There’s no such thing as ‘being friends’ with your ex… especially if you still want her back. This is a myth, perpetuated by bad movies and people who are desperately trying to transition from being friends back to lovers again.

I had a gal whom I loved and we did have sex but there sex didnt go well for us . after that when I call her we dnt chat for long . It got to a time that when I call her she didnt pick up my calls then from there we havnt talk to each other or seen each other. Its been a year since that happened. what should I do to get her back.

Once you finish writing, now you should find a private and quiet place where no one can disturb you. Start reading each reason one by one and feel each emotion that comes to you. Don’t feel ashamed by reading these reasons. These are the reasons that making you angry and this doesn’t make you a bad person.

You will need to begin by sorting your thoughts out. Even if there’s a chance, some distance is first required before re-initiating contact with your ex. Distance does not mean time frame of the breakup but rather, the amount of contact made during the particular time frame, and the changes you’ve made to impress her. Right now, she needs to deal with the emotional trauma of losing a child. She is pushing you away probably because you are unable to provide the emotional support she requires, and by constantly pestering her, you lower your own chances because she will eventually lose respect and feelings for you. I would still recommend no contact first, and to figure out where you need to grow as a person, before thinking about winning her back.

If you live with the person- Your goal is to be a respectful roommate. Make sure any interactions you do have with the person are short, pleasant and to the point. Make sure you are as positive as possible.

Stop trying to get your ex back if the relationship was toxic or abusive. It might feel temporarily lonely or even boring to be on your own after the end of a tumultuous relationship, but try to ride that feeling out instead of going back to your ex. On again, off again relationships tend to be based on unhealthy patterns that won’t go away. Resist the temptation to jump right back in when you know you’re better off without him.

Many people think that their breakup was a mistake, despite your feeling about the breakup but you should understand it occurs for a reason. You will never get your ex back unless you discover the exact REASON of the breakup. Don’t contact your ex without knowing the exact cause of the breakup.

I guess my question is during this NO-Contact rule, is it ok to meet up with her possibly next week and if so is a gift ok to give? Right now, I am so emotionally torn and I don’t know what to do. I’ve just bought your books and this is a time for me to continue to develop my maturity and really reflect on what I want in a relationship but I am scared that by not giving her space to herself as suggested by the NO-Contact Rule (14-30 days) that this is a bad decision to possible meet up with her next week.

Don’t make the same mistakes. Though you shouldn’t constantly worry about the relationship ending, you should be conscious of whatever it was that made your relationship fail the first time. If it failed because you spent too much time with your friends and you find yourself hanging out with your friends all the time again, cut back a bit. And if it ended because of something that she did, have an honest conversation about it if it comes up again.

Before you approach your ex-girlfriend and convince her to go back to you, spend time doing some soul searching. This is important in ensuring that you won’t waste your energy and time on a relationship that will still fail.

Finally, I said we’ll go no contact for 2 months to sort out our thoughts, contacting only on the last day of May and she agree. I hurt her so much by not spending Christmas with her, not spending new year’s eve and new year with her and as well as Valentine’s day with her.

As he felt stronger, Peter felt less need to rant. No need to play the same recording again and again. Anger begets more anger, and repeatedly reminding himself how bad he felt was making the message ‘a little bit louder and a litte bit worse’ with each go-round.

Most men freak out when they text a girl and all of a sudden get a neutral response. However, the truth is that it is impossible to get a positive response every single time you text someone. Every once in a while a neutral response is going to find it’s way into the conversation.