Ivan you are a beautiful soul. You don’t have the same anger as your father, far from it. There is going to be a lucky girl out there to receive the love you have to give. Your constant affection and tenderness. You deserve that too. And I did give that to you in the beginning, but it faded and faded. I have thought about this long and hard every day, I have become used to falling asleep to these thoughts. And don’t be sorry because you have done nothing wrong, you have been wonderful which made me feel even worse and more guilty.

Only then can the no contact plan work because it is no longer a plan, you are having no contact because you know there is no point to it and have moved on that’s usually the only way it will work for you because you are over the relationship and no longer care if they miss you or not.

After a year and few months, my ex left me cold turkey. I’ve been told that it was immature or just selfish the way she just stopped..talking. She was 25 and I was her 2nd real boyfriend, she was a goodie stay at home girl. Well it’s been almost a year, and she’s still on my mind, i still wish we were together, maybe after I get my RN license, i can talk to her again. Sometimes I want to text her just to ask how she is or somehow to see that beautiful smile of hers again..It sucks that when I think of us, I think of all the good, fun, and happy times, and I never think of the bad times that happened between us, unless someone actually tells me to think about it, and think about how she made me stress and how she didn’t appreciate the things I would do for her. Sad thing is it feels like all she ever thinks about are the bad things and the faults during our relationship. I think this is where people that are in love differ…I can only see what makes her so special to me and why its so hard for me to remember the not so green side of the relationship. Maybe finding someone that sees only the good in me is what love truly is. Its 3am I’m incoherent, I’ll probably forget I ever wrote this..

Don’t put too much pressure on yourself. Though you should avoid making the same mistakes, if you’re constantly obsessing over not making them, you won’t be able to enjoy the relationship. Just have fun and try not to think about it too much unless you’re having a conflict. If you’re so worried that you’ll lose him again every step you take, you won’t be able to live in the moment.

My situation feels different to these options. It’s been about a month now since my ex decided to end the relationship. She has all her friends and family in her ear telling her it was a good thing and simply keeping her and I away from eachother. She says she’s happier this way but I’m really quite the opposite. I’ve spent a lot of nights crying and even spent two nights in hospital after attempted suicide. Since the breakup we’ve kept in contact and one night we even had a little fling and had sex. Almost immediately afterwards she told me it meant nothing to her and it was just sex. She has been getting real close with one of her friends and they’ve kissed and rugged eachother a little. I’ve made the mistake of begging several times. I’ve done all I could think to get her back but after doing my research I’ve realised I’ve only been “emotionally blackmailing” her. I’m pretty much at the point where I’d even kill to get her back. I’ve seen a lot of guides and programs but I simply don’t have money to pay for them. I was really hoping that maybe you could shoot me an email and work put a way to help me get my ex back.

If so, you ARE having irrational thoughts because these statements are definitely NOT TRUE. When you repeat such statements to yourself, it’s no wonder that you feel needy and depressed. To a point, your mind believes whatever you repeatedly tell it… rational or irrational. These irrational thoughts are holding you back… they will actually PREVENT you from getting back with your ex since they are causing the neediness that your ex will find so repulsive.

If your relationship is ended then I am sure you display one of these fatal characteristics (list is below). These fatal characteristics kill attraction and remove love from the relationship. That is the reason I called them “Six Deadly Qualities”

If you’re on speaking terms, casually mention other girls. You can mention one girl a few times, leading her to wonder, “Who is this girl?” Or you can just talk about a group of girls, mentioning that you were at a party that was filled with mostly girls but that you were “okay with that.”

What if his ex-girlfriend decides to do the very same tactics with him? Will he be able to survive? Whether he be in a condition to judge that either she is ditching him actually or making fun of him. So leave it for now.

In this case, should i inform her that I would not contact her for a while, or still answer her calls but keep the conversation to general topics and avoid getting to serious topics? Or should I just ignore her (and might push her more away)?

If you think your girl loves to see your call or message after every hour then you are wrong. Space is very important for keeping attention into your relationship. Thinks for once, do you ever attract by girl who bombard you with text messages? No, I am sure you never attract to such girl. A human with higher value doesn’t need human attraction because he gets it in abundance from the people he meets daily. You don’t need to tell your girlfriend that you love her every time instead tell her when she only deserves it.

You need to be sure. You need to stand up and with that indomitable courage, see past her emotions that frighten you to the goal you want. Think of her emotions of anger and bitterness as the guardians at the castle to her heart that you must disarm before the doors are opened.

Hey so me and my ex finished our relationship 2 years ago i started one but idk i keep having things remind me of him i always think of little stuff we used to do and me and my new partner are always fighting i went to this party were i saw my ex and his new girlfriend ( which is my ex best friend) their currently engaged but they were arguing and fighting i didnt say hi to them or i didnt show that i was affected by it but i still have that connection with him and idk maybe i just want to talk to him and let things right since he was my bestfriemd for almost 7 years sometimes i do miss him his biethday is coming up and idk if i schould DM him since idk if his girlfriend has his password and i domt want to seem like im desperate what do i do ??? I dont knoe what to do

Denver clinical psychologist Susan Heitler, Ph.D, a graduate of Harvard and NYU, is author of Power of Two, a book, a workbook, and a website that teach the communication skills that save and sustain positive relationships.  

Now, how to get your ex-girlfriend back can be a darned difficult path to tread, with multiple possible routes – each dependent on the type of breakup and the girl’s reaction to it. Therefore, getting your ex-girlfriend back can be trickier and more complex than you’d have made it out to be. The process of getting your ex-girlfriend back is much more than a series of texts-calls-subtle hints-taking it slow-reengaging-acknowledging your mistake-and showing the change! And the road can be filled with obstacles that hadn’t quite crossed your mentalscape, when you decided to embark upon a journey, the arrival of which isn’t quite guaranteed.

Examine how your values have shifted. Having gone through a breakup with one type of woman, you probably have a good idea of the things you didn’t like about her personality. This means you’re probably eying women who have a different personality in that regard, which in turn means that you’ve learned from your past – a sure sign of personal growth.

After researching over the internet, I found Michael’s Youtube videos. He talks about important aspects of a healthy relationship that I feel my relationship was missing. The thing that I like most about Michael’s videos was he was a relationship coach who has hundred of likes in his Youtube videos. I knew it is easy to get likes on your Youtube video but the interaction and feedback he was getting from his audience seems real dude to me.

If your ex contacts you a lot, let him know that you’re going to give him some time so he doesn’t think you don’t want anything to do with him. This is especially important if the guy you love is a bit shy or insecure.

Stoped talking for those 5 months and barley yesterday she texted me saying she wants to have sex and that she wants mr bck but the problems is her family dosen’t like me and I do not know what to do, I really need your help

Always be positive and happy when you’re around him. You can drop subtle hints along the way that you’re still interested in him. For example, you could say, “It’s great to hang out with you. I really missed spending time with you.”

Women are biologically attract to men that have leadership qualities. Saying you have no plan is unattractive. If your girlfriend loses attraction then don’t blame her, it is basically in their DNA to follow men that lead them.