This is something that you should avoid doing if you really want him back. Maintain your dignity. After your break-up, there are really instances when you want to come running to him and beg him to be with you again.
Nothing is impossible if you are determined to really move on, but you have to help yourself. Make a list of all the bad qualities of your ex, the things you couldn’t stand about him or her. List all the reasons why you shouldn’t get back together.
Hi. I dated this guy last year , but unfortunately it didn’t work out between us cause I was unreachable and shy. We pretty much texted the whole time and met a few times. I fell for him and he said he had feelings for me too . But all of a sudden he wanted to be just friends. We had 5 months long an emotional relationship/friendship and 5 months a non-emotional one. I kinda acted out there. He started giving me less atttetion day after day and we started fighting every now and then and I got super jealous when he talked about this other girl he liked. Eventually he called the friendship off. I asked him to block my number and social accounts so we wouldn’t have contact . It’s been 4 months now and I miss him everyday. I’m madly in love with him . Haven’t heard of him for 4 months and I want him back. I can’t get over him being gone from my life. Please help. What should I do ? Why am I feeling this way.
Always remember that your ex is your ex for a reason and that reason defines where you stand. Try meeting new people and doing more things for yourself. Broaden your mind and grow and in time all thoughts of your ex will fade.
My ex and I were together for 5 months. Everything was perfect…we had met each other’s families, talked about our future, never even had a fight, etc. I always had his phone and he was never bothered by it until one night he kept hiding it from me. I caught a glimpse and saw a girls name. When I asked him about it he said it was a girl he worked with and I had nothing to worry about. I believed him. A few days later he started acting really distant and I asked him if everything was ok and he said he wanted a break and when I asked him if it was so he could talk to that girl he just said no we just needed time apart…the next night I asked him about the girl again and he admitted yes they had been talking and I asked if he wanted to be with her now and he said yes. One week later he’s in a relationship with a completely different girl..not even the girl he left me for. He’s 29 and this girl is only 20 and they had only talked for a few days before changing their relationship status on FB! We are still friends on all social media and he still watches my Snap stories. My gut tells me that we were getting too serious and he freaked out…but who knows. I plan on doing the NC (it’s almost been 2 weeks), but I’m just wondering if it’s even worth the fight. I do still love him, but I don’t know if I’m blinded by that and won’t accept that he’s just not the guy I thought he was…I’m just so confused!
So he moved out of my flat but he left the majority of his stuff here at my apartment. I went on a trip and I asked him to take his stuff from my place for good, he had 7 days for that. When I arrived home, nothing happened, his stuff were still here. During my holiday I didn’t contact him, when he messaged me, I didn’t respond him. When I was traveling home he messaged me like “we need to talk.” I didn’t know what could happened, so I replied with a simple “about what?” when he told me he didn’t have the emotional strength to take his stuff and he also was worried about me that if something terrible happened to me or what? So I replied to his messages focusing on the context like “I’m gonna pack your stuff alone” and then he asked me if I need help with it, I answered him with a simple “no”. So did I violated the “no contact rule” here? Can we consider all this as “emergency”? and also do you think I made “one of the biggest mistakes” by being too cold or rude? Please help me, I don’t want to drive him away, I don’t know what to do. 🙁
Make a game plan for how to deal with unmet expectations. For example, if you broke up with your ex because he or she spent too much time with friends, talk openly about how much time is reasonable and how you will negotiate with one another if you need more time with friends.
Make sure you want your ex boyfriend back for the right reasons. Are you really still in love with him? If so, it might be worth trying to get him back, by showing him you still care and that you believe things will be better this time. Sometimes breaking up provides time for both people to realize that, more than anything, they just want to be together again. However, if you have any other reason for wanting your ex back, reexamine whether it’s a good idea to try to rekindle the relationship.
Those two factors lead to something very valuable to your goal: You will have more self confidence (and that definitely shows) and your ex boyfriend will notice that you have “moved on” with your life, or at least that you are not suffering full time because he is gone.This works like a red rag on a bull for most guys!
Clean your room and throw away all the things that you associate with your ex like photo albums, gifts he gave you, old rotten flowers he gave you that you’re still keeping as souvenirs, letters and birthday cards. If you have posters or pictures drawn on the wall with him, repaint your walls and redecorate your bedroom.
My boyfriend broke up with me in June and we got back together in July. One day we went out for lunch and for some reason I got mad at him and said some mean things. And he broke up with me again. He said he wants his space and he is in frustration because he is not getting his degree. So we decided to take a break for 6 months. I help him with the paper things for his college so we at least see each other once a week. I know he loves me but I really don’t need a break. Please advice me how do I get him back? I feel like we are soulmates and just can’t think of being with other man. We are really strong emotionally and physically attracte but something went wrong in our relationship that we can’t figure it out. Please advise me how to get him back
“The first thing a girl needs to do is step back from the situation and realize why she isn’t with her boyfriend anymore. If it was because she was being too clingy, obviously she shouldn’t call and Facebook him 20 times a day. Once she understands why she’s not with him anymore, she should let him know she’s working on it and try to mend things slowly. Things won’t happen overnight, so don’t rush.”
Even though they do not always help, talk to your family. They are always there for you and they can definitely keep your mind off of things! Know that your family loves you unconditionally, and that you can talk to them about more than you think.
My ex and I have kids I dont know I dont know if I should make him stay away from us or his kids sometimes u uses our kids to get to me and that lets be stuff i have love for him but i dont love him I’m just ready for this to be over its been almost aa year and a half we cant take anymore of his lies and deceiving ways and after he gets done playing house my kids and I suffer
Getting your boyfriend back if he’s dating another girl requires a somewhat different approach. What you do will depend upon the circumstances of your breakup, how much contact you have with him, and whether the two of you still remain friends. But in the end, you can still salvage what you had. No matter who your ex-boyfriend is with now, there are ways to use your past history to your advantage. Learn the secrets to unlocking his buried feelings, and ways to bring them to the surface without him knowing that you even did anything. When he believes he’s thinking about these things all on his own, then you’re one step closer to reconciliation.
“They may not have noticed the signs that it was starting to fail,” she says. “So you refuse to start over because you’ve invested so much time into this relationship that you just can’t get over them.”
Anyways, here’s a video I made a while back that talks about my personal experience (and success!) I had in working to get my ex back and why I was so successful. The video after my video is the course from Brad that I highly recommend as well. Thanks again for stopping by my site!
However, if your boyfriend cheated on you with this girl, you may seriously want to rethink what you are getting yourself back into. If this is your case, trust me when I say it would be in your best interest to move on. Time heals a lot of things, and I can just about guarantee that if given enough time, you’ll come to realize that moving on was the right choice to make.
Another fabulous tip on how to get over your ex boyfriend is to spend time with friends who make you feel good about yourself and don’t waste all that time talking about him! You may well need to get things off your chest sometimes, but get that over done with and then don’t mention your ex again. Your friends are the ones who will help you through this, so go out and have some fun with them and try to forget all about your ex for a while.
Yes, I felt free in a way but totally sad ’cause I did wanna hang or talk or something, but he’s been a jerk for ignoring so long. I need to respect myself, but I want him back too. I haven’t blocked him from WhatsApp or Facebook, don’t plan to really, and I haven’t talked to him, but I really miss him. Should I just stand my ground and not reach out to him? I feel like this is the right thing to do and perhaps try to move on, but I love him. Thank you so much for your help and time, it means the world to me, well, to all of us.