If you didn’t realize it by now, your instincts and your mind go into panic mode when you find out your ex is dating someone new. In most cases, you freak out and make all the mistakes mentioned above.
The fact is… ploys, tricks, mind games or any form of manipulation and persuasion that you might have heard about do not work on a lasting basis. While they could be effective in getting your ex-girlfriend back temporarily, she’ll be gone again as soon as she sees the reality behind the ploy. Worst of all, your ploys could backfire on you — and repel her away from you for good.
Give yourself some time to reflect. Not only should you give her some space, but you should give yourself some space to reflect and think about what went wrong in the relationship. Take the time to sit down and ask what you did to make her not want you; were you too attentive, too moody, or too distant? Whatever you did, you have to make sure never to do it again if you want a moment of her day.
I’m sure you are eager to know this plan I keep talking about that is supposed to help you get back your ex. Before I tell you how best to approach your situation, let me tell you what the plan is NOT.
I call this part “The Instincts” because all these mistakes are a direct result of people following their instincts. Most of the advice in this 5 Step Plan is counter-intuitive, but it works. When you read it, you will understand why and it will all start to make sense. So let’s start by going over the deadly mistakes that you should avoid at any cost.
In other words, giving in to the desires and instructions of women on an even semi-regular basis is unattractive to them, and if you were doing it, then it will have definitely been a part of the reason she dumped you.
YOU control the amount of DMV that women perceive in you, meaning you DO have the power to get her back, and to get girls hotter than her if you want them. That is why I created this website – tohelp you become the attractive man who has this power over women (and more specifically your ex), regardless of your occupation, salary and looks.
It will allow you to move in the same circle without any tension. This will give you a chance to be in each other’s world without the added on pressure of being in a relationship. Being friends with your ex can be the first step to patching things up.
I have successfully started cross-fit, a new job and become open in possibly moving for my career and taking the next step in growth. I have also sought therapy, opened myself back to God, and dove into various self-help books.
Few months ago I asked him tell me truth and I’ll walk away from you life , but he said I don’t have an answer and if I’ll deal my life’s troubles I’ll come to you to marry , but now live your life …etc, then he was keeping in touch sometimes , and now just silence from him. I gave up and don’t bothering him anymore too, I’m trying NC , also I disappeared from all my social nets, but I think it will useless in my case, he can’t solve his difficulties
The detailed mind-maps (graphical representations) included at the end of the book will hold your hand every step of the way… through every possible scenario. You’ll never be left wondering what your “next move” should be in getting your girlfriend back.
Hello, my ex girlfriend of just over two years just broke up with me over the phone a week ago, to me this was completely out of the blue, but she said she had been mulling it over for a month or so. Her explanation was a couple things. One was that she felt I deserved better than her because I was such an awesome person and that I put in 110% into the relationship and she did not. Which is not true because I could not ask for any more than what she was. The second was that she felt there was pressure to “put a ring on it” which is also not true. Not saying I wouldn’t like to spend the rest of life with her, just that it was definitely not time at all. After asking her the next day to meet up the following day because I believe there was things still left unsaid and that it should be done face to face, we both agreed we needed some time to get our emotions straight. She reached out to me a few days later asking to meet up the next day. Following that she backed out of meeting saying there was no point and that it was just dragging things out and that it was already over. So now the next day I sat up all night with these thoughts in my head, eventually I put them down in a text and sent it explaining that She never did anything wrong, that I know this wouldn’t change her mind but it was something I had to say, how our memories together will be with me forever and that I will always love her. She responded back with saying How hard this is for her too and she didn’t want to hurt me but she didn’t want to drag me along either, she still loves and cares for me, and she will always cherish our memories together as well. I have not contacted her since but this whole thing has just left me utterly confused and heartbroken. I feel like with just a little bit of communication things could have worked out just fine. That she really does have feelings for me, but because she thought less of herself that she didn’t deserve me.
Socialize with your friends more. One of the toughest parts of being single is feeling lonely again after having someone around to spend time with whenever you wanted. Soften the blow by spending more time out with your other friends. Even though you and your ex might share many of the same friends (depending on how long you were together, and how close you were), there’s no reason you can’t see them without her around. Invite them out with you and spend time forging closer bonds with them.
Turn up the romance factor. Bring her flowers and take her to a romantic restaurant. Now, you shouldn’t overdo it to the point that she feels uncomfortable. Just add a little bit of the romance that was probably missing before.
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It is still your call whether giving your relationship a second chance is a good choice. Your relationship may have ended because of a mistake you or she has committed. Find out if the two of you have already learned from the mistake. Make sure that both parties are also willing to forgive and have a good future ahead. If you realize that both are willing to work on the relationship and give it another shot, then maybe it is worth it.
It’s been a little over three months since my ex and I broke up. I’ve completed no contact and given my ex space, a task someone difficult because we work together. I never begged or been pushy did the right moves based on advice given on here and other places. She’s still will barely talk to me and will barely reply to text messages. Typically she’ll reply to the initial message, but getting a second reply doesn’t happen much. Back in September I purchased a Christmas gift for her and even though we broke up I still sent it to her on Friday. She replied thank you for the gift. You didn’t need to. Merry Christmas! Attached to the gift was a clean slate letter. She made no mention of it. I told her she was welcome for the gift. I asked her if she was going to be up for talking soon to clear the air. She never replied back. She isn’t seeing anyone, nor did we have a bad breakup. Since the breakup I have found out that she is mad at me about something I said but I don’t know what I said or who I said it to and she won’t tell me. We’ve had some positive interactions as of late at work, but she’s got a wall so high up now. Where do I go from here? Three months, no contact completed, clean slate letter given, space given, showed activity on social media sites as well and not much recoconcilation has occurred. What can I do? Or is it time to accept the fact that I’m not going to get her back?
Hi there I need your help. My girlfriend broke up with me about two weeks ago. We pretty much argued a lot lately and she and I both had enough. I broke up with her in aug and we got back together. We pretty much argue about the same things. One major problem being her ex (child father) he would send her explicit things and we argued about that and the fact every chance he got he was hitting on her. To me she always made excuses for him saying take couldn’t block him or stop him because they had to communicate for child. To me seemed that she like him chasing her. She said I didn’t trust her but I’ve caught her in so many lies. Another large problem was she would sometimes lie about things..I couldn’t trust her which is one reason I didn’t want her communicating with oneone else. She said I was jealous and have a bad attitude. I felt she made me have one by not respecting our relationship and by entertaining other people. Anyways.. she broke up with me recently and says we will never work.. she said I didn’t care about her health or financial issues .. but lately she has me been pushing me away.. we work together so it’s hard to avoid her. I love her and want her back. We hit a bad patch and I’m willing to change. She has been flirting openly with another Co worker which I told her was disrespectful. Also same day we broke up I found out she slept with her ex. She denied it at first until I provided proof. I’m not innocent, I did flirt with someone else in her face while we were together to show her how it feels.. she hated but that was my point. I didn’t want her to break up with me..When we first broke up I didn’t everything this website said not to do. I even I friended her in Facebook which really pissed her off and she blocked my phone#. It’s only been 2 1/2 days since I’ve done the no contact things.. it’s driving me crazy and I can’t tell where her head is. I feel like I should be chasing her. Is this too far gone? Can I get her back?? So I leave it alone? It’s driving me crazy not being with her and not knowing what she is doing with other people
Sooo, I reconnected with a girl I knew a couple of decades ago. I had a huge crush on her but both of us were married. I’m not now and spent a lot of time on self improvement, which she gravitated towards as she works her way out of another marriage. After about three months of platonic self help counseling we caved…it was intense for about two months; she started working with a counselor to save the marriage/amicably divorce and suggested I pursue other women for awhile. I backed off, maintaining contact via text/cell about every 3 days; not too heavy subjectwise. Made the mistake of telling her I was doing great without her. After that she shut off contact, and responded to my attempts with a hostile voicemail telling me to stop all contact. I went into no contact mode for two weeks, sent a couple of happy holiday texts, then wrote the no contact letter. A week later her husband comes up and introduces himself, tells me he’s in the middle of his divorce and she’s eligible now but has a boyfriend. I reach out for confirmation and to give her a heads up and ask for a meet and am given a letter with all the nevers (never want to talk to you, never want to see you, never be friends, etc) and threatening to go to the cops over stalking. I know I should cut and run but we got so close in those early months…I don’t want to give that up. I also don’t her throwing the stalking card out to everyone…most of all…don’t want the anger, nor do I understand it. How do I turn this around to platonic at the least and repair it to a couple at best? Yeah I called texted lettered about 20 times in 80 days and maybe drove by her house twice but STALKING? I never raised my voice to this woman.