If you disciplined your mind and only focused on the love between the two of you, everything would have been perfect. What I’m trying to say is that because you were not careful of your thoughts and entertained doubts and fears about your relationship, you are where you are now.

Replace ‘can’t’ with ‘haven’t’. This is more reflective of your experience. Then accept the pain and acknowledge your right to feel as much or as little pain as you want to. You know yourself better than anyone ever could or would. You know what hurts you and you don’t need to follow someone else’s rules on how to experience or relate to pain

Also, ensure that you agree about not bringing up the same issues and problems that triggered your break-up and the failure of your relationship in the past. Work on ensuring that your previous issues will never interfere your new relationship.

Our lives are an accumulation of loves as well as losses. Sometimes we decide who we want to date based on avoiding the failures of previous relationships. Perhaps instead of focusing on what we didn’t like about our former loves, it might be more helpful to focus on what we liked about how we loved them.

He still haven’t got back to me but I saw he was online after I sent that message. I am feeling really good about his reply because it made me feel good. I know he is working and not time yet to reply. I will wait as long I need to.

Should I ask if he’s in another relationship? Or should I continue to act like I have no knowledge since he hasn’t told me himself? Also, does the fact that this will be his 2nd relationship since our breakup worsen my chances of getting him back?

So i was dating my ex for 2 and a half years he told me that he always thinks theres someone out there better for him. What do i do i love and miss him so much. We never fought and i was so good to him. He said it was hard to let me go

A week ago my boyfriend of 7 years told me that he wasn’t in love with me anymore. That he still cared and loved me but that he wasn’t happy and the spark was gone. He was my whole world, this has been the hardest thing I have ever done. The problem is that we have to still share an apartment together for another month until I can get my own. I have been trying to stay busy and thinking positive thoughts. But it’s hard when you still have to see him.

Work on yourself. Take some time to work out whatever problem may have ended your relationship, and just spend time enjoying your own company or hanging out with friends. Make a list of three flaws that you’d like to change about yourself, and slowly start to address them. It takes a lifetime to grow as a person, but even taking small steps to become your ideal steps can help your relationship.

Think about it in your life. Perhaps you once broke up with a guy and, after finding out that he’d moved on, you found yourself desperately wanting him back. Or, maybe you’ve experienced it in areas that weren’t necessarily related to intimate relationships.

Hi please I need your advice, I have 11 years live in partner we have 4yrs old daughter. My partner had first family but they were not married he decided to celebrate holidays to his first family. I look like i was in tantrums for being angry so he broke up with me. I dont know what to do now and I felt so pity to my child.I want him back but he never showed up here..

Whatever it is – it’s an opportunity to text him, “Hey, I saw a commercial for a cruise the other day and it reminded me when we went to the beach for a week together. That was so much fun, I’m really glad we did that together.”

Hey Ryan, so I’m not worried that she’s seeing other people, atleast not yet. She didn’t date much before me and from everything I can tell, she isn’t dating much or at all right now. She initiated the breakup and asked to still be friends, but she’s got an icy demeanor towards me just about anytime we interact. She’s said that she’s mad at me but refuses to tell me what about. Something is bothering her but she’s not telling me and I promise I’m not calling her everyday, begging her or anything like that. It’s been a couple months like this and it’s after no contact ended, how can I get her to start communicating with me?

Hello I broke up with my ex a month ago and I decided to remain freinds with him back then. But then he was at a party where my best friend has aswel and I found out that he was talking about how harsh Ive been on him and how he tried to put me in a bad light to others by changing the truth and then called me a w*ore. So I messaged him and asked if is trued but he got angry on my best friend telling me, told me “your loss tbh” and blocked me. Then he blocked my best friend too. Then I found out that he has been flirting with my best friend all along even when we were still together and he flirted with another friend of mine but he told me that she was the one flirting with me and he destroyed our friendship. However I thought it will be easy to get over him now but he got into the same sixth form as I have and I dont know what to do. I have emailed the sixth form if they can make sure we wont be in the same classes and they assured me of that. Can I have any advice on how to stop feeling affected by him and not feel anything at all if i see his face again?

And that’s when you contact them, you talk to them and then meet them. Just as they lay eyes on you, BOOM. That’s the new and improved you. YOU version 2.0. They can’t help but wonder what brought so much positive change in you.

If you have already spent some time together as friends, then you can start having an open discussion. Do this at the time when you have already shown him the newer and more improved version of yourself.

So this guy I like, dated for about five months and then we had to break it off. Our relationship was a long distance one so I didn’t know if he was cheating on me or talking trash about me. So one day I text him in the morning letting him know that I was having my surgery and nothing. Then around 3, I texted him letting him know it went good and my shoulder was going to heal. Still heard nothing back from him but when I went on facebook he was active so I texted him and he saw it and no response. But then there was a post on facebook with him kissing my best friend. I acted as if I didn’t see it and then three months later he finally respond to my texts. I broke up with him and didn’t talk for two years. Then after the two years, he asked me to take him back so I did and then he did the same thing again and I left him again. Now he texted me last night asking me to give him a third chance and I haven’t said anything. I don’t know if I should answer him or not! What should I do? Plz, help me with this!

Remember that you’re not going to go all in on this text. You DO NOT want to let him know you want him back at this point. You’re only putting out a vibe. A connection to see how he responds and to get a feel of the current situation.

This will obviously work against you – by driving him further away and reinforcing in his mind that he doesn’t want you in his life. Even if it feels good in the short run as a cathartic release of pain and frustration, in the long run it will surely drive him away from you forever.