We’re both in school so things started to get stressful a month in. We fought once a week then multiple times a week, all on text. I feel we started to focus on positive things less, he said he didn’t feel connected as much but everytime we saw each other, it’s like we hadn’t fought. We both acknowledged we couldn’t see each other to work things out as much. After another fight, he broke it off, saying we fought too much, didn’t feel trust, school/finals stress, & that we should take a break. We kept talking for like 2 weeks after saying we could work things out & even saw each other a week after the breakup. It felt like we still really wanted to make it work. That last time I saw him, he mentioned this classmate who he was talking about past relationships with (including ours) & I didn’t like it but didn’t think anything of it. She is 18 & he said he’d never be interested in her since she’s young, stuck-up, & have nothing in common. I mentioned a guy my friend was trying to set me up with to help me move on (I told my ex I wasn’t interested) but he didn’t like it. A week later, we got into the worst fight after my other ex messaged me after months (but I told him I denied him) then we didn’t talk for 2.5 weeks.

Finally, get back to work or keep yourself involve in helping someone in his business. If you don’t have any job then start finding one. Keep yourself busy among different people is the best way to recover quickly.

I just want to let you know that I respect your decision to end things and that I saw it coming for a while. It just didn’t feel right. Also, I would like to apologize for how I acted during the break-up. It wasn’t right for me to force you into something you didn’t want; it was disrespectful, and for that I am truly sorry.

With hindsight, Peter could see that the unpleasant situation he found himself in every day at work had left him depressed in the evenings. His response to depression had been to sink increasingly into “poor me” ruminations. “How can they treat me so unfairly? Why can’t my boss appreciate my talents?  I’m stuck in a job that’s not my thing. I hate having a job that doesn’t fit and a boss who’s chronically negative.”

Reversing a breakup is actually pretty easy, once you know what to do. But if you don’t know the right steps to take? You can quickly push your lover further and further away… and from there, things can get very messy.

So, heads up: It’s pretty likely that old fights and problems are going to crop up again—it’s best to get ahead of them. You don’t have to reenact your Worst Fight Ever, but you should discuss the issue behind it, plus what you’re going to do to avoid another one of those in the future. Talking about it when you’re both calm is key, says Klow, since you’re much more likely to get somewhere.

I havnt texted him since nor have he reached out. Sigh I guess blow this , What to do now, surely feeling stuck to win him back. I shouldnt have done the letter because now he knows I want him back sigh this sucks. Not sure how to reverse that either. Timeline of contact & no contact. After the break up we went one week no contact and the week after that on a Monday I initiate contact so that he but his half the pay the bills. The Tuesday he initiated contact that he have paid his half. It was more a business conversation. On Wednesday was my birthday and he initiated contact through text to enjoy my day On the 22 he initiated contact that he was coming by the house, I didn’t answer and 29 of November he initiated contact again Stating he was coming by the house I didn’t answer. The reason I didn’t respond was because he at the time he had my house keys so he had access, whenever he wants. He sent another text on the 29th Asking if I had paid a bill only then I respond. During this same week, I knew he was angry since his coworker told me that they didn’t kiss, since her called got transferred to my phone and I ask her and she told him that I ask her. He then called me 7 times back to back but I didn’t answer. I went 2 weeks no contact although he was the one to contact. On the 1st December I initiated contact asking if we could talk just to tell him what’s going on that when he came to the house for the clothing. Since Monday December 5 2016 he haven’t reach out and so I sent a text 10 December “you are truly one for a kind, unique in every way. I am so glad I met you because there is nobody else like you in the world” and today I2 December I sent ” You changed me in positive ways that I am still just starting to understand” I got no response, should I cut off contact, or have I just blow my chances of getting him back. Sigh Add a comment……

Friends, family, coworker. Finding common enemy is a great way to make friends. You can use this to your advantage. Speak about the person she likes the least and try to understand why she dislikes her or him. By validating her negative emotions about this person; you will make her feel understood.

Here is the way to jump start the flow again. Sit down and write a letter to him from the heart. Then put it in an envelope and give it to him. This will open him back up to wanting to talk with you again.

My ex broke up with me in Febuary this year while I was at overseas. We were together for 8 months. I was planned to work at overseas for 6 months from January. we didn’t talk much during that period of time because I know he work really hard and long hours( at least 8 hours a day sometimes 12 hours),I texted him every 2 days or 3 days and he barely replied. He broke up with me said because of a lack of common interest and culture crash. we were in a really long distance relationship.

So, really, the key to winning back your ex is to re-wire their subconscious perception of you. You want them to feel like they NEED you in their life, and stimulate the kind of strong emotions and feelings of attraction that will overpower logic or reasoning. If you do this properly, then all the reasons your ex has given you for the breakup will become meaningless or be forgotten completely. We humans are emotional creatures and we’re slaves to our sexual and emotional desires… so if you can stimulate those feelings in the back of your ex’s mind, then he or she will come crawling back to you asking for another chance.

Well Its been 3 months. I did reach out with a text to wish him Happy Holidays. He responded with the same. He then has been liking my Facebook posts and even commented. I feel he wants to be in contact with me.

If you still want him back, yes you should start no contact all over again. This time, I’ll recommend you start dating as well. I know it’s a little hard, but you have to accept that he might never come back to you and eventually you might have to let him go.

Thanks for sharing your story. I feel like, due to your histories, distance is really necessary. Don’t let the emotional floodgates run rampant. Let her miss you and continue focussing on your personal development and the rest will fall in to place.

It can be difficult to really understand yourself when you’ve been in a long-term relationship. Your significant other becomes a huge part of your life, to the point where going on without him feels empty in comparison.

Your ex doesn’t need to hear all this right now. It’s only going to make them put their defenses up. Your ex has decided to breakup with you for a reason and every time you express your infinite love for them, you are making them think of that reason in their mind.

Remember that cycling relationships (those that experience breakups and get back together) tend to have a higher rate of dissatisfaction, lack of trust, and eventual failure, so be prepared to put extra work into your new relationship.[19]

There are times in life when, even if you’re not sure whether Round Two with someone will work out, you’ve got to give it one more shot just so you know without a doubt whether you can or can’t be happy together. But try not to use that to talk yourself into repeatedly getting back with a partner who does nothing but make your life miserable. You already know things don’t work with them!

In the past, I always thought that I cared more about living a life and going the things I love (eg traveling), but now, having felt his absence and hating it, I don’t want to travel anyway without him, you know? Since the breakup, I’ve thought a lot about my priorities and I think I want him more than anything else in the world, including my freedom.

If you guys broke up because he did something to hurt you, make sure you are actually ready to forgive him before you think about starting things up again. A lot of girls get back with a guy who cheated on them and then find that they can’t forgive that guy. If you’re not ready to forgive and move on, you can’t possibly start up a relationship with that person again. It’s fine if you’re not ready to forgive him, but then just know that you’re not going to be able to make it work.

Regardless, after about 3 weeks of non-stop interaction i finally ask her to be in a relationship. and she said yes, but with a long speech about how she didnt like the ideas of a boyfriend or relationships and love but that i was the exception, along with that she never wanted to hear me say things like “be together forever” “never stop loving you” and to this day i haven’t. Our relationship lasted 3 months, pretty much over the period of summer, and it was a dream, i enjoyed it all and truth be told wanted to say the things she wouldn’t want to hear, but then in the final weeks it went bad as, well at the time i was very very needy and emotional and sensitive as prior to that i had never really had much experience in relationships, and she wasn’t exactly a stereotypical movie girlfriend or whatever.

My name is Timea and I am 21 years old and had a long-distance relationship for 7 months. I am really glad that I have found your site, the NC wasn’t so lonely and hard as I was expecting thanks to your advice. You helped me a lot and gave amazing tips, that gave me unexpected results, so thank you very much!

As long as you focus all your energy and attention on having a good time in the moment with him and making sure that your mood is good (which makes sure that your vibe is good, which is the most attractive thing you can do), then the work you put in during the no contact period will do the rest.

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Any situations in which she has expressed to you that she wants something to develop or happen between you two, yet you refuse to make it happen in the months after she showed that she wanted it. For example:

Don’t just throw it in his face that you still love him and that you want him back. Be stronger than your emotions. Give the whole “getting back together” process some time; make a good foundation for that future you’ll build together.

Similarly if you don’t control your anger and only fix the mistakes that happened in the previous relationship then you only end up having leaky vessel which will break sooner or later. You have to guarantee that if you replace old vessel with new one then it would not happen again.

Although you say you don’t want a serious relationship and only want a friends with benefit type of thing, it seems to me that your emotions say otherwise, or else you wouldn’t really mind or care if he was talking to others or had walls since it should not matter. I think that you need to be more aware as well if you’re trying to push someone away, as sometimes we do that in the form of picking fights or faults with our partner. I suggest just focusing on yourself first to work on whatever issues you may have and build yourself back up before considering any relationship.

Hi, me and my ex broke up about 2 years ago, it was on good terms but we still really loved each other. We decided to be friends but after all this time, I honestly just want a second chance with her. A year after we broke up, I just randomly told her I still have feelings for and she shot me down. After that I completely stopped talking to her for about 3 months until she contacted me randomly. We started talking again as if the rejection never happened it was weird. Some days she wants to be with me and other days it’s like she doesn’t want anything to do with me. It was frustrating but I fought through. A few months later we ended up going to a dance together and it was great. Fast forward till today which makes it 2 years. I never see her at school so we only talk over facebook msg. We talk a few times a week but I feel like its going nowhere. I want hang out with her but I feel like if I ask she turn me down.

If you’re a homebody, try being more outdoorsy. The sun and beautiful weather and landscape are really good to restore your mood. It’s so much better than languishing in your sorrow at home watching endless TV and binging on calorie-dense snacks.

3. You must become an attractive, happy person during this time. You need to take a step back and reevaluate your life. You should make a lot of positive changes in your life. When you meet your ex after the no contact period, you want them to be attracted to you. And the best way to do it is to start enjoying life and becoming an overall happy person. Don’t take this point lightly. This could be the difference between getting your ex back or losing them forever. (If you’d like to read more about why you should do this, read this article.)

That’s why actively fighting your urge to obsess over him is going to serve you so well in the long run – because the more you obsess over him, the more power he has over you, and the less that you’re able to get over him.

Afterwards we texted for almost three consecutive days, but we both agreed that it felt weird and decided to text each other every other day for the whole day. We both have every intention of finally meeting up on Christmas. She’s said she’s really wanting to focus on school right now, which I completely respect, but I do want to get her back. I want to prove to her that I can not be a clingy, jealous, insecure guy! Are the steps we are taking the appropriate ones?

So how can you put together this game plan and make sure that it’s right for you? Well you already have identified your mistakes and potential actions to implement in order to change. You now have to incorporate a communication strategy; how you plan to engage with your ex and when.