You may be wondering why learning about the NCR (No Contact Rule) is so important. After all, this page is about a very unique situation, trying to get an ex boyfriend back who has a new girlfriend. Well, the importance of NOT CONTACTING YOUR EX is crucial in this particular situation. The fact that your old boyfriend has a new girlfriend can be heart crushing and you are going to want to contact your ex very badly (and you are definitely not going to have many good things to say.)
Evolution and the desire to have the strongest possible offspring, dictate that your girl gets attracted to guys she sees as superior to herself. All women have this mechanism wired into their DNA in order to keep the human race strong.
All I can say is, I am simply moving on with my daily responsibilities and new interests and hobbies (previously discouraged by my ex wife). I still love her dearly after she declared she no longer loved me 18 months ago :-(. The distraction of hobbies and interests is like a Panadol but new skill acquisition requires daily practise so they are a regular distraction. I signed up for an online course, regular homework and further distraction. These things are enjoyable even though I am using them as a distraction. I was told I couldn’t dance if my life depended… Read more »
There are certain texting and calling rules you can follow that will ensure you come across more attractively to an ex than you have been recently. These rules are simple but extremely powerful. Obviously they’re only simple and powerful if you know what they are. Once again, see my Category A video to learn more.
One of the biggest problems women have after a breakup is saying too much. Yet while there’s no mystical speech that will suddenly make your ex want you again, there are definitely some things you can say that will keep your ex open and receptive you, even after the relationship ends.
Obviously, things probably went south toward the end, but how did you feel the rest of the time? (The beginning doesn’t count. Beginnings are always easy and idealized; they’re the filtered version of real relationships!)
It doesn’t matter how long ago your relationship ended, or how your breakup happened. Because you had an emotional connection, there will always be a path that leads back into your ex boyfriend’s heart.
Chances are that you are here because you are still very much in love with your ex boyfriend. If this is the case you will likely be wondering how to make him want you back. When you listen to your friend at this time they will be telling you to get over him and move on with your life. This is a lot easier said than done and not the advice that you want to hear right now. If you really do believe that he is the right person for you, then you will have to do some work and not be dissuaded by well meaning friends. If you are determined that this is what you want to do, you will have to have a good plan. With the help of the experts, you will learn how to make him want you back again and even make his love for you stronger than it was before. You have to be proactive though, so let’s get started.
My ex broke up with me last month after being together for over a year. The last few months were rough because his grandmother passed away after being in the hospital for a few months. I tried to be there for him but he totally withdrew and would reject my advances and we started fighting a lot because of it.
I know it feels good, yes, that’s a good sign and congratulations! But, it would be better if you finish 45, so that you don’t look like you were just waiting for him to act and then you jumped on the opportunity.
Make him jealous (optional). This doesn’t work for everyone, but if you think that having your ex see you with another guy, or just flirting with a group of guys, will make him want to be around you even more than go for it. This doesn’t mean you should get another boyfriend just to make him jealous. Just let him see you flirting, tossing your hair back, or even getting on the dance floor with another guy or two.
Now hear me out on this… don’t try to get your Ex back right now, because if you’re constantly pursuing him you will lose all of your power. Don’t text him, don’t call him, don’t do anything… just yet.
The important thing is you need to find a balance here. Your first ‘FIXIT’ date need to fun enough to make your ex comfortable with you and light enough that your ex doesn’t feel awkward afterward. Keep your date short and sweet instead of talking about useless things.
If you see your friends, do not avoid them, but do not go out of your way to make plans with them. You want to be civil and respectful, however it is hard to get over your ex when his or her friends are constantly reminding you of them.
If possible and when both of you are ready, talk openly about the conflicts that you experienced in the past then create a plan so you can deal with them more appropriately in the future. If necessary, try couple’s counseling to enhance your relationship skills and your ability to handle conflicts.
Hi everyone I’m so thankful to have found this group! I’m only 23 but my relationship of 3 years ended suddenly 2 weeks ago. My boyfriend and I started living together 6 months back and thought it was going really well. One day we were arguing over something silly that quickly escalated. He said he needed time alone to think and we didn’t talk for 3 days. Finally he said he was ready to talk and told me he was no longer happy or in love. I was blind sided and devastated. My entire life crumbled and I felt like I lost everything. A few days after I heard through my sister he was seen with a girl whom he had been playing online video games and met through coworkers. He has been living at her apartment ever since the breakup and I feel even more devastated to know he moved on so quickly. I feel like our entire relationship was a lie and he no longer cares for me. Even though he ended things before he started physically seeing her it hurts to think of it so soon after. I am having good moments when I see my strength and self love, but every time I think of him with her i feel nauseous. A part of me still wants to try and work things out with him, but I don’t think he feels the same. I’ve seen posts online of them together and he genuinely looks happy and is smiling and flirting together. We have only contacted each other in regards to the apartment logistics. I want to try couples therapy but think it may be too late if he’s moved on. I am actively working on myself and spending time with family, friends, looking for new work, apartments, and hobbies. I feel excited to be moving forward and just want to do the same with him. Should I reach out after no contact period and try to do therapy? Thanks!