We had fall break and I finally got to the point where I stopped having nightmares, which I’d been having nonstop for months. Tomorrow we have school again… I don’t want to go back. I want them to stop being together. I’m not over him, but I don’t want him anymore. I deserve better. I just don’t want to see them together anymore. I want her to feel as horrible as she made me feel. I want him to realize he hurt me and to feel sorry. I don’t want to go back and I’m scared. I have to see them every day for at least another 7 months. I got so depressed I even stopped all my art and hobbies–I just sit in my room all day now, and he apparently burned the gifts I gave or bought him, gave them to her, or shot them with his BB gun until they exploded.
Ok so you’re not together with your boyfriend anymore. While it may seem overwhelming at first, it really is best to take a step back and focus back on yourself for the time being. You certainly don’t want to make any rash decision and ultimately blow and chance at hell you had at getting him back. So heed this advice and take a step back to ponder the entire situation and just take yourself out of all of the negative feelings you have in your body and mind right now. You’ve been single before and were just fine. Even if things don’t happen to work out again between the two of you, just take comfort in the fact that you were fine before and you will, no doubt, be fine again.
All I can say is, I am simply moving on with my daily responsibilities and new interests and hobbies (previously discouraged by my ex wife). I still love her dearly after she declared she no longer loved me 18 months ago :-(. The distraction of hobbies and interests is like a Panadol but new skill acquisition requires daily practise so they are a regular distraction. I signed up for an online course, regular homework and further distraction. These things are enjoyable even though I am using them as a distraction. I was told I couldn’t dance if my life depended… Read more »
Know exactly that feeling ash, I am 4 weeks into loosing the love of my life and already feel like my life is going to b just as you described, I don’t think anyone is going to match my perfect man, when you’ve had the best, no one compares hey. Hope all goes well for you mate..
I want you to take a second and imagine something for me. You are at a crowded bar with a group of your friends. Now, since you are a nice person you offer to go buy drinks for everyone in your group.
After those three days, try to let the relationship go. Give yourself time to just be alone, spending time with family and friends and doing things you love. When you’re in a healthy place, you can begin looking for love once more.
My boyfriend broke up with me in June and we got back together in July. One day we went out for lunch and for some reason I got mad at him and said some mean things. And he broke up with me again. He said he wants his space and he is in frustration because he is not getting his degree. So we decided to take a break for 6 months. I help him with the paper things for his college so we at least see each other once a week. I know he loves me but I really don’t need a break. Please advice me how do I get him back? I feel like we are soulmates and just can’t think of being with other man. We are really strong emotionally and physically attracte but something went wrong in our relationship that we can’t figure it out. Please advise me how to get him back
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So, this is it. Once you decide to embark on the plan I am about to give you there is no going back. Well, I suppose technically that isn’t true because in the end the choice is always yours but me saying “there is no going back” sound so much more dramatic which is what I am going for here.
Guys do not like women to be obsessed with them, especially ex-girlfriends. Maybe is a good thing for you to see him or talk to him but you have to walk away and give him some space if you really want him back.
He’ll be able to see right through it (after all, you’re seeing other guys to make him jealous, so he’s still in control), and it will feel like you’re trying to manipulate him. That will turn him off and drive him away from you faster than anything else – so definitely avoid this mistake.
My ex had consistently chased me for 6 years throughout the whole of school and after, we were always really close friends and i was always too afraid to progress further incase that friendship got ruined. Even in his one other long term relationship he admitted to still always wanting to be with me and even throughout the good times with his ex he still imagined doing those things with me instead. Then after going through a hard time with a previous ex myself and having him support me we began to get close again and eventually ended up starting a relationship. And while at first i was slightly unsure about it, it quickly became clear it was the best decision i’d ever made, he was so madly in love with me and for the first time i felt so confident that someone felt like the luckiest person alive to be with me. He absolutely adored me and treated me like a queen. 2 and a half years later, and only just coming back off a wonderful week long holiday together with his family.. out of the blue, it’s over. Seeming in a bit of a bad mood one day i asked him if he was okay or if i’d done something and got the ‘we need to talk’ text. My stomach immediately dropped and i felt sick, but didn’t want to jump to conclusions and assume the worst. He came over that evening and told me he thought things had changed and that for weeks he’d had this feeling of that ‘sometimes’ he just wants to be my friend. Sometimes?! Even though that morning he’d commented on how it was our anniversary and 2 days previously we had even been on a date night where he’d complained because i had red lipstick on meaning he couldn’t kiss me and asked me to sit next to him in the bar instead of opposite him so he could put his arm around me, not really ‘i just want to be your friend behaviour’ right?
He ended things.. This is a guy who comes back to me and has my number for 5 years. And we were so intimate and shared our past. He said didn’t want to play games this time. He came 4 hrs back and forth to spend time with me. Pursues me. Why? What does he want? Why travel in total 8 hrs to come have sex with me? He like a egotistical narcissistic unemotional prick. Please advice.. Btw I never responded to his message. I left things.
If that’s the case, forget the remainder of this Step and proceed on to the next step, because 3+ “yeses” by this point make it 100% clear to me that here we have a Category A situation. Most break ups in which the girl ended it, are this. Don’t panic, I made this site for this situation more than any other.
Magdeline, you need to first realize that you are amazing and have so much more worth than he is making you out to have. He was with you for a year and had a fiance too?? He is the total loser. And not only did he cheat on you with someone he was engaged to, but then he tried to make you out to be the bad guy? Magdeline, please move on from him. You should block him, not the other way around. You need to see your value and realize who you are. Find yourself and know what you are worth. And then someone will come along who will treat you right. It is totally worth it to be single for a little while than to be with a 2-timing jerk like him. Please say you’ll stay away…
A cautionary tale exists in this plan. Neediness and using pity will only backfire in your face. Also, it is important to note that even when you have done everything you can, there are times when the relationship has just run its course.