It doesn’t matter who ended the relationship first and it also doesn’t matter what causes your breakup. The thing that matters is there is always some hope in getting your ex boyfriend back. There is light at the end of every dark tunnel and you can also get your ex boyfriend back doesn’t matter since how long you broke with each other.
Think about how you felt while you were in the relationship. How was your self-esteem and confidence? Did you think your partner showed appreciation and love for you? And why do you want to get back together with your ex?
The good thing is, you can surely avoid this death trap in your relationship. When you walked with your boyfriend in beginning he keeps you way from other guys and ready to fight with them. But, when he finds you are always with him then he loses the motivation to fight for you.
Now this can happen in many ways. Suppose you are into a park and suddenly you come across your boyfriend with a pretty young lady. You almost will be shocked from inside but if you are reading this then remember to remain calm. Remember that this is the reverse psychology technique being used by your partner and you need not care about it.
After those three days, try to let the relationship go. Give yourself time to just be alone, spending time with family and friends and doing things you love. When you’re in a healthy place, you can begin looking for love once more.
Then she say she dont want to and 1 week after my sister bday i ask her sister where she could be ? Because my sister invited her to my sister birthday party and she dont even reply it. Then suddenly at night she texted me that why you texted my family. Now everybody know and she tell me that she cant be with me anymore because we keep arguing and stuff. And she say for now she cant be in a relationship kind of thing.
“You’re still kind of creeping them on social media and maybe you share common friends,” Tebb explains. “You haven’t removed them from your Facebook and you haven’t removed the old photos of you as a couple. You can’t get over your ex because you haven’t removed them fully from your life.”
The basis of the theory is that sometimes you can have an emotional experience that is so powerful that it affects you an a deep level. However, you don’t know where that feeling comes from. So, you kind of stick that experience to the most practical thing you can think of.
The first week of Christmas he was mad at me because he was thinking at the past again (not one time but several times) But i thought he would accept the past.. And that he knows i am not that person anymore. But then on 26th of December he broke up.. We didn’t talk till 2th of January and i begged and cried then but it was over i guess.. He said he couldn’t handle it anymore and then he blocked me on Whatsapp and Facebook and then school began and we didn’t talk for all.. (He is my classmate)
Breakups can be really tough. It can get you into real depression and can even indulge you in self hate and make you suicidal. But remember always that you once had a life (wonderful) even before a relationship and there are certain things in life that you don’t have control over. So rather than fighting with yourself in the process of getting over your boyfriend, it is perhaps the best to understand that missing your ex is normal, really. But that shouldn’t stop you from moving ahead in life and looking for more beautiful things that pass by you everyday which are now going unnoticed. If it was meant to be, it would have happened anyway. Try to appreciate yourself and see what wonders does it really bring to your life.
Don’t discount his hurt and his concerns and issues. Too often we just dismiss what our significant other says as being not the way things are, not reality. But every thought and especially every emotion has a basis and a personal truth. To him these things are worth addressing and are bothersome and if you truly love him you should be ready to listen, process and react to what he says when he is coming from an emotionally open and honest place. It’s hard for anyone to speak from those personal places and every effort should be commended as such.
The most important thing to remember is that you want to be subtle and positive. You’re not texting him to try to get him back, you’re not texting him to remind him of the relationship, you’re not even texting him to get him to like you again.
Two weeks ago I got the dreaded “we need to talk” text. During the conversation he told me that it wasn’t me or anything about us that he was unhappy with but a strong unhappiness with himself was leading him to ask for a break. He thought that he needed to do some growing up before he entered a long term relationship and he as also evaluating whether or not he was ready to make that commitment to me. I had already told him I loved him by this time. He knew that he cared for me but wasn’t sure how deep it ran and we were at the point where he needed to make that decision. So we went on break.
Pinpoint the reason not because you want to think of your relationship negatively but because you want to open up your heart to heal and forget. Regardless of the reason, your goal is to think about whether you can start with a clean slate.
Hello I broke up with my ex a month ago and I decided to remain freinds with him back then. But then he was at a party where my best friend has aswel and I found out that he was talking about how harsh Ive been on him and how he tried to put me in a bad light to others by changing the truth and then called me a w*ore. So I messaged him and asked if is trued but he got angry on my best friend telling me, told me “your loss tbh” and blocked me. Then he blocked my best friend too. Then I found out that he has been flirting with my best friend all along even when we were still together and he flirted with another friend of mine but he told me that she was the one flirting with me and he destroyed our friendship. However I thought it will be easy to get over him now but he got into the same sixth form as I have and I dont know what to do. I have emailed the sixth form if they can make sure we wont be in the same classes and they assured me of that. Can I have any advice on how to stop feeling affected by him and not feel anything at all if i see his face again?
Hi Lumos1225, Mahirap yang set-up nyo na open relationship. Kasi pag sinabi nating open relationship talagang wala kang assurance kasi hindi naman kayo exclusive. It is not fair to you kasi you have feelings for her. In an open relationship kasi, dapat di ka masyadong ma-attach sa tao kasi ikaw ang matatalo eh. In my opinion, kelangan mo tlgang pilitin ang sarili mo na magmove on. Wag mong ikulong ang sarili mo sa kanya kasi you have the freedom to do what you want. pero wag kang magexpect. Yan ang number one rule ng open relationship. No attachments, no assumptions, no expectations, no exclusivity and no conflict.
I’ve noticed in the comment section that comments aren’t replied to often by the author of the article, so I decided to give a response in hopes to help in some way. I think you should do what it says in the article. Stop focusing on getting him back and focus on yourself. I can tell you the more you chase a guy, the further he’ll run, so you really do need to stop reaching out to him and leave him alone as he requested. It feels counterintuitive, but I promise you the more you chase him the faster you’ll push him away. Leave him alone, and focus on yourself. Don’t look at him as your only source of happiness. If he is, you need to start building your life with things that make you happy—like the article says. It doesn’t mean you’re not allowed to be sad and grieve the breakup; but you need to take care of yourself emotionally regardless. Show yourself there’s more to your life and your happiness than Marc. It sounds to me like he’s not mature enough to be in a relationship if he can’t handle the normal struggles in life and meet your needs. In a relationship, even when things get really tough, you still have to be willing to make the relationship a priority. If he keeps breaking up with you every time he’s in a bad place emotionally, he’s not handling the balance of life and a relationship. It’s not your fault. And I don’t know if you can get him back. I think the important thing though is to love yourself FIRST, always. You really need to evaluate if you want a partner who leaves you every time things get tough. You can’t control him—you can only control yourself. So make changes in yourself. Stop being focused on him and getting him back, and get focused on you—just as he is doing. Put yourself first. Any of these relationship experts will tell you if you want your ex back, you have to work to getting over them first. That also sounds counterintuitive, but it isn’t. It helps you really get a clear mind on if this person is compatible to you or not, and it allows the person to miss you and realize their mistake if it was one. When you’re in this fog of heartbreak and love, you can’t look at it from a clear perspective, and if you keep contacting him you’re not giving him a chance to miss you. He has to miss you and have time apart from you to realize his mistake, if it is one. Take a step back and work on making yourself happy. I promise you, if he really wants you, he will come back and pursue you. You have to make sure you still want him at that point—and above all else BE SURE to continue to focus on your happiness FIRST even if you do get back together with him. The time for him to come back (if he does) really varies. Sometimes it’s a month, sometimes it’s a year. But you cannot wait for that. You have to work on moving on, even if he comes back. That’s going to give you your best shot at getting him back, and your best shot at being happy.