresponsible. I do understand him because he is having a hard time to get a job but, I’m too annoyed with his attitude. Yes he is handsome and so attractive with the girls, way back a year ago, he fooled me many times, he had sex with so many girls. He hid our situation, and actually I am a battered girlfriend, and now, I can’t resist myself to say words that I know can hurt him. I don’t have trust anymore. That’s what we’re arguing about. I am very transparent with my feelings and sometimes I just do want to kill him, but I really really do love him. He is the father of my son, and I want us to be a happy family. From the past few days and months, granted that I can feel some effort from him to build my trust again but I cant move on from the past it’s because, even a little argument with the simple things makes my trauma from past gets back and I can’t help myself to say a lot of words that can hurt him. I don’t know how we can fix our relationship, and how can I build my trust again. I’m afraid that anytime he can find someone else, but I know I did my part. I can also feel that he loves me but not in the same way.. please do help me,:((

Hi Patrick… You will need to apply the advice & strategies outlined above, regardless of your situation. Your ex girlfriend will likely need time to reflect and she may (hopefully) eventually accept your explanation as the truth. Nonetheless, give her time and space, re-kindle attraction, and then begin the process of seducing her again. Good luck; hope it works out for you.

In our last lesson we discussed how to overcome the unattractive, irrational thoughts that have us dwelling in negativity and self-pity. A lot of those irrational thoughts can be overcome just by realizing that you don’t really need your ex as much as you think.

When you feel things are going wrong, you should be the one who says “lets just be friends, it’s not working out”. This will immediately put you in control of the whole situation and spark feelings of loss on her side.

Now that you have gathered information about the different signs, factors, questions, and other points that will help you decide whether or not getting back with your ex-girlfriend is the right thing to do and what you can do about it, it is time to understand the actual steps, tips, and tricks.