If you checked one or more of the above, I have some bad news for you. None — I repeat, none — of the above ploys will make your ex-girlfriend come back to you — no matter what the other so-called relationship “gurus,” books and courses tell you. 

The same can be applied to the first text message you send after the no contact period. Rather than going for it all I would actually recommend that you make the entire interaction very brief and end the conversation first.

Well, it seems that he himself seems reluctant to meet you right now for whatever reasons. It could very well be that it’s too soon still, and you should give him more time and let him initiate on a meeting up instead. You’ve tried a couple of times and have been met with rejection so I don’t advice trying any further or you might push him away. Just take it casually, continue to focus on yourself first, and don’t let these little rejections get you down.

When i did that, she used to tell me not to. I didn’t change myself though. I had been stubborn like a idiot. And looked very upset to her. No talking. Wtf… Now i hate myself in the past… And i forced to her to do what i want. She had been really tired of me.

Hi, I just split up with my girlfriend of 7 years. We were great together, completely in love and talked about marriage and growing old together, we traveled the world together, everyone knows us as a perfect couple, we never fought always laughed together… however the last 2 years have been very difficult. We have been living together for over 5 years but the last 2 years have been a stressful living situation as I had to take in a friend that was in need. I also started my own business which kept me extremely busy.

A hand written letter is a great way to contact your ex right after you’ve finished no contact. A hand written letter stands out in this age of digital technology. Of course, you can use an email as well.

Acting like your life is over without your ex will only lose their respect for you. In the history of breakups, no one has ever taken their ex back out of pity. So, doing such a thing is only going to hurt your chances.

hello my name is shane. I recently broke up with my ex about three months ago. She was the only girl that i knew and after i got broke up with her she was not talking to me at all so i let her cool down for a least two weeks and she and me started talking again.i tried to tell her i dont feel lkie talking to her she kept talking to me and i dont know why but when i got a new phone she asked for my phone number and i gave it to her without asking why but we started talking everyday.i still have feelings for her but ii dont know if she does for me a week goes by and she said are you dating anyone and i said no i was confused because she just asked that out of the blew . I REALLY need advice should i get back with her or stay single for a little more .im only 16 years old anyway and i really need help at this time.

However, my ex boyfriend is not currently at the table with me on this one since we are broken up. (He is not ignoring me or saying we will never be together again, but is making it very clear that our relationship is over.) I have been very clingy in the past and ‘convinced him’ to stay with me when there were problems. I think he is worried I will keep doing that so he keeps telling me that it is definitely over.

my girlfriend of 3 and half years broke up wit me 5days ago without no reason. she is a Muslim Y I’m a christian. she said that her mum said that she cannot date christian and I converted to Muslim because of her. this girl love me so much bt she changed to me before even broken with me. if I tell her I want to see her, she we tell me we can’t see. if I tell her I love u she will not reply me. so with dis I decided not to call her for 4days just to see weda she will call me back bt she didn’t call me. so I decided to call her bt she refused to pick my call nd text me back dat she have d person she’s dating now. yesterday she call me and I pick it bt she didn’t say anything.please I need ur advice because I so much love her and I want to get her back.

“Start talking again, and get your friendship back,” Phoenix writes. “Realize how much you’ve missed her! Not her in your arms, or her in your bed, but her as a person. She knows you so well, and vice versa.”

Breakup is a terrible experience. It leaves you in pain, feeling depressed, angry and often very confused. It is common to be needy at this time. But if you want to be together with your ex, you will have to be calm, unresentful, and HAVE A PLAN. Most of the breakups are reversible and if you do the right things at the right time, then you will have your ex back in your arms.

Would you want your ex constantly checking up on you, sending you messages and blasting notifications to your social media? Probably not. So, make sure you do your ex girlfriend the same courtesy. The best way to get over her and stop missing her is to make sure that you’re not constantly trying to get her attention.

Socialize with your friends more. One of the toughest parts of being single is feeling lonely again after having someone around to spend time with whenever you wanted. Soften the blow by spending more time out with your other friends. Even though you and your ex might share many of the same friends (depending on how long you were together, and how close you were), there’s no reason you can’t see them without her around. Invite them out with you and spend time forging closer bonds with them.

I am completely devastated, hurt, lost and just want her back. I love her completely. We had a few discussions before she left about trying to work things out, and she felt I took her for granted…I had stopped treating her with appreciation and love. I agreed that I have to be more romantic and be an equal partner in the relationship. Over the course of the following days I showed her love and appreciation, treated her like I had done in the past however she still wanted out. She said she needed time and space to figure out what she wants. I told her I would not give up on us but I would give her space that she wanted. She said she still loved me and care a lot about me but was just hurting.

My ex girlfriend and I broke up 3 days ago. Reason? I treated her like a queen, she had a 5 year old adorable daughter at the time, we got really really attached. Me and my girl were very happy a few months ago. 2 months ago she wanted marriage, kids, moving in, all that. Well I did everything for this girl, picked her kids up from school so she could get more sleep, fixed her car, took her out to dinner, told her how beautiful she was, we started to argue because I’d get pissed when she canceled important plans to do things with her friends. She did not make me a priority. I feel like I got took for a ride. When we broke up I went to her house and basically told it how it was, I did this in anger. I told her I deserve better, and that she has used me for the last time. Well I left and she texted me crap like “sorry it didn’t work out you deserve someone great” and I replied “fuck off” and basically kept that attitude for a day until I cooled up. I went out on a date last night with a girl (more attractive than her) and she knows about it and made a comment like “well that was fast”. We are meeting tomorrow to end things the right way, civil. But I want her back. Is there anything I can do?

You first have to understand if him saying that you’re unable to focus on your career is a legitimate worry he has or if it’s an excuse to end things. That would determine if you should contact him, because if it’s a real concern he has, and you are able to convince him that you can stay focused and still be with him, then you should try to fix things.

Let her see that you’re doing just fine without her. If she hears that you’ve been absolutely miserable, crying in public, and shouting her name out on street corners, she’ll be turned off quicker than you can say, “I miss you!” Instead, you want her to hear — and see — that you’re having a great time going about your everyday life without her by your side. She’ll see you as a dynamic person who has a lot going for him, and will begin to wonder why you’re not openly showing signs of missing her more.

I call this part “The Instincts” because all these mistakes are a direct result of people following their instincts. Most of the advice in this 5 Step Plan is counter-intuitive, but it works. When you read it, you will understand why and it will all start to make sense. So let’s start by going over the deadly mistakes that you should avoid at any cost.

If you’re busy pursuing your own interests, your ex may see you doing it — whether you’re going for a run or reading your favorite book in a coffee shop, if she sees you doing your own thing, she’ll be impressed.

hey thx for the advice, just wondering if you can help me solve this problem i have… see my ex girlfriend broke up with me like a week ago becuz she says i was cheating on her with one of her friends who also works at the same place she does, but the thing is that it isnt true i haven’t cheated on her at all, and i told her that but she doesnt beleive me! so what can i do to get my ex girlfriend back? please help beacuse i’d really like to win her back and prove that i care about her but i dont know how to do so unless shes going to belive me that i didnt cheat on her! thanks for your advice on getting my ex back look forward to your advice.

I had 3 month long relationship with a guy from a dating site. I have trust problems because of 20 year long marriage in which I was kinda abused. So that is why decided I did not want a serious relationship, only a friend with benefit type of thing. The guy was very polite. We had only kissing on first date and it took a while for him to even ask for it. Later I told him I did not want a serious relationship but it seemed he was hoping in it. We had very strong chemistry. After we had sex he was taken to hospital. It was crazy. I started to feel something however the plan was not that. I have decided to split up with him but someway I was not able. So we were keeping in touch for 1 month then he was released. I did not trust him. First I though even hospital was lie and then I discovered he was texting with others. I tried to get closer to him but he had walls. We had fights since I felt him cold, too rational therefore I got angry towards him and we had awful fights.We split up 3x but it started again. I emphasized that it was only about sex for me but he wanted sg more serious. Once I have seen him to chat with someone else for a long time. I asked him to tell me if he had someone else and let me go since it is too painful this way to me. He told me that there was no anyone else just he did not know where he stood with me since I was working against the relationship. Basically I think I did not know what I wanted and we had walls. Ok. I asked him to start it again. He asked for time and I promised time. So he messaged me but when I wanted to reply I saw he was chatting with someone again and got angry and attacked him. I said really really mean things. He switched off phone. I was thinking I might have hurt him deliberately because I was not brave enough to start sg serious and wanted to get rid of him instinctively. Next day I said sorry. I was feeling really awful about myself. I am not an evil person. But he did not read it (or yes but it was not displayed).

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I have been going through a lot of emotional worry and depression after I damaged up with my ex-boyfriend and then I followed the guide at www.saveabreakup.com as well as I am currently back together with him and I am very satisfied, I very recommend this.

hey my boyfriend and I had just broken up 2 weeks ago after being together for 2 years, we have both 17. I’m from china but I study in the uk and thats how I met him. since I have got back after the break up, its been really difficult because I have to go to lessons and sit next to him. I feel so tempted to get back together or try to convince him back into a relationship. we both still care and love each other, but we couldnt be together because we argued way too much. I wanted to give it 2-3 months before we get back together so we both have got over all the negative stuff. do you think its a good idea? and how should I act around him when I know there is something more than just friends between us.

Dear, all these mistakes are done by me… but now she doesn’t wanna talk to me and also doesn’t wanna meet me or give me a chance to rectify all things, please suggest something as soon as possible, cause this relation is at very critical stage…

My boyfriend broke up with me 2 weeks ago kind of out of the blue. We’ve been slowly declining for a while, and I would bring up the fact that I felt like things weren’t going good all the time, but he always ignored my pleas for better communication. It finally came to a head and I broke up with him, and then quickly took it back the next day and we decided to get back together. Things seemed to be going really well and then he broke up with me, also saying he needs time and space. During these 2 weeks I’ve come to realize that a lot of the problems were me. I was so emotionally dependent on him, and I would turn negative if I couldn’t be with him. He was my source of happiness and I didn’t realize that until that was gone. I’ve been working on recognizing my problems and fixing them, because in the end I want him back. I really believe that now that I know what the problems were that he never told me during the relationship, if we were to try again, it would be really successful. I broke no contact a few times and was regrettably desperate in asking for him to come back and work on things, to which he kept saying he needs time and space and he’s taking that for himself. I don’t know if I should wait for him to reach out since I’ve reached out so many times (but will not anymore!!) But I’m afraid he won’t and will just move on without me. The fact that he said he needs time and space makes me believe like he wants to revisit the idea of us getting back together, but that may just be me overthinking it. I just want him to see all the progressive I have been making so he can realize even though I may have lost my way and gotten too attached, my intentions were always pure and my love was always real. How do I get him back?

As they talked Peter often felt tempted to say, “and you do it too!”  He successfully refrained.  He had learned that his job was to look at what he could change, not to criticize or advise his wife.  That change proved to be one of the most potent signs to his wife that Peter was in fact behaving far more appealingly.  

This is some seriously good s***! Though it’s seems rather challenging, especially waiting until step 7… and will take lots of self discipline I believe it’s totally worth a shot. There is after all nothing left to lose.

but its been 2 months and i miss her alot but i just dont know how to get her back i still love herand i still wanna be with her but i just dont know what to do or say yo make her wanna be with me again

it’s better than chasing and rushing things.. it’s not a guarantee that it will work but it helps increase your chances because you’re going to be focused in improving yourself and starting a new routine in your life that you will maintain after nc while slowly building rapport.. And be active in posting in social media too.

This video is important because it teaches you REAL reason why your ex is not coming in your life again and show you how little text messages can erase all ‘Bad memories’ and create powerful relationship (even if your ex never picks your phone).

The secret here is to assess the specific reasons why your relationship did not work out in the past. Find out if it is any different this time. If no one changed and worked on improving himself/herself, then there is a chance that your relationship will fail once again. With that in mind, you have to make sure that you are both mature enough before rekindling the relationship.

From a female perspective, i’m not going to sugar coat it: It sounds like she got tired of waiting around. This on & off again stuff can really hurt. Especially as a woman is maturing she wants some stability. Yeah she might have told you she loved you & meant it, but in the time you left while she was hurt it sounds like the other guy might have been there to comfort her, telling her how he’s better for her by telling her what she wants to hear. That she deserves a stable relationship where the guy she loves is going to treat her like a priority & be wirh