I need help. My long time boyfriend has suddenly got me pregnant and has immediately moved in with a girl. I still am in love with him and this is a time I need him most. He tells me its too late he now has an instant wife. What do I do?
This ties back into the first mistake – except instead of convincing him to get back together with you by putting up with his bad behavior, you’re trying to convince him to get back together by showering him with affection.
Once you’re done figuring things out on your own, you obviously need to have a conversation with your ex. An honest convo guys, not one where you’re both just like, “I miss you, I can’t live without you!” Talk about what you both want to change, what you want in the future and what’s been going on while you were together. Get everything out there now!
So, find out what messed up your relationship and work on it. Were you too cranky, moody, jealous, demanding, insane, nagging-all-day, not giving him his space and freedom, disrespectful, got fat, made out with another guy, or you just sucked in bed? Whichever it was – fix it. He needs to see that, after a month or so of breaking up, you are progressing; suddenly you became a different person. But do it for you, not for him. Once he sees how much different you became he’ll wish you never broke up in the first place, he’ll want to give the whole thing another chance too.
Many people think that looking back at the past relationship is just too tortuous and a waste of time. These people believe that they can’t change their past and instead want to know things that they can fix now and get back with their ex.
Hi guys, welcome to another video where I’ll be teaching you how to get back together with your ex. I’m Brad Browning, a relationship coach and best-selling author of The Ex Factor Guide. For more advice on reversing your breakup and starting over with your ex, visit my website at www.BreakupBrad.com.
thing is, i cant open up to him about how i feel and that theres still a part of me that wants to get back together (altho i have completely gotten over our breakup and ive dated a guy in between those 6months) hes just always busy with his friends on his free time and i cant complain abt why we cant hang out or why he wont make time 2 hang out with me coz im not in the position to (not his gf).. and now these thoughts just eat up my head..i cant even ask if he is seein anyone or is intrested in anyone..i hinder myself coz im scared but these thoughts just eat me up..
my ex husband and I have been apart since Nov. 2015 divorced in June 2016 (hardest thing I have ever done) I loved him with everything I had. He always had wondering eyes and occasionally had lunch with female coworkers hince led to the divorce. I don’t think he ever had a physical relationship with any of the 3 women he was “friends’ with. Although I thought if they were his friends why couldn’t they be mine too. None the less we have a 16 yr. old son together and share custody with him. I do currently have a boyfriend who is a wonderful guy but I cant help comparing him the the ex. They are complete opposites. Almost every day since I left my ex he has begged for me to come back (married or not ) he wanted me home he says he has realized what he lost. He didn’t even show at our court hearing saying ” it was just to hard” I am wondering if its truly possible for someone to change. I don’t want to go back just to convenience him and myself in the comfort zone we were used to. He was never abusive to me just not there. I was completely devoted to raising our son the best I could so I know I pushed him away a lot, but now that he is older he doesn’t need us as much. We had been together since 1999. please advise with your thoughts thanks
After six months I contacted him by phone and asked him why he never called me as he told me before and said that he was thinking about everything and that he will called me the next day, but he never did it. He didn’t called me…. until two weeks later because I had a clog in the kitchen sink and I asked him what to do, he just told me to remove the water, but didn’t offer to come to help me. Then I asked him why he didn’t called me as he told me last time we spoke and he said that he thought I said I was going to called him, however he said that he will call me the next day which he did. That day we talked about what was going on in our lives and he asked me why I acted the way acted before and I told him that I didn’t know, that all this time I been working to improve in those areas that I was wrong. Then he told me that he was going on vacation for two weeks. He call me the day before he went on vacation and when he came back didn’t called me. I decided to call him after two weeks to see what was going on, but he never picked up the phone. Last week I saw him in the train station and I waved at him and I asked him to come to meet me. He came and I asked him why he didn’t called me when he got back from his vacation and he told me that he was thinking things out. Then I told him that I have change and that I didn’t want to be in relationship doing more harm than good. He told me that he was going to think about. However, this week he came to tell me that he was talking with a person that he used to like and that she was telling him that before they start dating she wanted to talk with me and him to find out why we ended our relationship. I told him that I was not going to do that and that I never asked his ex wife why she got divorce from him. I felt hurt because that mean that when he was taking breaks in the relationship he was talking to her which for me is very dishonest. He told me that he was friend with this woman for a long time and that he is 51 and that he wants to get married that time is passing and wants to get married. He told me that he thought that I have a boyfriend already. Then he started to tell me all the bad moments he had with me that everything was bad in the relationship and why I acted the way I acted with him when he only did good things for me and that I probably never loved him and I told him that I love him and that I have changed. Nevertheless he told me that a person never changes and that his boss told him that a person only changes a little. That the person changes only until they get married and after that they go back to what they are. I told him that I want to get married to be happy not to live a miserable life. He said that we have tried many times and that we even went to therapy and I decided to stop it. He also mentioned that he wanted to go to the psychologist we used to go. I asked him if I could go with him and said,no. I mentioned to him that I went to see the psychologist last week that if he wanted I could make the appointment for him and said, no.
These first few messages are critical! If you can’t get them to crack a smile or talk to you, then unfortunately these next steps are pointless. Once you have their attention, you want to keep them guessing on your next move. Just follow the old psychological rule that says “we always want what we cannot have”. This means stimulating their mind but never actually giving them what they want.
Brother — you must understand that no matter how strong your wife appears in her ability to speak her mind, and no matter how capable she is in an argument, she is not your opponent and never has been. Your wife is the weaker vessel whom God has entrusted to your care — to be treated with gentleness (Col 3:19) and understanding (1 Pet 3:7). The Bible says she is like a rose (Song 2:1). Yes, she has thorns, but her fragile nature must be nurtured and protected from all threats. To protect her petals she must be kept out of the wind and handled with tenderness. If you fail to water her, miss the signs that she is starved for care, or treat her roughly, her petals will fall off. Can you justifiably be annoyed with a flower that has lost its petals after you’ve treated it roughly or failed to protect it?
Hello, Happy New Years! I’m a little nervous. Just held out for a party and was checking my snaps and noticed my ex who I am actively trying to get back is out at a party. Noticed a mutual female friend had similar snaps and realized my ex is at our mutual friends house. The mutual friend has a brother who I know is attracted to my ex and my ex is attracted to him too. My ex is 23 and the guy is only 16 or 17 but I’ve seen them flirt since we broke up and I have a feeling if he was older she’d be open to the idea of going out with him, but nervous there’s going to be flirting that might end in a kiss at midnight or further feelings developing. I know there’s nothing I can do to prevent that, but please advise how I can process the possibility and if something was to happen, which I would probably not find out about. How do I keep my cool moving forward? We have been broken up for a few months now with minimal contact. Please advise.
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The unwritten laws of the ‘social food chain’ dictate that inferior people seek approval from superior ones, and not the other way around. Women naturally know this, and by trying to get your girl to like you more (approval seeking) using ‘nice’ behavior, you made her feel like she’s superior to you.
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She’s has now asked me to give her some space for the next 6 months which I’m happy to do (with a heavy hart) but I’m filled with this fear that her sister is turning her against me and that I’m missing out on helping her though this very hard time. A time when I though that our bonds would get deeper.
Before you meet with your ex, you should figure out exactly what you’ll want to talk about with him. A meeting like this can be an emotional experience, and it’s easy to get sidetracked. Planning what you’re going to discuss can make a world of difference.
I do find it hard to believe that shes just sees me that why, she does speak about me very highly to others and she does say a lot of positive stuff to me. She is very hard working, and a lot of people, including herself would agree with that haha. Maybe you are right perhaps I’ll give her a bit more space and then try and do something for her.
By understanding this four-step approach to rebuilding a relationship, you can improve the odds that you get back together with your ex and that you two have an even stronger relationship than ever before.
Are you frustrated because your last date tried to floss his teeth with a strand of your hair after dinner, or do you really think there’s something positive and healthy worth pursuing with your ex? If it’s the former, Klow says that’s not a great reason to run back to your ex. But if it’s the latter, go for it.
Some will tell you it’s totally okay to go back to your ex — as long as you ask yourself important questions and make sure you’re going back to him or her for all the “right” reasons. Those reasons shouldn’t include comfort or loneliness or fear of putting ourselves out there with someone new. Well-intentioned folks will advise you to be honest about what you truly want, both with yourself and your ex. And that’s pretty good advice, isn’t it?
Men want to be with a woman who is happy with herself, up-beat and fun to be with. Although it is highly unlikely that you will feel like being the life of the party while you’re going through a break-up, not going to the other extreme by crying and acting desperate will definitely count in your favour when trying to get him back.
You have spent a month not contacting your ex. You spent that entire time working on yourself becoming more and more confident as the days past. Everything seemed to be going fine until you hit your first road block with a negative response. Make no mistake about it, negative responses are never good. However, they don’t EVER mean that you should give up right away. It just means you have to be smarter about how you approach things. Lets take a look at a negative response example (from my past) this is a true story.
The trick for you will be to play it cool and to just focus on having a good time. Remember we are trying to prove to an ex that we can make them happy! This date should be about proving that you can both get along just fine and not fight or argue even though you are no longer together. You shouldn’t under any circumstances bring up past issues.
I read the 5-step plan but I’m at a loss as to what to do exactly after NC. I’ve already sent her a long apologizing letter so I’m not sure about sending her the “elephant in the room” letter. As to texting her to gradually build up attraction I’m not sure how to proceed since we rarely texted but instead we used to call each other all the time during our time together.