Women will always find a man who is fit more attractive than a man who has let himself go. In fact, one of the many reasons a girl may have broke up with you is because you stopped taking care of yourself.

Talk about kissing. It is possible that your partner may not be thinking about kissing. You can bring kissing to their mind (and encourage them to kiss you) by bringing up the topic of kissing in conversation.[10]

Make her friends see that she needs you. It’s a fact: you will never be able to make your girl want you back if her friends can’t stand you. If her friends don’t like you because you were too controlling, not caring enough towards them, or just because you were a bad boyfriend, then your job is to make them think that maybe you weren’t so bad after all — and to pass this information on to the girl you want.

Just a heads up this is an extremely important section. Remember how you are going to implement the no contact rule for a month (30 days?) Yes, well you are not going to just sit on your butt and twiddle your thumbs during this time. No, you are going to work towards your goal of a new and better relationship by focusing on the one thing you can control, yourself!

The first step is for guys are feeling as though things are going wrong and she’s not that into you anymore… but if you’re at the point where she’s already left you and she’s officially your ex girlfriend then you can move to step 3.

Now, I get that the only reason you came to my website is because you want your ex girlfriend back. Trust me I get it but you know what. Right now you are single and rather than sitting around the house and moping around I want you to take the opposite approach.

Hi there I need your help. My girlfriend broke up with me about two weeks ago. We pretty much argued a lot lately and she and I both had enough. I broke up with her in aug and we got back together. We pretty much argue about the same things. One major problem being her ex (child father) he would send her explicit things and we argued about that and the fact every chance he got he was hitting on her. To me she always made excuses for him saying take couldn’t block him or stop him because they had to communicate for child. To me seemed that she like him chasing her. She said I didn’t trust her but I’ve caught her in so many lies. Another large problem was she would sometimes lie about things..I couldn’t trust her which is one reason I didn’t want her communicating with oneone else. She said I was jealous and have a bad attitude. I felt she made me have one by not respecting our relationship and by entertaining other people. Anyways.. she broke up with me recently and says we will never work.. she said I didn’t care about her health or financial issues .. but lately she has me been pushing me away.. we work together so it’s hard to avoid her. I love her and want her back. We hit a bad patch and I’m willing to change. She has been flirting openly with another Co worker which I told her was disrespectful. Also same day we broke up I found out she slept with her ex. She denied it at first until I provided proof. I’m not innocent, I did flirt with someone else in her face while we were together to show her how it feels.. she hated but that was my point. I didn’t want her to break up with me..When we first broke up I didn’t everything this website said not to do. I even I friended her in Facebook which really pissed her off and she blocked my phone#. It’s only been 2 1/2 days since I’ve done the no contact things.. it’s driving me crazy and I can’t tell where her head is. I feel like I should be chasing her. Is this too far gone? Can I get her back?? So I leave it alone? It’s driving me crazy not being with her and not knowing what she is doing with other people

Leave it at least 2 weeks – Don’t be needy or act desperate, it’s not going to help you. Play your cards close to your chest and don’t contact her for at least 2 weeks. Delete her number if you need to, so you’re not tempted (obviously write it down first).

If you want love and you want to be worthy of love go do things that will make you proud.  Become someone who you would love.  Become someone who you do love (that starts today, with a commitment to be your best self).

when she came back for the Xmas/new year, we saw, she asked me to bring over food and drinks on Xmas day, I did, I kissed her but lightly, and said our good nights, cause I didn’t want to push it far.

You have to remain calm all the time. Try your best to don’t get angry and depressed. Best way to keep anger away from you is avoid getting in arguments and disagreements. Most of the time arguments and disagreements come in conversation because of previous relationship.

Use the things she liked about you before to your advantage – For instance, if she likes a particular outfit, then consider wearing it again when you are meeting her. You can also talk about a fun and light-hearted memory you once shared. Have dinner or visit a place that both of you are familiar with since you hang out there before most of the time.

I left my girlfriend and know that it way my fault I left, she has a child. I walked out because of two many demands? She shut the door for the child’s sake. What do I do?i have never loved anyone this much. Sometimes she makes a lot of demands and I don’t know what to do. I can’t go on without her.

My ex broke up with me almost five months ago (over the phone, after being together for 1.5 years), and it devastated me. For about the first 2.5 months, I made a lot of mistakes, but have been good for the past two months. Over the last two months, I’ve made a lot of progress, but still miss her a lot. I truly think we could work things out, though her reasoning for leaving were that we fought a lot, I’m too invested in my career, she doesn’t want to move and scared of being a single mother in the future because my career involves traveling. She also mentioned that I was controlling.

Peter also switched from “awfulizing” about his work situation from a stance of helpless victim to taking a problem-solving stance. What could he do to find a more positive work situation? He began networking with others in his field, stumbled on a job that sounded far more suitable, applied, and at this point is looking likely to get the position.  

Now what we have seen in public relations is that the over anxiety and fast running of the individuals tend to break the relationships again and again. Yes, that’s true. If you are hasty and have not learned from the past, you may break your relationship again. It may not work out for you again. So it is in better interest of yours to hold down for a second and think that whether you are prepared to get back in that relationship again? Or are you doing everything in haste again?

Reflect on what went wrong. Every relationship is different, and so is the end of your relationship. If you want to win your woman back, then you have to consider whatever it was that ended things, and to make sure not to go down that path again. Were you too controlling, too distant, or were there some general incompatibility issues? Maybe it was more simple — you couldn’t get along with her friends, or she couldn’t understand your love for motorcycles. Whatever it was, it’s time to dig deep to find the source of the problem.

Hi, oh okay. I’m somehow think that she has a new date now, but I can’t 100% confirm. Please advise what should I do now? I have not been sleeping well for the past few weeks already. I love her, and i will want her back. Thanks!

I talked on the phone to her last night, and she said this me we cant be together, you don’t handle situations well, and at times I am like a child. And that she has chosen the new guy, as he was excused to break up with me, then move into it as or just after we break up. She also said to me that why keep trying and pulling back to you, can you give up.

However, there is a specific way that I want you to do it (to kind of maximize your chances.) Of course, I will get into how to do that a little later. For now, lets just stick to advancing our big picture game plan.

Maybe you’ve tried apologizing, promising to change, or telling her how sorry you are. There’s a surprising reason none of those things work, and when you know it, you know how to get your ex-girlfriend back and make her want you more than she ever did before.

That’s good Emily, initiate No Contact first and give both parties some space to let go of any negative emotions or thoughts. He may very well be serious about the possibility of working out, but that’s definitely not something that can be achieved right now.

There is a reason she gave you her heart. She never wanted it to be ripped away from yours like a scab over a half healed welt. She chose you coz she loved you. She took those steps with you coz she wanted to move ahead. She wanted to build a future with you and she was investing her heart, body, and soul in it. But then, she ‘couldn’t do it anymore’ because she didn’t see a way to make that investment yield returns. She tried to explain, told you she was unhappy but she probably didn’t FEEL that she was being heard or understood. And when she felt emotionally drained, she gave up the trudge on the apparent one-way street! Now this may not be your case, or may only hold true partially – but that’s no reason to despair! The point is, women give up when they cannot bear the disinterested stance of on-going non-commitment. It is important for you to pin down what the specific reasons for your breakup were and understand it from her perspective. Her chants of ‘I don’t feel the love anymore,’ or ‘it’s over,’ or even ‘I’m seeing someone else,’ can merely be coping mechanisms! Well, just remember there’s a 50% chance they may not be.

Make a game plan for addressing the problem. Once you’ve located the problem, it’s up to you to find a solution. If there are several problems, well, then you’ll need to find several solutions, or an overarching solution that tackles all of these problems. If it ended because you spent way too much time with your friends, find a way to make her a bigger priority by setting up weekly date nights and coming up with new things you want to do together. If it ended because of your inability to communicate, practice honesty and compassion in your everyday relationships.

Hang in there, and focus on recovering right now. If you want her back in your life, you’re going to have to make changes to yourself especially on areas she didn’t like. You should take some time off from her and distance yourself right now to work on your own issues, before trying anything again.

Meet up again – Keep meeting up with her casually for a few weeks to a few months. Keep the conversations light, friendly and nothing to do with breaking up. Make it look like you’re really happy and moving on with your life.

Or, talking to someone about it and discussing your feelings may be the technique that works best for your. However you choose to overcome your feelings, it’s important to know that more guys know what you’re going through than you know! Once you overcome your feelings for your ex, you’ll be able to go out and find someone who you can spend your life with.

Before making a move to make your ex-girlfriend a part of your life once again, it is important to gain a full understanding about who controlled the actual break-up. You also need to determine the exact reason why it took place. If you were the one who decided to break up, leaving your ex-girlfriend totally against it, then rekindling the relationship may be much easier.

Your instincts will tell you that if you just agree to everything your ex wants, they will come back. Your instincts will tell you that your needs, your values, your desires, your goals don’t matter. Your instincts will tell you that the only thing that matters is to get your ex back. And for that, you can sacrifice everything.

He stayed at my house after sex saying he cant get home that late so we were sleeping together. Then stayed for the weekend, cooked for me and left his stuff at me saying he dont want to bring it again. Then started to repair my boiler, ordered stuff and collected from the shop. I was terrified what he wants. After my marriage I lived alone with 2 kids and I was happy: I could decide about my things alone and it was like a fresh air after 20 year long marriage even if it was hard sometimes to arrange everything alone eg. moving, kids illness, arranging school for kids, repairing things, normal household duties, paying bills and also I had a fulltime job. But I felt happy and independent. But I was almost like a male and I have not sex with anyone. But after 2 years I started feeling unwell physically and menthally. I thought it was because of lack of sex. But since I did not want to lose my independence, I decided on this friends with benefits type of thing. This is the story behind it.

The goal of the first contact is just to get her think about you positively. Show her how well you’re doing and that you’re back to the man that she fell in love with in the first place. This is important.

Something else to mention here. In most cases if you are ultimately able to get your ex back, it is most likely going to happen face to face. That’s because you can affect a girl’s emotions better face to face. Because remember, as a woman she makes her love-life decisions based on emotion – so that’s why any getting back together will most likely happen face to face.

One additional thought. You might want to check out my post on infusing your interactions with positivity. It’s not just moths that are drawn to light. See http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/resolution-not-conflict/201207/10-ways-radiate-positivity-and-be-attractive. Maximize the positives in your interactions, delete the negatives like criticism or irritated emotions, and the odds will be likely to shift in your favor. [otp_overlay]