Getting her to want you back in a committed relationship is more about what NOT to do, than what to do. Because, you have the attraction back by this point from the previous steps, so all you need to do here is get out of your own way, and let the getting-back-together happen on it’s own.
I would like to thank you for visiting this website in which you will discover proven method for winning your ex boyfriend back. In this website, I am going to show you techniques that I discover in my four years of experience as a relationship coach. With the help of these techniques you able to get your ex boyfriend back in your life once again.
Step 1 – Recover from your breakup and get to the point where you can think rationally and be around your ex without being too emotional. Remove reminders of your ex boyfriend and ignore him for now. This recovery/moving on phase is important, even if you just want him back.
Me(23)and my ex boyfriend(28)dated for seven months. I Love him and I knew he loved me too. He has even introduced me to his family on two occasions and also told me he sees me as his wife.Recently we were talking deeply and I told him I noticed he hides his feelings a lot from me and he admitted it. The next day he texted me and told me we weren’t meant to be, that our relationship was moving too fast,that he wanted us to break up. I didn’t text him that day he sent me the cowardly text because I was in shock . But on the evening of the next day I texted him back and told him that he should stop lying to himself, that he has insecurity issues, which was not a lie and that was why he was breaking the relationship. Then I blocked him on Facebook, and I had deleted his number but I had to send him a final text so I sent a request, he accepted it and I told him that he doesn’t appreciate himself, which isn’t a lie because he kinda have a low self esteem sometimes, and that’s why he doesn’t appreciate me and doesn’t appreciate our relationship. I also told him that he needs to go and see a therapist. He hasn’t replied me and I haven’t text or called him after that. I don’t know what to do now.
She could be confused still, unable to let go of the past, or perhaps she wants to start off as friends first and is trying to see how she still feels about you. There could also be the last option that she really just wants to maintain a friendship with you and is over you already. I suggest you take things at face value for now since it would be easier compared to second guessing at every turn. Just continue to build up a friendship and bond, before seeing how things go from there. Don’t be too impatient or you would push her away completely.
Sadly my 7year relationship ended almost a year ago now nd I still miss him daily. I’ve tried moving on with someone else and can’t even bring myself to say I love you in return. I still wish we could reconcile but it seems like he’s completely replaced me. I don’t know what to do …
Take things slowly and rebuild attraction, connection and trust with your ex. Keep doing it until your ex decides they want to get back together. Before you begin no contact take this short quiz to find out your chances of getting back together.
So here’s my situation. I’ve had a relationship for the past 3.5 years. For a long time prior to those years she had a huge crush on me, but i never really did anything with it. Even still we got together. During the relationship i never really felt i was truly in love with her, at least i thought so. But i also need to mention that i was smoking weed on a daily basis. (She hated that) Which resulted in me not to be able to express my feelings in the right way, or even to be having’ feelings. During this time i was unemployed and living in her house pretty much rent-free, and even still she was the sweetest girl in the world for me. (make’s me sick to my stomach even thinking about that now) I was a really selfish guy over the years, never surprised her or anything like that and have been taking’ her for granted During the entire relationship. Never really considered her feelings. (Again, sick to my stomach) So due to text messages she started building a emotionally relationship with some guy she met a bar way back before our relationship. Can’t really blame her for that giving the fact i was emotionally unavailable due to smoking weed. It always stayed with text messaging she claims and i believe her. This lasted from May to August. I forgave her. Last September we’ve been on holiday together, for here it was a sort of last attempt to save our relationship. Which i didn’t knew at the time. So i continued in my own selfish ways, and continued smoking weed. She was slipping right from under my nose and i didn’t even noticed. After the holiday we’ve stayed together until November 10th which is when she dumped me. Again, cant blame her, thinking back i am surprised she even last this long with me. Since then i have stopped smoking weed, cant even stand the smell of it, got a job, and starting to express my emotions again. Needless to say that i want her back, in fact i feel like im in love with her. She says its to late, that she really would want it but that her feelings for me has changed. However, she does keep contacting me, even send some nudes and stuff like that but still don’t want te be in a relationship anymore. Also does she really badly wants to stay friends and gets really upset if i suggest to brake contact, just because i cant handle this form of contact we are having right now, simply because i want her back so badly. Do think NC will do the trick? I’ve been trying it 2 times already but never got past 2/3 days as she keeps calling/texting me and i feel bad for her and cave. And its hard for me as well of course. Sorry for my English, im from Europe.
I just started the no contact phase last week. It has been 3 weeks since we have broken up. She’s currently talking to someone and things are moving fast. She told me it wasn’t a rebound. So I wanted to ask when I was finish the no contact phase, should I still text her or wait until she’s single again (if she ever is.) please someone help me!
“I can see now,” Peter explained to her, “that in my depression about work I became totally self-centered. I withdrew from you, so no wonder you felt angry and distanced from me. As both of us withdrew from each other we lost our sexual connection. I felt desparate for attention. Then I took the ultimate wrong turn by seeking sexual attention from an infidelity. Big mistake! I’m so glad that now I’m looking for a job that will be a better fit for me. I think I’ve found one, and I’m thrilled at the prospect.”
My question is if you are taking this advice into practice in your life, how should you act around the guy if you still see him or have contact with him? What is appropriate, what is not. How can you show him that you want him to approach you and develop that relationship with you without compromising what was said in this article?
Work on your confidence and start loving yourself. The higher your self-esteem and confidence are, the more you can say that you are fully prepared to have a long-lasting and healthy relationship with him.
I haven’t seen or heard from my ex in almost 2 months. Reality check. No he’s probably not lonely. He’s had more than enough time to realise he made a mistake so if he wanted to talk to me he would have by now. If he hasn’t realised it by now he never will and I’m not waiting around for something that may or may not happen. That’s just what I think anyway.
While each situation might require different solutions, there are some universal truths when it comes to stopping and reversing a breakup. Learning the right (and wrong) things to do and say will help you map out a step-by-step blueprint for getting your exboyfriend back.
Staying at home, watching TV and checking out your ex boyfriend’s Facebook profile won’t help. Distract yourself. Get out of the house as often as you can. Don’t hang out in places that remind you of him.
Hang in there. Continue to work on yourself and don’t linger in the past, if she moves on, so should you. And if your decision is to only come back if she contacts you, then it’s a good idea to move on in the mean time because you don’t know if it will ever happen or not.
If you have a mutual friend, ask about when your ex will be at certain places so you can avoid going there around that time. Try not to overdo this, though—constantly planning your life around him could make it hard to forget him. If you go to the same fitness center, switch up your routine by going for a run around the neighborhood instead of doing the elliptical at the gym. If you’re trying to get over him, seeing him everywhere only makes you hurt more. You can take this opportunity to find new hangout spots and make new circles of friends.