If you dig deeper, you will find many things that make you uncomfortable with your ex. However, you keep on ignoring them thinking it wasn’t worth getting into an argument over. By ignoring these small things, you have allowed them to become a full-blown breakup.
It is tempting to offload the burden of losing the girl to a single, out-of-character interaction. The answer is a cosmetic fix. Send a text. Apologize profusely. Stay the same and she’ll see it was all just a fluke.
Honestly, this is tough for me to give advice on. You were faithful but he was not. I would say think very carefully if this person is worth getting in a relationship with again. Personally, cheating to me is a big no no and I don’t think I could forgive that so easily. But hey, that’s me.
This is the easiest circumstance in which to learn how to get an ex back – a situation where one of you moved to another area, and then the long distance made having a healthy relationship impossible.
You will need to begin by sorting your thoughts out. Even if there’s a chance, some distance is first required before re-initiating contact with your ex. Distance does not mean time frame of the breakup but rather, the amount of contact made during the particular time frame, and the changes you’ve made to impress her. Right now, she needs to deal with the emotional trauma of losing a child. She is pushing you away probably because you are unable to provide the emotional support she requires, and by constantly pestering her, you lower your own chances because she will eventually lose respect and feelings for you. I would still recommend no contact first, and to figure out where you need to grow as a person, before thinking about winning her back.
Message her saying that you were scared to come on too strong before, and if she will give you another chance, you will show your true passion for her. Then, when you guys meet up again, grab her and kiss her immediately. Do whatever it takes to show her that you’re sexually attracted to her, that all you can think about is her.
The message seems fine. And I think texting him on that particular day is fine, because ultimately you bear no ill intentions. If the relationship you shared with him was meaningful enough, he would know where you’re coming from, and that you simply wish to let him know that you’ll be there for him.
On the other hand, don’t be afraid of commitment. If you’ve been dating a girl for a couple of months and you’re beginning to feel more attached to her, don’t hide it from her – or yourself. There’s nothing unusual about it.
Find someplace private. It may seem romantic to kiss outside in the rain or snow, but most people prefer to smooch in private. You are more likely to get a kiss if you can find some place to spend time with your partner alone.
If you checked one or more of the above, I have some bad news for you. None — I repeat, none — of the above ploys will make your ex-girlfriend come back to you — no matter what the other so-called relationship “gurus,” books and courses tell you.