I have been dating my boyfriend for a year and half now he is 34 and i am 26, we both have children from previous marriages.we use to visit each other and everything was well. during the period of our relationship i never did anything to hurt him or cheat on him, i was very loyal and true to him, i loved his son like my own. The problem began when he started ignoring my calls and texts, i confronted him every time it happens, he use to rest assure me that he was not comparing me with anyone and he sees me as his wife, i trusted his words. But now we have broken up because he came up with a story that he impregnated his baby mama and it was a 1 day thing, i asked him to take the woman for pregnant test and sonar scan he agreed since we are at a distance i asked him to send me the sonar scan print out as a proof and he never did that, he just told me that the lady is pregnant and is his child. In everything i sense lies i feel like it was just that he was cheating and he wants to push me away from him so that i do not notice. My heart forgive him like i usually do, my concern is i am trying to make peace with him but whenever i call or text him he doesn’t reply. I want him back what must i do to get him back
Beware Of The “I Want What I Can’t Have” Syndrome- This particular piece of advice probably should have gone higher on this page. Sometimes a select group of women will want their ex boyfriend back once they see him with someone new. If you find that you are in this situation be very careful about proceeding to get him back. You may need to go back and do some serious searching on whether or not you want him back for a legitimate reason.
Start by not contacting him any further. Apply No contact to give yourself some distance from the situation and to give him space. Spend this time to work on yourself and improve your life. Right now he is dating someone else, and you should not interfere, because it will lead to him thinking you’re desperate and start getting annoyed or resentful towards you. If you really want to be with him, you’ll have to wait until he contacts you first, or if they break up. Doing anything now related to him will only push him further away from you.
Let’s just start with,I was dating a ex and we moved together, I always wanted to move smewere else so I did,we worked together n all.but it got rocky n ugly.his bbymama was a mess starter n so we broke up very.i hurted n was going thru a break up.I came across this gentlemen.. He was full of life,outgoing,working hard,n has a son.we got to talking gettn to know each others,I let him know I had not long got out a relationship n to take it slow,not fast.he understand he said so we just remained friends..he got me a valentines day gift,n I got him one.u know just smethng to smile about than bn sad from a breakup.alil of 2 weeks I met him in person n it was very nice.we talked in the car.he said I was everything he imagined,but he could see my smile was hidden my pain n hurt n in my eyes.I teared up.so on we texted,he sent prayer photos n texted every morning when he went to work n off checking on me n talking to me.I met his family which was nice n his mom.I think I made a mistake there.but it too my mind off the pain n hurt.soon I found myself spending time with him,he wiped my tears n all held me so much..I could do nun but thank him for all that.he took my mind off his depressing a break it was with my ex to someone who cares.but like I told him I didn’t wanna rush..on a few months I felt like I needed to get myself a Lil distance to see how far he would go for me,cause I bn thru relationships that bn a lie n I’m a caring n effort woman.always smiling n liftn people up.so I bk off some form him.it got Lil ugly.his jib laid him off to workn a day out week cause of no wood from sawmill.he just was drinking away more,but he kept reaching out to me begging me.wishing we could start over fresh n everything. I didn’t leave him,I just stepped away for a moment.I know I hurt him tho,he said I did cause he was ready to love me n so focus on making me happy n I wasn’t ready. I felt so bad.but later we started back talking but wasn’t the same as first,no txts in morning r nun that.he was down as well frm no money cause he wasn’t working the hrs much,n child support was taking him n his bbymama was giving him hell.she was so jealous of him having a girlfriend she stopped him from seeing his son so it too on him too.she did childish things on fb tryn get me to accept a request but I never did.he has her blocked he can’t stand her since she hit him with a frying pan on top his head n cut his skull open.that was way before my Time.so thru on I was there for him helpn him while he wasn’t working n I can say I admire the man he is cause he love to work for his own,not ask for no help, but I did.he came to my house plenty times activited with my 2 sons as well they got to know him some.I met his son as well which is 1 yes old.after SME weeks he text me told me he didn’t want b with me,which was a lie,but I didn’t say anything out the way I told him I accept his wishes n we stopped txtn n convo.its bn it was 2 in half months now, our birthdays was in September I did wish him happy bday,I was under surgery in sept had vowel blockage n cancer.I go under chemo some now but I done came along way.but All thru those months its bn a blessing.so on in weeks off sept Oct n some of Nov lol he bn asking his family mostly his cousin have she heard from me,n have I said anything bout him.lol he talks to her all the time cause him n his brother n her talk about everything. She told me he asks n she told him it has nothing do with him if she did talk to me.she stalls him good cause his family likes me n they hate we split up cause his pride n ways he had.but she said she told him text r call me.his rely u know that grl don’t want to talk to me..lol she says u never know u had a good woman n she say she walked off,n he looks askn fareal she ain’t mention me lol this was a few weeks ago at a gathering for his brother birthday party.also a convo between him n guys at her house she told me he was talking abt me,they were outside having a discussion on women n she was doing her curtains n they were sitting under her car port but her walls thin,u can here everything said she wasn’t bn noisy but she heard him talkn of me.n later one the guys came in her house n said ur cousin was really in love with me,n he told him just to own up to his mistakes cause we all do.that was last month.we haven’t bn talkn r communicating at all.but just Friday night I got a inbox text from his brother inbox.it was hilarious, I thought it was his brother,cause it was from his page inbox n asked was I’m in his town,n he seen me over his aunty house.I text said i do brothers n he should b ashamed cause he got a woman he with.and I’m done in boxing,so he tct back said holla at you later u getting ghost.few mins later he text my phone from his number asking me were I’m at.I new it was him on his brother phone cause he blocks me from his page.he used the inbox as excuse to see will I reply.so finally he text me after few months.even text me pass Saturday to.say he working on his self n don’t want to hurt anybody.I told him I respect it like I did before. I just don’t know if he really into me like that but then I thank he is just scared he b hurt again r something.he didn’t want his family in our bidnes say they noisey n he didn’t want me really around some of them,must b a conflict with SME if them.can u give SME advice? I’m not rushing nothing I’m just tryn get myself healthy n recovery but I do miss him but he don’t need know that from txtn cause he reached out to me lol I never text him first n it was 2 months we stopped all communication. I think it’s worth saving.plze give me feed bk
hi natasha! i’m glad i found this blog! i just broke up with my ex last night, he decided to leave me bc i often threatened him if he messed up n hurt me. he said a lot of bad things about me last night and i threatened him back and we agreed to made a silly and stupid agreement, that he will do EVERYTHING that i ask from him till the end of this year then i promised i’m the one who will dumb him and he agreed with that (because i threatened him of course). and if he mess up he will add 1 more month for me to stay with him. i feel confused now, i want to get back with him bc to be honest i was the one who always overreacted but at the same time i don’t think he wants me anymore, he really hates me. what should i do?? i decided not to contact him for the next few weeks but seriously i have no idea what should i do next.. ps: we are in a long distance relationship and before we broke up, he still listened to me when i told him to get home early from his friend’s place. he hates me but at the same time he always do what i say to him even if i didn’t threaten him. also his friends told him to leave me. please help me i need some advices from you! thanks a lot natasha!! xoxo
wrong. Of course, you could also dedicate that time to another person who’d be happy to have it: your boss. Work keeps you feeling busy and important, and it doesn’t hurt that the added praise and success will boost an ego that’s been battered by a breakup.
If he contacts you, do yourself a favor and don’t pick up. I’m serious. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve fallen into the “Baby, I miss you” trap. Here’s how that trap goes: Your guy feels a little nostalgic and decides to call you. You answer and get all emotional with him. You end up in bed together. You think you’re back together, but he realizes it’s a finished relationship and once again is out of your life. You’re devastated again (even harder this time).
My boyfriend just broke up with my about two and a half weeks ago. Even though we’re only 17, our relationship was very mature and strong. We both talked about future plans such as marriage and kids and we were both on the same page. We have been dating for about 1.5 years. We were such a strong couple, completely in love. Our relationship was very serious. He gave me a promise ring and we always said we were going to be together forever. His family loved me and my family loved him. We were really a great couple, having mutual interests.
Most relationship experts say to use the “no contact” rule for 30 days. But honestly, this is something that should vary between relationships. No one will be able to tell you exactly how long to cool down before you try to contact him, but just be sure again that you are cool and collected…and you’ll also want to make sure your ex is just as cool and collected. So take the time to do this. As much time as it takes.
Getting your boyfriend back if he’s dating another girl requires a somewhat different approach. What you do will depend upon the circumstances of your breakup, how much contact you have with him, and whether the two of you still remain friends. But in the end, you can still salvage what you had. No matter who your ex-boyfriend is with now, there are ways to use your past history to your advantage. Learn the secrets to unlocking his buried feelings, and ways to bring them to the surface without him knowing that you even did anything. When he believes he’s thinking about these things all on his own, then you’re one step closer to reconciliation.
This is a good article but not letting know us deeply what can we do to move on. It seems it is more helpful to my narcissist partner to make him prove himself that he was right “Part of maturity, however, is recognizing that love by itself isn’t always enough to make a relationship work. Many other factors and circumstances, such as timing, incompatible values, or the choices we make, play a significant role in whether a relationship can thrive.” He used to leave for such no reason that love is not enough and he never actually did. But i was realized only when he used to leave me because of no reason. He left me after 15 days of our engagement and told me that he is not sure of his love even after 6 years of relationship. And then he came back crying in front of me .The biggest mistake i ever made was to forgive him. We got married after 3 years and then he left just because of no reason. I am still finding what was wrong. I hate him 100 times a day and then love him again 100 times a day in my thoughts. Cant get out of this what was actually wrong. How can i move on by letting know someone was not that bad we could spend a happy life together. The odd thing he used to do is to leave without no reason.
If you have already spent some time together as friends, then you can start having an open discussion. Do this at the time when you have already shown him the newer and more improved version of yourself.
No matter how miserable you are, you absolutely have to get out of the house. If you stay inside, with all those memories and all those reminders, you’ll only make yourself feel worse. Even if you feel like crawling in bed for yet another week…don’t.
There is nothing more attractive to a guy than a woman who has a good vibe. Women who have a genuinely good vibe are more attractive to guys than any woman with a bad vibe, even if she’s got super-model looks.
I now believe in miracles! I lost the love of my life and it seemed certain that he would never be in my life again. In desperation I came across this guide and decided to take a chance on it. This was the best money I ever spent, from reading this guide i realized how oblivious I was to so many things that ruined my relationship. After lots of studying I followed the steps and slowly I got him back into my life again. Now most nights he is by my side and there is more fire than ever before. This man really is the guru for ex-boyfriends, I hope he can help you like he helped me. I STRONGLY RECOMMEND THIS.
You probably already know who I am, but for any new viewers out there, my name is Amy North… I’m a women’s dating coach from Canada, and I’m the owner of CoachNorth.com, my popular ladies-only website featuring free relationship guidance videos.
I’ve become quite good at remaining friends with exes after the breakup, something which usually elicits raised eyebrows when I mention it to people who are used to hating all of their exes. Maybe I’m lucky because the guys I’ve been involved with have mostly been good people and breakups haven’t been hateful, merely the result of differences in our feelings or in what we wanted out of a relationship. Like the article says, I think it can be healthy to continue to feel love for people we once were involved with. I still love many of my ex-lovers, though I would not want to be in a committed relationship with any of them. I’m good friends with three exes, and “social friends” with another. We all get to decide what the best way is to integrate lost love into our lives, based on what’s healthiest for us. Other peoples’ opinions or assumptions about it aren’t as important as how those feelings hinder or support us as we move forward. Thanks for this new take on the issue!
So, my ex boyfriend had a friend who killed himself just about 3 weeks ago. It hit my boyfriend really hard and he started to change. He got quieter and quieter and soon wasn’t even the person I had been dating for a year. I finally asked him if he even wanted to be with me, and he replied “Its not that I don’t want to be with you, I just feel empty”. He ended the relationship saying he needs to figure out how to fix himself and fill the hole he has inside him, but he wants to do that alone. I really do not know what to do at this point. He messaged me twice. Once was asking how I was doing, and the other was him telling me I was welcome to see the cats if i ever wanted to (we owned cats together) so I guess I want to know if this advise you have given in this article is going to work. Because I honestly think he is really confused and doesn’t know what he feels. I would appreciate any advise!
The worse thing you can do is to drink alcohol to forget him. You’ll end up hooking up with some idiot in a club that you’ll never want to see again, the next day you’ll just feel depressed. Pull yourself together! You don’t need alcohol to get over your ex boyfriend. That’s what weak people do. Are you weak? Of course not.
Finally, you need to work to build the desire in him to want to be with you again and see you in the same way he use to see you when things were exciting and new. You don’t want to leave anything to chance here. Sure he may still have feelings for you, but is that enough to stop him from wanting to experience other women while he is single??
Hi. My name is shandrickia and I need advice for my relationship. Me and my now ex boyfriend has been dating for 2years. The cause of us breaking up is because I was listening to wat people say about him nd I started accusing him of cheating. But he really wasn’t. We have been broken up for two months now. We talk often. But I really want him back but idk what to do. I’ve been trying to get him back but he won’t budge. He say he tired of the arguing and don’t want to be in a relationship right now. ? wat should I do to win my way back into his heart? He said he still care and love me but sometimes it’s hard to tell.
Delete him from your social media accounts so you aren’t forced to inadvertently think about him throughout the day when you login to your accounts and he’s posted an update. If you don’t want to delete him altogether, most apps have ways of blocking people, as well.
You guys weren’t together for a long time so him moving on would be dependent on how meaningful the 2 months were. Typically someone blocking you would be his way of wanting to avoid you, and this could because you were acting needy by trying to change his mind. Continue with NC but spend this time to work on your issues, and at the end of it, if he has unblocked you, you could try initiating contact to see where he stands. Bear in mind that there is a small likelihood he has moved on already due to the length of the relationship, and may have blocked you as a way of ‘indicating’ those feelings.
If one of the member is having the ego, he must bury it before entering into strong relationship since the ending would be obviously destructive. Suppose you are working woman and the partner is also a hardworking and earning handsome young lad. Now it is almost impossible for any of the individual to waste some of the time and use out for the daily home chores.
What you are trying to do here is bring a similarity to light by asking a simple question. Now, in this example we are going to assume that your ex boyfriend is really big into telescopes and stuff like that. Hence, the reason I composed a text about a super moon.
It can also be helpful to get back into the dating world.4 This doesn’t necessarily mean jumping into a new relationship right away – it’s never good to rush love, and getting romantically involved with the wrong person can actually make you miss your ex more.5 But scouting out some new dating prospects, and maybe going on a fun date now and then, can really help to shift your romantic focus away from your ex and onto the new relationships that you can look forward to having when you’re ready for them.
So my ex broke up with me a little over a month ago after a 3 months relationship & several months of talking & getting to know each other really well (starting in the summer but wasn’t a fling). He is 24, I am 21, we felt serious, he would mention marriage. We had many common goals & other things & he loved that. Commitment/marriage seemed serious to him, he was all about values & didn’t like relationships where he wasn’t sure about marriage (I was a little hesitant about it). I was getting out of a breakup as well & vented to him a lot in the first 1-2 months/I mentioned the ex sometimes which he didn’t like & looking back I shouldn’t have done.