My situation is a little different than most, we’ve been together for 5 years and he’s currently in the military now, he just ended things, with multiple reasoning but the last one was him saying he didn’t have time for a girlfriend nor did he want one. It’s been a week since we broke up and also a week of NC, I haven’t reached out, but is this going to work, is he really going to miss me even with us being so far away and his schedule being so hectic?? Please someone give me some advice…
thank you for this article – BF and I broke up yesterday but I am much stronger now; i think! same guy broke my heart 12 years ago. dont say it; my fault. I always loved him and will continue to do so but we are not meant for each other! so now the CLEANSING process ? Peace and Love All
My question is, how do I proceed with this? I won’t message him for again for a few days but I don’t want to go NC for too long because they will be in their honeymoon phase of the relationship and NC from me will surely just bring them closer together? She already has the advantage of proximity and being able to be with him 24 hours of the day.
Grab your phone and computer and get comfy on your sofa. No, you’re not going to follow his tweets or Facebook updates. You’re going to do what’s best for your hurting heart and you’re going to delete him. Go ahead. Block or unfriend him. This way, you can’t follow what he’s doing. Do the same with his Twitter feed. Delete his phone number and all those texts from your phone.
Don’t be over-the-top in flooding your ex with dating requests, but put yourself out there and apologize often. Go out of your way to do something he will appreciate. And again, let him know you screwed up.
My boyfriend broke up with me in June and we got back together in July. One day we went out for lunch and for some reason I got mad at him and said some mean things. And he broke up with me again. He said he wants his space and he is in frustration because he is not getting his degree. So we decided to take a break for 6 months. I help him with the paper things for his college so we at least see each other once a week. I know he loves me but I really don’t need a break. Please advice me how do I get him back? I feel like we are soulmates and just can’t think of being with other man. We are really strong emotionally and physically attracte but something went wrong in our relationship that we can’t figure it out. Please advise me how to get him back
After a break up, try to stay away from his good friends. This can be difficult if you share a lot of common friends, but hanging out with your own friends is a better thing to do. Hanging out with his friends or your common friends will only bring back memories, or they may try to talk to you about the break up which can open old wounds of love. And moreover, you’ll end up getting regular updates of what he’s up to. And the worst of it all, he’ll know exactly how hurt you feel inside.
– You have low self-esteem and she made you see yourself through her much more positive perspective< – You are reluctant to give yourself any praise for a job well done and she would lavish you with praise and congratulations First, married doesn't mean faithful. This is in fact not ALL you wanted. You wanted faithfulness which you are attemping to equate to marriage. Second, it is certainly possible that he does love this other woman more, which as already stated, does happen sometimes and frankly- sucks. But it's just a fact of life. And there's no explanation for it, there is "no reason" why attraction/ love develops more for one than another. Yes sure, there are compatibilities that come into play which can create strong bonds, thus strengthening love- but all other things equal between the two of you, it's simply the laws of attraction that take over (scent, appearances, etc). So finally, your likely suffering from that all powerful Feeling of rejection- which we all want an explanation for! She must be smarter, prettier, better than me! Maybe. Or maybe it's just chemistry taking over which none of us has any control over. Maybe she's no better than you at all. Maybe you are better than she in many ways. Nonetheless you are not chosen. I think it's most important to stop judging yourself against an unfair benchmark. Love is not apples to apples as there's more than just the "visible" what does she have that I don't at play. So be fair to yourself and then ask yourself if it's really just the actual sense of rejection that we all hate to feel, that has you stunted. Could it be that nasty ol' "want what I can't have syndrome"? Maybe... and if not, I'll say a prayer to help you move on. 🙂 best wishes for a loving future! Do you really want him, or do you miss being in a relationship? Are you looking for validation (especially if he broke up with you), or a sense of feeling ‘good enough?’ Is he really the right man for you, the one who understands you and appreciates you and just gets you, or are you afraid of being alone, afraid of not being able to find better, afraid of putting yourself back out there on the dating market? Omg I’ve been doing everything the wrong way. I moved out of m bf’s after we got in big argument cause I got home from work late. When I was actually at my therapist office asking for advice how to communicate better with my ex. Long story short, he got mad cause I deleted text messages that day. Ever since moving out he has “trust issue” so it’s been up and down. This is the longest we’ve gone without communicating or hanging out. I feel like he feels he has me so secure. I also have the messages he got so mad that i deleted i tried to show them to him but he won’t see them, I think he knows he over reacted and doesn’t want to see he was wrong. Sometimes i feel like just sending him the messages.. should i? Breakup is hard as it is, especially if you are still obsessing over your ex and wondering all the time whether or not they miss you. On top of that, if your ex starts dating someone else, it’s almost feels like someone punched you really hard in your stomach (while wearing a wolverine claw). Nothing can prepare you for this feeling. But it happens. And no, it’s nothing to worry about. I was in a relationship with someone I truly loved,we both were so cool.. Together not until one day he called me just to get to see each other;but to my surprise my ex boyfriend asked me if I was hiding anything from him which sincerely I was not.I don’t know what led to his questions;he stopped communicating with me since then am still confused till date. Can’t figure why his acting up.even if it’s hurt I tried to move on since last year but it has not being easy. I don’t even know what I did I’m in my late 20s. I recently broke up with my boyfriend, and I’m struggling to move on. He’s already moved on (gotten back together with his ex), and because he lives near me in the East Village, I see them everywhere. It’s been a couple of months and I know I need to move forward, but I can’t stop obsessing about what they’re doing and feeling hurt that he chose her. I still miss him, and can’t really imagine falling in love with anyone else right now. Let me know how to proceed. [otp_overlay]