Every single guy I’ve consulted with was guilty of making this fatal mistake: acting out of despair and desperation while trying to get her back. There’s no question that you’re doing the same. And it’s plain to see why given the emotions that go hand in hand with a breakup. But despite this fact, if you don’t stop everything you’re doing right now and start using the right approach… you risk losing her forever.
Sounds like you are stuck in a difficult place. On one hand you guys have ended the relationship but on the other you are still intimate. This will cause many jealousy and trust issues because neither of you are committed.
You’ve told me a few times that you’re afraid that one day I’m going to wake up and realise I don’t love you anymore or don’t want to be with you anymore, when nothing could be further from the truth as in that will never happen, because I couldn’t not love you. I truly love you with every fibre of my being!!! I want to marry you and for you, and no one else, to be the mother of my kids!!! I love you so much!!! And I’d do anything and give anything to make you happy and to make our relationship work!!! I know I’m guilty of being in my own little world with my training and studying, and that’s just me trying to figure out the next step. Every part of my plan I have considered you and our future and future little family, and it’s what has driven me!!! You’ve always been a big part of the reason for my successes with my exams and my training, especially my CPL, with your support and love, even though I was stressed out with my exams and training because I didn’t want to repeat any, I felt like I could do anything with you by my side!!! I feel that together we are unstoppable of achieving our dreams!!! And I love that feeling and I love that it’s with you!!! You’re the best thing that has ever happened to me in my entire life and you still are the best thing in my life!!! You always have been!!! Being able to achieve what I have, has just been a bonus, and it means nothing to me if I can’t share it with you!!! I was serious when I said this, and I am serious about it; I don’t want to be with anyone but you and only you!!! I’d rather be alone than NOT be with you!!!
So this girl broke up with me last week and during the weekend I was really drunk, and I was talking to someone about how I felt and I said some pretty messed up things that are just terrible, and I don’t remember who the person was but the person that I told everything too they told her and I up finding out Tuesday or Monday and she was just really upset she told my friend everything and the things I said were really really messed up they were really wrong and I didn’t think about what I said I just said things because I was so drunk and now I just want her back. But now I just gotta face the consequences and I can’t do it myself I just need someones help, but anything contact me at 862-812-9341. I also heard she made her mind up already, it’s only been a week so I don’t think so, but she did block me on everything someone just help me, she meant the world to me.
If you and your ex were in any type of serious relationship, then they will not be able to move on so quickly. In fact, no contact is only going to make them miss you more and remember the good things about you. You have to take a leap of faith over here. The alternative to no contact is being a creep and texting and stalking your ex all the time, which will probably lead to a restraining order against you. You really don’t have much of an option.
If you want love and you want to be worthy of love go do things that will make you proud. Become someone who you would love. Become someone who you do love (that starts today, with a commitment to be your best self).
Again, this is risky since there is a higher chance of him saying no. However, if you two were really making a lot of progress via texting and you really think he is feeling the same way you are about your current relationship then the “I was in the neighborhood method” may do the trick for you. The obvious advantage is that you get an instant date/meet up!
My ex broke up with me 3 months ago and I love her alot stil. I was very alpha for most of the relationship but I have issues with my health and business that made me very needy and weak towards the end. It was a weird break up. I went no contact and she contacted me 5 weeks after the break were she told me that no one ever turned her on in bed like I did and that she knows she will not be able to love like that again in the future. She then asked my if I would be willing to change if we gave a try to the relationship. I said yes and made her feel like she could be back with me anytime I also had tears in my eyes (@%#$ me) . We kissed that night and the next time we met she told me it was over for the moment and was very assertive. It has been 4 week and I am no contact. I am very very depress over this and I know exactly where I messed up in the relationship and have already changed but do not know how to prove it to her ….
Play hard to get. That’s right. Just when you think you’re about to get your girl back, just when she’s finally realizing what an amazing catch you were, is not the time to declare your love. Instead, throw her a curve ball by making her see that she still has to fight for your affection instead of just falling into your arms. As you start to hang out more and more, make sure to not always be available.
I researched a lot on this section and discovered there are two types of very different methods to making this important phone call. The first method is the “I was in the neighborhood” and the second is the “week in advance.” I don’t have any bias towards either method so I leave the choice on which one to use entirely up to you.
MY RESPONSE: “You don’t want to hurt me, but you’re doing it anyway by leaving me. I don’t know what brought this on, whether it’s someone else that has convinced you or you’ve convinced yourself that you don’t love me. After all the times we’ve told each other, after all the times you’ve told me that you want to spend the rest of your life with me, the times we’ve told each other how lucky we both feel to have each other and to be able to call each other “mine”, and the times we’ve told each other we love each other with all our heart and soul more than anything (I still do love you with all my heart and soul more than anything), and all of a sudden you don’t love me anymore. You seem to think that relationships are suppose to be what it was like at the start. That’s called the honeymoon period which inevitably ends for all couples babe. It doesn’t last forever as couples get used to each other, and also become busy. Talk to any couple and they’ll tell you the same thing.
Take it slow. Treat it like you’re starting a new relationship instead of jumping right back into an old one. Don’t spend all of your time together right away, even if that’s what you were doing before you broke up.
Leave it a few weeks – If you didn’t get a reply, that’s fine… wait a few weeks and try again (persistence is key). If you did, then that’s awesome, keep the communication flowing and suggest meeting up for a coffee because you want to stay friends with her.
If she was the one who ended things, then you will have more of a challenge on your hands. Think about all of the reasons she ended it; if she ended it abruptly, look through old emails or texts to see if you can pinpoint the problem.
My ex and I split up about a week ago and I also moved out of the country we were living in together. It was a mutual split up, we had huge highs and a loving relationship but we just kept arguing a lot and couldn’t seem to fix this dynamic even thought we loved each otehr a lot. I now think we made a big mistake. Should I follow the NC zone rule or just get in touch now? ALso it is xmas coming up…
In season three, several episodes reveal that Rebecca’s issues are much more knotted than the unchecked depression and anxiety she occasionally mentions. In episode five, “I Never Want to See Josh Again,” Rebecca finds herself living with her controlling mother, stuck in a miasma of depression and bad habits, doing something I do with ritual intensity when depressed: Google the least painful ways to kill myself. After finding out her mother has been drugging her strawberry milkshakes instead of speaking honestly with her about taking medication, Rebecca gets on a plane back to West Covina and tries to kill herself by methodically swallowing the pills she found in her mother’s room. It’s an hour of television that is both harrowing and empathetic. But it’s the next episode, “Josh Is Irrelevant,” that cut closest to the bone.
The date went very well (she did most of the talking) and we went to a few places afterwards. Eventually, she dropped a hint that she wanted to go to her apartment. While there we had plenty of alone time and she put herself in multiple situations where things could happen but was not exhibiting any obvious signs. She did this the rest of the night and it confused the hell out of me.
Writing down his painful feelings helped to free Peter from continuously thinking of them. Writing and then talking with his therapist about his thoughts enabled him to let go of beating himself up in anger and also of drowning himself in self-pity.
If you’re in the latter camp, and your girlfriend has said things like, “I’m not sure what I want anymore,” or “I just need some time by myself to figure things out,” she’s likely questioning her own feelings, not yours. The appropriate (and most effective) response here is to tell her you understand her feelings, rather than try to talk her out of them. [otp_overlay]