A lot of times this can be happening but you won’t have any clue. Men aren’t the best communicators especially when it comes to breaking bad news. The last thing they want is to hurt you so they will just break up with you and give you some general reason. Luckily again this can be addressed!
So, the big take away that I want you to get from this section is that your ultimate goal assuming this process works for you is that you are discarding your old relationship and creating a new one that is stronger.
I recently met an awesome guy & finally convinced that i should b moving on from a breakup I just cant figure out how. but now i came across this article, im starting 2think twice. should i even try to get back w/ my ex? im torn! 🙁
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Your ex boyfriend is thinking “I wasn’t at Sherlocks last night.” This is perfect because now he is going to read between the lines and see that you were checking out another guy that wasn’t him. Also in a way you are complimenting him. Jealousy text messages are interesting aren’t they?
But no matter what you’ll have to seduce your ex and inspire them to get back together. Getting an ex back is often linked to your ability to be yourself and to not let your emotions or feelings change who you are at your core. So don’t try to seduce your ex by being someone you’re not; it won’t be sustainable anyways and your ex will probably see right through you!
First of all getting back together with your ex because you are lonely is not a good idea. What you are experiencing is just one of the symptoms of breakup. Everyone feels like this. And it doesn’t last forever. Secondly, acting like this is only going to make your ex less attracted to you. And even if they do feel pity for you, they are not going to get back together because of it.
Let her know that you understand what it is like to walk in her shoes as one who feels hurt, ie: “Honey, you must feel conned. Before we were married I communicated to you that I would cherish you for the rest of our lives. But since the first week, I know I sent you the message that you weren’t important to me. Whenever you wanted to do __________ together, I would never do it. Whenever you wanted to go with me to ___________ I wouldn’t go. By choosing my own comfort and convenience over yours I have left you feeling that you weren’t important to me, and I was a fool to send you that message. You deserve more than that.”
Find ways to spend time with her. This is very important. Talking to her over the phone is one thing. You can say all the sweet stuff you want, but it will pale in comparison to spending time with her. You have to find a way to physically be around her. To show her the great person she’s missing. Words are much more effective when you can back them up by being there. She won’t be able to fight the fact that her mind will begin to associate you with the guy she fell in love with. And, that’s exactly what you want. You want to play on those emotions that got her in the first place. Just make sure you’re concrete in your resolve to be a better person or you’ll fall back into the same arguments and disagreements that separated you two in the first place.
I’m really not one for relationships. I pretty much stay away from them because I feel that’s going to protect me from getting hurt. However, a couple of years ago, after two serious relationships, I met someone who I really “clicked” with. I got all the symptoms of a girl who was crushing. After a few dates, I slept with him. It was probably the worst, and most awkward, experience I went through, but we still kept seeing each other. I was over the moon because he was just what I needed. He was funny, good looking, confident, great taste in music, spoiled me with affection (and sometimes material things), my friends and family loved him, and even opened the door for me wherever we were like a true gentleman. A month or so in, he asked me to be his girlfriend, which I obviously accepted. But in a blink of an eye, he turned into the complete opposite of what he had shown me. I tried reasoning it by telling myself it was all in my head, but I wasn’t the only one who noticed it. We still had good times but most of the time he was accusing me of something ridiculous so we’d end up in an argument. Finally, I gave him an ultimatum; either he changes his ways, or we break up. He didn’t want to change. I asked him, “why did you even ask me to be your girlfriend to begin with?” And his response was, “I don’t know.” So, I did the deed. We tried being friends but the attraction was too strong and we just kept messing around. So, typical girl me, assumed this was him trying to get back with me. After a year of fooling around, on and off, he told me he loved me. I responded the same, and I was absolutely thrilled. Then, he stopped texting me. My stalker self found out he was sleeping around with someone else (unsure if it was when we were sleeping around still, or after). A month or so later, contacted me again. We spent a night of passion together, and again, disappeared for a week. When i confronted him about it, he made it seem so petty and made me feel used. Two months after that, I contacted him, strictly out of desperation for a ride. He ended up “kidnappings” me and after hours of him spilling his guts out, I gave in to him again. We were going amazingly solid for about a month. No arguments, no problems, no complaints. He kept asking me how I felt about him and I assured him I loved him. He ended up going through some financial hardship for losing his job and I gladly assisted. I loved the guy so I wanted to help. Around this time, I also told him that i would be moving out of town. His response was that he wanted to come with me. That was the exact response I wanted. Then after a couple more weeks, he slowly started distancing himself. Didn’t help that his phone got disconnected. So I would go to his place and make sure to tell him when I would drop by again. That weekend, I showed up every night for three nights, without an answer, until the third night. Which happened to be the night I peeped through his open window to see a naked girl laying in his bed. What hurt me the most was his reaction. Like, he didn’t see what the big deal was. Like he didn’t care. I just didn’t want him to see me cry so I walked away. Months later I contacted him once or twice for my money but eventually gave up on the idea because I didn’t find it worth my time for all the excuses he was giving me. I started a fling shortly after with a coworker who, quite honestly, has got to be one of the hottest men I’ve ever been with, but still I consider him a rebound. Now that I’ve already moved, I’m no longer with the rebound (just friends), but I still catch myself thinking about the ex. I feel I don’t have closure. Especially since he’s writing to me on social networks (just minor comments. Nothing revealing). I feel I want him back because I believe deep down inside he was purposely pulling away to avoid attachment. But we had something and I’m willing to give it another shot. Do you think it’s worth my time, or is he just a jerk who played me and I should let go?
After a breakup, you feel depressed, angry confused, shattered, and are really hurting. At this moment, if your ex starts seeing someone else, it just tears you apart. You feel even more depressed and confused. And usually, when your ex is in this rebound relationship, they seem to become too intimate too fast, which makes it even worse for you, for example it took them 5 months to get physical with you and they are already sleeping with this new person who they are going with for only a week.
Start fresh. Don’t think of this as Part Two of your relationship saga — think of it as two people starting completely over while being better equipped to deal with any challenges that come their way. Though you can’t completely forget the past, there’s no need to dwell on it or rehash it. Of course, if any fond memory of the past comes up, you should talk about it, but think of everything as starting anew.
“When there’s a conflict in a relationship, there’s a chance that both of you are doing something to cause it,” she says. “If you don’t look at your part, you are sabotaging your relationship. So before you get back together, also take time to reflect on what you can do differently and less on what you think your ex needs to change.”
Try answering these questions: Do you miss your ex, or do you miss having a boyfriend or girlfriend? Did he or she make you feel better about yourself, more secure in the world, and happier? Do you imagine yourself with this person in the long-term, even when the excitement of being in love has worn off and you are stuck in the daily routines of life? If you are only missing the security of having someone and the excitement of a dramatic relationship, you can find those things with someone else in a healthier, more stable relationship.
You just started dating a new guy. You are in that honeymoon phase and everything is great. You are constantly complimenting him and giving him acknowledgment that he is wanted by you. Basically he loves hearing that you are interested in him. However, as time goes on things begin to change. You don’t compliment him as much because you don’t need to land him anymore. This is when the problems begin for him.
However, you CAN make moves and adjustments to speed up the process of winning your ex back. And the sooner you get started on these instant adjustments? The faster your ex will begin actually missing you.
I worked on this EBP program earlier this year (still haven’t done all my worksheets haha), and I sent an incomplete Elephant text (I realized that I only completed the first step of the Elephant text). I wrote a comment earlier this year too on the “texting” EBP page… Kevin told me to show her that I accepted the breakup. This was hard because I stopped seeing her due to my new job. I also wasn’t ready yet.
“How long am I expected to live like this? The days are VERY lonely. It’s an unbelievably depressing feeling to wake up and immediately realize that I’m not home, and have no friends or family to talk with … I get up, I meditate, I swim, I go to work, I eat, I lift some weights, I meditate again and go to sleep. Wash, rinse, and repeat. I’m not enjoying work (which would normally be a decent distraction), but feel I can’t quit, as I have too many financial responsibilities I have to uphold. I’m amazed I haven’t gone mad yet.
I do still have strong feelings for him and there are so many things that I want to tell him. But you said the best thing is to keep things light and emotion-free. He mentions in his email that he misses my friendship and wants to be friends. What exactly does he mean by that? And should I stay friend with him even though I want him back? I have already composed a reply to send to him which i based off of the magic letter guidelines:
Something else to mention here. In most cases if you are ultimately able to get your ex back, it is most likely going to happen face to face. That’s because you can affect a girl’s emotions better face to face. Because remember, as a woman she makes her love-life decisions based on emotion – so that’s why any getting back together will most likely happen face to face.
Picture this: you have two people, a master and a slave. Who do you think is higher in the social hierarchy? The master, obviously. By accommodating your ex girl’s every desire or demand, you behaved like a slave (inferior) and she behaved like a master (superior).
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The questions your asking are personal, and so I encourage you to reflect on what it is you’d like from an ideal relationship and how close this person can get to this. Are the reasons you broke up fixable?
Being a bit of an asshole to your girl is generally pretty healthy for a relationship…you’ve probably heard before that girls like bad boys and that nice guys finish last. Well it’s true, but if a guy has been too much of a bad boy to his girl, she’ll feel like the connection has died.
It’s not going to be enough to just say “I want my ex back”, snap your fingers and get back together. You really need to have a strong desire to be with the one you love and to be prepared to put in the work! However it’s not just a question of effort, it’s also a question of being in the right mindset and to regain some self-esteem.
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honestly I did not show appreciation to my ex while we together. I missed valentines day and his birthday. when I decided to make the best of times with him it was to late. then I asked him for closure and he came talked in person. I told what if I got therapy because there is something going on that effects my relationships. he told its been three weeks and I’m over you….. I cried of course then looked at him and said I feel better. just got sick of being sad, doesn’t mean I’m over him. but its step. then I told me what was really going on and told he’s proud of me said I’m strong person and good girl. he told me to feel free to talk to him and said he wont be jerk to me. he also wants to improve. it sucks that I was to occupied with other stuff in life that i didn’t learn to understand him but oh well. that doesn’t mean has feelings for me. sadly I cant live in world that revolves around him I must create my own world and keeping living up to my goals. this relationship may have been painful but helped realize what I need. we are blind from pain because only look at the bad qualities that it brings us but we all need realize its actually beautiful because it shapes us. I’m going to embrace it this break up..
I don’t think you messed up NC, but rather she’s confused right now over what she wants. It might be a good idea to find out more, since NC is complete and if she isn’t that serious with whoever she’s going out with, I think still winning her back would be the right move.