If you are in the mindset of trying to figure out how to win someone back forever you need to come to terms with the fact you can never ever slow down your efforts! You will continuously need to keep working to prove your change or evolution because you are always under the threat of a relapse.

Me and my ex fiance were together for 2 years and we recently broke up about 3 weeks ago. Idk what to do to get her back, I tried telling her how much I missed her and love her but she doesn’t want to talk to me when. I’ve bought her flowers and gifts and left them at her doorstep, I freak out because she’s seeing other guys. When we were together she might have cheated on me early in the relationship which I found hard to get over so there were trust issues, and she also said she stopped loving me because I didn’t move by her instead of the 30 minutes that I lived from her since she wouldn’t move out of her grandpa’s house. Does this mean I should up and move down there? She wanted to be friends but I couldn’t do it, is this a good thing? I just now talked her into adding me back on Facebook as a friend and convinced her to unblock my number, does this mean I should try to talk to her as a friend then work my way back in? She says she wants to talk to me but doesn’t want to see me anymore, would it be bad just to talk for awhile then try to get her to hang out with me? There was always some issues and stuff. Does this mean I should stop smoking for her even though it’s over? I don’t think she’s seeing anyone right now, any advise would be nice.

The best way to handle this situation is to stay calm and present yourself as you are happy in your life with him. If he meets you one-on-one then avoid getting into deep conversation with him. Just smile, say “Hello” and do your own business.

Welcome to your breakup! It hurts like hell, doesn’t it? Your body just goes numb; this is the lowest low you’ve ever felt in your entire life. Everything’s so gloomy, and you can’t see past today. If you do, it’s scary stuff — a life devoid of meaning and happiness.

Today was the day I did not respond his text, however he called me and I answered. Do I still ignore his text when he tells me that he will disappear and not bug me anymore? So lost and confused, will this 4 weeks detox really work? Help

That needs to change. We need to get you behaving and coming across in a more attractive manner, when you meet up with her in person. This takes practice so it is something you should get started with right away as soon as you begin the No Contact Period. That way, when you go to meet with her after no contact, she’s gonna ‘just feel’ that you have a sexier presence. That’s how it works, they can’t explain it, they ‘just feel’ it.

            Over a period of time, after a woman feels her heart condition has been ignored by the man in whom she sought protection, she decides she can tolerate no more pain. She concludes that not only is he not safe with her heart, but he poses the biggest threat to her. She finally runs away from him in desperation.

It’s not going to be enough to just say “I want my ex back”, snap your fingers and get back together. You really need to have a strong desire to be with the one you love and to be prepared to put in the work! However it’s not just a question of effort, it’s also a question of being in the right mindset and to regain some self-esteem.

Then you need to set checkpoints by taking a goal minded approach in your daily life. Set goals on a daily, weekly and even monthly basis in order to have a bird’s eye view of where you are and where you need to go.

Also he wrote, that if i want to talk, he’s absolutely fine with it, if it HELPS ME (to forget him? haha), so i should contact him, if i want to talk, because it’s a minimum after me helping him a lot……

So when I hear someone tell me “I want my ex back because they are the most amazing person in the world and quite possibly my soul mate” I always remind those people that they are pretty amazing too! If your ex fell for you, if you were able to inspire and seduce them the first time around, it means that you have tons of qualities to offer as well.

Of course it is. Plenty of now-happy couples have, at one time or another, split up, only to reunite and ultimately be stronger together. You might have been feeling despairing, hurt, obsessed (we always tend to obsess about what makes us very unhappy or happy); but now is the time to really think clearly. You might feel ‘in pieces’ or that life has become meaningless. It hasn’t! These feelings will pass, even if you really don’t believe that.

Chances are that you are here because you are still very much in love with your ex boyfriend. If this is the case you will likely be wondering how to make him want you back. When you listen to your friend at this time they will be telling you to get over him and move on with your life. This is a lot easier said than done and not the advice that you want to hear right now. If you really do believe that he is the right person for you, then you will have to do some work and not be dissuaded by well meaning friends. If you are determined that this is what you want to do, you will have to have a good plan. With the help of the experts, you will learn how to make him want you back again and even make his love for you stronger than it was before. You have to be proactive though, so let’s get started.

As they talked Peter often felt tempted to say, “and you do it too!”  He successfully refrained.  He had learned that his job was to look at what he could change, not to criticize or advise his wife.  That change proved to be one of the most potent signs to his wife that Peter was in fact behaving far more appealingly.  

So my boyfriend broke up with me about a month and a half ago and we had not contacted each other since. I have kept up well with the no contact rule, and not at one point after the break up did I act clingy or needy. I kept all my facebook status very positive as you said and took the time to work on myself, and I feel great!

If you listen to your heart, all you will hear is that you love your ex and you want them back. Instead, try to think with your mind. Be logical. Analyze the pros and cons of your relationship. Analyze the pros and cons of your ex. Analyze what your goals in life are and whether or not a relationship with your ex aligns with those goals.(Read: Should You Get Your Ex Back?)

Five months later he met me and I thought we had a very healthy, loving relationship. It lasted 8 months. The problem is ever since he left his ex, he has had no friends and he doesn’t have much family to speak of. Ever since I met him, I’ve been the only person in his life he was close to. This is why I think I was so hesitant to cut him out of my life after our breakup. I knew if I didn’t stay his friend, he would have literally nobody.

Try answering these questions: Do you miss your ex, or do you miss having a boyfriend or girlfriend? Did he or she make you feel better about yourself, more secure in the world, and happier? Do you imagine yourself with this person in the long-term, even when the excitement of being in love has worn off and you are stuck in the daily routines of life? If you are only missing the security of having someone and the excitement of a dramatic relationship, you can find those things with someone else in a healthier, more stable relationship.

You can’t just let her walk all over you just because you want her back. Even if you manage to convince her to come back this way; she will leave again soon because she will not have any respect for you.

Look at it like this, every relationship has problems, fights, and disagreements. But if you two broke up, then there was something very wrong with your relationship. You need to analyze what went wrong and realize whether or not it’s a good idea to get back together.

Like I said before, you should stock up on attraction, connection and trust before asking your ex girlfriend to get back together with you. To do so, you should follow this article in its entirety. Specially Stage 2 and Stage 4.

It is absolutely essential for you to maintain some perspective throughout the journey of getting back with an ex. Above and beyond trying to figure out what you did wrong and preparing in the right way every step of the way; you will also need to get inside your ex’s head in order to figure out what they may be thinking at any given time.

Before you meet with your ex, you should figure out exactly what you’ll want to talk about with him. A meeting like this can be an emotional experience, and it’s easy to get sidetracked. Planning what you’re going to discuss can make a world of difference.

Time will actually work in your favor because the odds are that your ex’s new relationship will be just a rebound; in time your ex will figure out that the grass is not always greener on the other side of the fence and that you were not the source of all of their unhappiness!

Well, it could either be that he didn’t feel comfortable telling you since you guys had only met once, or that you’re right and he is a romance liar. Either way, if there’s an ex-wife involved in the situation and is still in contact with him, it might be a better idea to continue with NC before deciding anything. If he’s going to shut down again at the fact that you ask him about his past, you should walk away from this since it’s going to be hard to trust him and confidence that what he says is the truth (especially in a LDR) [otp_overlay]