For one, if you call her when she isn’t “ready” to talk to you it can kind of hurt your ego to not have her pick up. Secondly, what if she is in the middle of a class or meeting? I would rather you not put that kind of unnecessary pressure on her.

Amazingly though, a few months later, we were (and are) back together and engaged. We couldn’t be happier, and it’s all because of an old friend of mine from way back, who showed me that there’s a specific get your girlfriend back process which you NEED to follow if you are going to succeed in getting your girl back.

Get back in touch – After a couple of weeks, get in touch either with a text or a Facebook message. Say something friendly, maybe even inject a little humour. Something like “Hey, so I got the job… (yay for me) starting in a week” fancy a celebratory coffee? No kisses or desperate talk.

She’s also down to diagnose all of my relationship problems and help me flirt when I’m crushing on someone new. In fact, she walked with me from our apartment to the restaurant where I had my first date post-breakup, and told me about 500 times along the 15-minute walk how lucky any girl would be to go out with someone as smart, and funny, and pretty as me. And I’m willing to do the same for her. (BTW, she’s single and attracted to people of all genders.)

Hey I need help! So me and my ex broke up 2 weeks ago. I tried to get her back at first but stopped after I saw it wasn’t working. I just started the no contact phase and am giving her time it’s been 3 days no contact. I’m fine with the no contact but here’s the tricky part, shes getting surgery Tuesday(4 days from now) and is really nervous. When we were together I was a jerk and didn’t make a big deal about it and it hurt her. So now what Idk is should I text her the night before and say something about it like goodluck don’t be nervo use it’ll be okay, just good luck or nothing at all? Help please!!

Knowing the signs that your ex may still be in love with you can help determine exactly how and when to take action. Whether or not you can fix your breakup will depend upon how successful you are at:

Although texting and talking over the computer is a common way to communicate in an established relationship, intimate discussions like this should be held in person. Invite your ex over for dinner or head out to your favorite coffee shop.

Me and my girl were good and after the first time i came to her house i had to talk to her family and she says i always talked about myself and my problems too much and that i never really payed attention to her and her problems also she says i shunned her family

#12 Don’t talk about getting back together. We all know why you’re talking to her again, you want her back. She knows this as well, so there’s no need to tell her. Don’t text her corny messages that say, “I miss you” or “I wish we were together.”

The reason I went to Florida is because I love the ocean. I love water. So thats where I find comfort. And thats the same exact reason my girlfriend is in Florida as well. I usually go to Honeymoon Island where is less crowded and watch the sunset and just reflect. I live near Chicago and we don’t have anything that is even close to what FL beaches have to offer but its what I got. So I’ve been going to the lake and really thinking, self-reflecting, mediating and praying for guidance and strength. And though all my meditations I cannot see myself with another person beside her. She IS the one for me. No matter how hard Ive tried to think about “life after her”, I cannot come to the conclusion that I can move on. As I did more thinking and mediating, I realized that though out of our 4 years together we both have the exact same wants and needs in our life. Yes not EVERYTHING is the same but the major factors that can make or break a relationship (location of residence, family, etc) was all the same. We both wanted the same for each other. And not even a few days before last Sunday she kept telling me how happy she is and that I am the perfect guy which made me really believe that everything was going perfect.

Breakup is hard as it is, especially if you are still obsessing over your ex and wondering all the time whether or not they miss you. On top of that, if your ex starts dating someone else, it’s almost feels like someone punched you really hard in your stomach (while wearing a wolverine claw). Nothing can prepare you for this feeling. But it happens. And no, it’s nothing to worry about.

Hey guys i really need help. Me and our gf have gone through a breakup its not the first time this would be the third time. But i do not know if this one is serious. She said shes too young for a relationship she just wants to be single an live life. She does not want a bf. weve been together for 2 and a half years. I took her birginity and she took mine. But i dont want to lose her im desperate to have her back. I waited a couple of weeks then started speaking to her again. We caught up a couple of times just as friends. But even then she doesnt txt me unless i txt her. And when she replies its only short words. She actually got angry coz i went out with a few mates drinking and she asked if i hooked up with another girl. So that msg to me feels like she still cares for me but doesnt want a relationship. I snapped last night and txtd her and askes if she ever misses us. She said i dont think it can work anymore i just want to live life on my own. People are saying find someone new she was your first love. But the thing is i dont want to. We shared so many good times together. It was always me and her. She was me to a tea i couldnt see myself with anyone else but her. Shes the girl i want to spend the rest of my life with. I need this girl back so bad its not funny.

Interpret your emotions. In the pain and confusion of a breakup, it can be easy to confuse your emotions, interpreting feelings of loneliness and hurt as evidence that you need your ex back in your life. In fact, almost everyone who experiences a breakup initially feels remorse for the lost relationship, coupled with feelings of anxiety, guilt, depression, and loneliness. Generally, the more serious the relationship was, the more severe these feelings tend to be; couples who are married or cohabiting tend to have the worst breakups, whereas those who were casually dating tend to have an easier time in the aftermath of a breakup.[2] But the severity of your feelings does not automatically mean that you should get back together with your ex.