However, my ex boyfriend is not currently at the table with me on this one since we are broken up. (He is not ignoring me or saying we will never be together again, but is making it very clear that our relationship is over.) I have been very clingy in the past and ‘convinced him’ to stay with me when there were problems. I think he is worried I will keep doing that so he keeps telling me that it is definitely over.

Ouch, I know this one must definitely sting to hear but it is a legitimate REAL reason for why he may have broken up with you. This is a common complaint among men who are dating someone who let themselves go a little bit in the relationship. You may have to put in some extra work here but trust me when I say that your physical appearance is easier to improve than your personality so don’t let his thoughts get to you.

Well I tried adding her back on Facebook about 6 days ago and she hasn’t accepted. She told a mutual friend that she doesn’t want to accept and doesn’t want me to think that there’s still something there between us. Also she said that she was done with the relarionship but kept changing her reasons to the mutual friend. She has also deleted a lot of “couple photos” of us and has changed the description from “my man and my baby” to just nothing. It seems as though she’s trying to erase me out of her life. She also told this mutual friend that she can’t remember the last time I made her smile or laugh, which is a lie. I made an instagram post, she still follows me on there, and has seen a couple funny/silly videos i posted up on there but hasn’t “liked” any. Not sure if she did that on purpose or is genuinely not wanting me back at all. She seems quite set in her decision. Our mutual told me that she might be suffering from a mild form of depression due to hating her job so much. and she mentioned the girl I was talking to (the reason for our 1st breakup 4 years ago) and was angry about it. Seems like she’s still jealous about something that happened 4 years ago. Our mutual friend told her that a healthy amount of jealousy is a good thing and that she must love me if she’s mentioning that and is jealous about it. Our mutual friend believes that she doesn’t know what she wants. She went from quite an abusive relationship where she was emotionally and mentally abused and used up, and then she got me a guy that treats her like a princess.

Attractive and higher value men never seek validations from his girlfriend or wife. This is because they live their own life and doesn’t care what others think about them. If you are asking questions from your girlfriend like “Do you love me?” “How much do you love me?” “Do I look good with you?” it means that you are sub-commenting that you are not sure about you. You definitely have to live with ‘nobody is perfect’ because this way you can accept what you currently are and be comfortable in your own skin.

My girlfriend and I broke up a month and a half ago, we were talking frequently until 3 weeks ago when she moved to Portland, OR (we lived in California together). Last week she started dating another guy and I freaked out, text her (nothing mean) said “wow, that was fast” she got extremely pissed and blocked my number and Facebook. Do I still have a chance at getting her back? I made a lot of mistakes after the breakup, begging to come back to her, argued a couple times, freaked about her dating. I wrote her 2 letters but didn’t send either one yet. One is a love letter and the other is an apology letting her know I accept the breakup and wish her the best.

Firstly, I want you to notice how the initial start of the text, the “I saw “Psych” and thought of you” was very interesting. Your goal here is to come up with a text message that is so interesting that it will be impossible for her to not respond to it.

2) A GF may be the last thing you need. Right now, with where you’re at, you need to reflect a bit and work on YOU. You’re probably still a great guy, you just need time to regroup, gain your strength, clarity and stability back – and frankly by the time you do this, you may not even want the same girl anymore. Once you do, you’ll be able to provide a girl with REAL value, and that’s like a drug to a high-quality woman!

About a year ago I went out to lunch with a few friends (3 girls to be exact.) Of course, when you are the only guy among girls the conversation eventually turns to dating. I don’t remember exactly how it happened but someone brought up the question of looks.

Sometimes your girlfriend starts dating again before you can get her back. Rather than giving up however, there are ways of snapping her out of this rebound relationship and bringing her right back to you.

So 2 years ago I broke up with my boyfriend of 7 years because I was nervous about settling down and had just graduated college and felt that I needed to be on my own for a little bit. The instant I broke up with him I knew that I had made a mistake but knew he hated me so much I tried to hide my feelings. Well now I can’t hide my feelings anymore and I am still in love with him and realized what a great relationship we had and brought the good out in each other. At this time he is currently dating someone else but we continue to speak weekly and say how much we miss and love each other. I am currently on the West coast while he is on the East coast. I gave him a decision earlier this year that I would move home to be with him. Well after many weeks of talking to one another and him telling me how unhappy he is in his current relationship, he said he can’t ask me to move home. I was devastated. I am actually moving home in a few weeks due to a family member becoming ill. Do I try to win him back when I move home or leave it as is? I know he still loves me and I still love him.

To a casual observer that may sound really risky but personally I love women with that belief that after they get their boyfriend back they will be with him forever. Those are the type of women who work really hard to create that NEW and BETTER relationship.

If your ex initiates contact with you then that is fine. The important thing is that you aren’t the one initiating contact. Just keep the conversation short and portray happiness (more on this later).

Have you started a relationship with someone, but have not shared a kiss yet? Are you afraid to make the first move? Kissing can be fun and exciting, but also intense and intimate. However, it is nothing to be afraid of. With a little effort, you and your special someone will be kissing in no time.

However, if you can be honest with yourself, you can admit that you don’t NEED your ex in your life – you CAN live without them, you CAN be happy without them, and there ARE other very attractive, wonderful people out there for you.

In either case, you are just going to get hurt and not get what you want; a committed relationship with your ex.  If you are serious about getting your ex back, or being happy in your life, make sure you never force them for being friends or even decline their offer to do so; at least, not until you are done with step 2.

And the number one thing?  Build courage, confidence, and a philosophy of abundance by specifically working on your skills at attracting women outside of your social circle.  Yes, strangers.  The truth is, the fear that we don’t have control over our love lives is the greatest source of insecurity for most men.  I wrote The Anti-Pickup Line to chronicle how I overcame that and to teach other guys to do the same.  Read it.

For most people, the expectation that a break up will be followed by traumatic grief becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. Get rid of that belief and you get rid of the self-fulfilling prophecy that flows from it.

hello my ex and I broke up about a month ago but we still were friends with benefits and just last Monday she got asked out by a guy who she told me she liked while we were going out. now she says she still loves me and wants to be friends with benefits but I want to be in a relationship with her. what do I do? please help

Overconfidence can lead to complacency, which is not good for any relationship. According to Anderson, in a survey published in August 1993 in the journal Law and Human Behavior, couples who had recently applied for a marriage license were asked to estimate the average rate of divorce. Almost uniformly, they accurately predicted about 50 percent. Then they were asked to estimate the chances that they would get divorced. They answered zero percent. The problem with this statistic is that, if there is no perceived risk of failure, no “work” is put into maintaining the relationship—until it’s suddenly faltering. Don’t let yourself gloss over the little things. Don’t forget to make an effort to keep your romance alive. Don’t find yourself in a situation where you realize that you could have done more…when it’s already too late.

It’s time to set some bad memories on fire. Literally. Sometimes hanging on to those “Do you remember the time you did such and such?” moments are the things that lead to relationship sabotage. Instead of carrying grudges around forever, torch them. “Write them all down on a piece of paper. Then set a timer for a certain amount of time. It might be 10 minutes. It might be 30. It might be the whole day. The point is: Give yourself as long as you need to really wallow in the misery of these grudges. Savor them. Get angry about them. Mutter about them. Do whatever you need to do to get sick and tired of them,” says Bowman. “Once you are done, say, ‘I will not think about these anymore. These grudges have lost their usefulness.'” Then take a match and burn them.

Each step below is equally as important as the next and helps give you the upper hand at each point during every interaction you have. You’re basically leading her into the mindset of being back with you.

We all have different types of exes in our lives. Ones we wish we never dated, ones that we weren’t really into, and then there are those… you know, the ones that got away. Those are the ex girlfriends that we constantly creep on social media, wish we were beside, sharing those moments that we view from afar. And you plot for how to get your ex girlfriend back.

Talk. Since communication problems are the number one cause of breakups, you need to work extra hard as a couple to ensure that you always keep lines of communication open. When you get back together, you need to take time to establish expectations, especially in areas that were problems before.

Don’t forget to be yourself. It’s important to work on yourself to improve your relationship as long as both people are doing the work. But you shouldn’t change yourself completely just to fit some image of what your ex wanted from you. You should only change if you want to change, not just for him. Remember that he liked you for a reason originally, so if you change too much, he may not be able to recognize the girl he fell for.

Find out if the timing is already right this time. Do you feel like both of you can already devote time, heart, and energy to make the relationship work? If yes, then your relationship is definitely worth the second chance. Just make sure that the feelings of love are still there.

If she was the one who ended things, then you will have more of a challenge on your hands. Think about all of the reasons she ended it; if she ended it abruptly, look through old emails or texts to see if you can pinpoint the problem. [otp_overlay]