The detailed mind-maps (graphical representations) included at the end of the book will hold your hand every step of the way… through every possible scenario. You’ll never be left wondering what your “next move” should be in getting your girlfriend back.

You need to be sure. You need to stand up and with that indomitable courage, see past her emotions that frighten you to the goal you want. Think of her emotions of anger and bitterness as the guardians at the castle to her heart that you must disarm before the doors are opened.

G. writes: About two years ago (I’m 21 now), I got into a serious long-term relationship with a girl in college that ended quite bitterly. Since then, neither of us has spoken a word to the other. My close friends and parents tell me that this was just a phase in my life and that it is okay to move on to create new memories. However, even two years later, without wanting to get back with her, I sometimes feel guilt and melancholy thinking back at our relationship.

(Disclaimer: These only work if you actually do the things you are talking about. So, don’t make any situations up. How will it look if he goes to verify and finds out your lying about being out and about with another guy?)

The Ex-Factor Guide even contains the specific mistakes that you should avoid doing if you want to boost your chances of making your ex-girlfriend come back. By strictly following all the information gathered in the Ex-Factor Guide, you will gain a positive response from her, which is a big help in improving your confidence significantly.

Similarly, you can desire your ex as you would desire money – that’s perfectly fine. But when you start to obsess over your ex, when you NEED your ex, or money, to be happy and/or feel good, that is when things become problematic.

If you can’t already tell I truly do enjoy helping women strategize on how to get their ex boyfriends back. However, one thing that I have neglected to mention so far is that there are certain women (not you) that don’t have legitimate reasons for wanting to get back together with their boyfriends.

I went out with my ex girlfriend for 9years an have 3 wonderful kids with her we had our ups an downs the last 2 years were mostly downs an a lot of fighting we really weren’t talking so she broke up with me for about 7-8 months I did the whole crying asking her for that one chance trying to keep my family together she is really my first love I know what I did wrong an I’m trying to change an understand what I’ve done wrong well we both move out of the place we lived together she went back with her mother an I got my own place I still love her but I just found out she started dating just dating an I’ve seen a couple of women but I still have strong feelings for her she won’t talk to me an when she does she gets angry quick she gets jealous when I say I’m with a friend an she turns around an try’s to make me jealous in return why would she do that I just wanna know if I still have a chance what can I do an if I don’t should I just move on please help

However, if you are looking to get your ex girlfriend back or your ex wife back, I recommend you check out this article with a game plan more focused on winning a girl back after a breakup and it comes with objectives and actionable tips. Click here to read it; I am sure you will love it.

Before approaching your ex, you first need to sit down with yourself and soberly and honestly consider why the relationship ended and whether your motives for getting back together are genuine or merely reactionary.

I know how it feels to wake up in the morning and have that moment before you even open your eyes where the reality of a world without your ex comes crashing down, and it feels hard to breathe. Or the feeling that you won’t be able to make it through the day, let alone the next hour. I know that feeling all too well, and it took months for it to go away. In fact, thinking and writing about it now is making me sad, and it’s been months since my breakup.

If it had been a different kind of breakup, I might have asked which one of us was moving out. But instead, the question was, “Who has to sleep on the shitty couch your mom gave us?” (We took turns until I was able to save enough money for a bed of my own.)

Since we are dealing with ex girlfriends here I am going to assume that you are wondering what your ex is thinking rather than the general population of girls because trust me there is a difference between an ex ignoring you and just some girl you are “talking” to.

That hasn’t proven true so far, which may be because, generally speaking, exes staying friends isn’t that strange of a concept for queer women. As a writer named Phoenix wrote for Autostraddle in 2012, plenty of gay women break up, spend some time apart, and then later rekindle their friendship. This is how it goes: