I have had a 12-year relationship with a good friend. He travels for work and we usually see each other 4-6 times/year. Recently, he got assigned to my area long term and we were looking forward to spending more quality time together. The one thing that has helped to solidify our 12 year relationship is the fact that I don’t freak out if I don’t hear from him for long periods of time. We each see other people, but it has been a spoken truth between us that we prefer each other over others. Also recently, I experienced an unfortunate health crisis (lump/breast/biopsy), and I was very anxious about it. The biopsy results were benign which was great, but the anxiety didn’t go away, it worsened. I was up and down and all over the place, emotionally and I didn’t know why. For about a week, I behaved like a desperate, needy crazed woman. I sent him some terrible texts, demanding his time and attention–not like me at all. He backed away and totally cut off communications with me. My last message to him was …”I don’t know what’s wrong with me & I am getting help.” That’s exactly what I did and that’s when I found out I was having an adrenaline/pituitary crisis that had caused my blood glucose level to dip down to a dangerous level, my thyroid hormones were low, and these conditions had likely created a chemical imbalance in my brain that kept me from being able to control my anxiety/emotions. It’s been 2 weeks since I started treatment to get myself back to normal levels, and about 2 weeks since I wrote him an email trying to explain what happened to me. I haven’t heard a word back from him. Silence is impossible to interpret. Do you think I should send him a follow up email and let him know I am back to normal, or do you think he is gone for good.

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Another case of her realizing that she’s ‘got you’, and that the challenge in you has been defeated. Boredom sets in for her from here and then it’s just a matter of time until you find yourself going to a search engine and typing how to get a girl back.

Should I really be doing no contact for a whole 30 days at this point… Since I feel like we already had many no contact periods… or would it be wiser to try and speak to him again before he gets even closer to this girl and lose him for ever….??

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Learning to distinguish between the internal image of an ex and the actual person can lead to appreciation of our own loving feelings. While we may feel consistently injured and angry when in the presence of an ex, in our internal world we may be able to access love and compassion for that same person.

If you are afraid you are going to end up alone I want you to take a massive action and go out and date more people when you are ready. Don’t let your breakup with your ex affect you to the point where you actually believe this non sense of “No one loves me.”

Oh wow, I feel the exact same way. You wrote it really eloquently. I turned 30 this year and met this amazing women and fell in love for the first time. She had to focus on her PHD studies and ran away since she would have no time and would only hurt both of us. I feel like this hurt me way more than if I would only have intermittent contact with her. This situation, to find someone that you could create a life together, only to have it flush your love down the drain because of her circumstances and… Read more »

This isn’t about “punishing” him, or being rude, or being intentionally cruel to him. It’s about giving both of you some much needed space to get perspective on the relationship and really identify the issues that drove you two apart.

I don’t think you messed up NC, but rather she’s confused right now over what she wants. It might be a good idea to find out more, since NC is complete and if she isn’t that serious with whoever she’s going out with, I think still winning her back would be the right move.

Do not pursue your ex during this time. That means no calling, texting, or asking around about how he or she is doing. Most importantly, do not ask your ex questions about why the breakup happened or about whether he or she is seeing anyone. This comes across as desperate.[6].

Well..he replied on the second day that he is sorry he could not text earlier as he is busy with his two jobs and driving school. He also asked how I am. Well I waited over an hour to reply that it is okay if he could not reply earlier and I am doing fine. I also commented about his driving school that it is great and also mentioned that I have also thought about going to one.

People who choose to run away from their fears tend to exhibit the unhealthy ways of getting over a breakup that I talked about before. They will drown their sorrows with alcohol, meaningless sex, countless rebound relationships and let themselves go in the process.

Me and my other half split up 5 weeks ago last sunday, he split with me 2 days after my 21st birthday. Yes he was my first love but I am completely smitten by him. When he broke it off with me he didnt give me much of a reason but gave me a kiss as he got out of my car. I got a text message saying “he doesnt want anything with me anymore, its a clean break and not just a break” but ive had no explination and im incredibly worried that he thinks the grass is greener. I made the mistake of texting him because i felt like i needed closure and he didnt give me that. After 2.5 years i deserve that right? He keeps telling people that hes “ignoring me to move on properly” and i just dont understand. 2 hours before breaking it off with me, he was telling me he loves me and misses me. And wrote in my birthday card “to my one and only” was this all a lie? Hes a very “led astray” person and his family like to drink and ever since this happened hes been drinking more, hes seen me once and not even made eye contact with me. He could never talk to me and convided in a mutual female friend who i now fear hes trying it on with. Hes getting on with his life whilst mines in the gutted. I really dont know if he loves me or has done for a while. Im so confused.

Try to avoid seeing him at all, even when you’re hanging out with mutual friends. If you do catch yourselves at the same party, you don’t have to be rude to him, but you shouldn’t spend too much time talking to him.

Whatever you do, when you first text him, don’t bring up the relationship or the breakup. Don’t talk about how much you miss him, or that you want to get back together, or that you’re miserable that he’s not in your life.

If you know that a particular friend or family member dislikes your ex, ask to sit down and discuss why. Find out if it is based on how the ex treats you or others, knowledge your friend may have that you don’t, or other evidence that might be meaningful.

I understand that you want to be alone and I respect that. Everyone deserves some alone time with themselves and I’m not going to deny you that opportunity. When you are alone, you can think things through but don’t overdo it.

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Yes, this is true, when a relation broken up then She thru the cause to he and he thru the cause to she. Actually they don’t know whats the main reason for broken up. After read the article somebody get back their ex and somebody actually knows how to maintain a perfect relationship.

Annie Pei from UChicago says that for her friend, breaking up with an ex online was an important first step to moving on with her life post-break-up. “A friend of mine unsubscribed to her ex’s updates on Facebook so he wouldn’t appear in her newsfeed,” Annie says. “This basically took away a lot of the incentive to look at his profile. She still did so once in a while, but the fact that he didn’t appear on her newsfeed took away most of the temptation.”

My ex and I broke up in January but we kept hanging out until May and then recently he came over to get some things and the feelings were overwhelming for both of us. He told me that no one compared to me and that he still loves me but I recently found out that he is hanging out with this girl. He told me if he wasn’t talking to her he would’ve jumped back into the relationship with me. And he is just very confused on what he wants. I told him that for this to work it would have to be a commitment to me and me only. He told me that part if him wants it to work out and part of him is unsure about us and I think it’s because of this girl. I don’t know what to do in this case. Where do I go fron here? Thank you

Demonstrate that you’ve learned from past missteps. Examine what didn’t work the first time around. Pay special attention to the complaints he had about your behavior. Some were probably unreasonable to you, while you must admit that others were probably entirely legitimate. Don’t sacrifice who you are by responding to those unreasonable or unfair complaints. Focus on the justifiable complaints.

Personally, it’s been quite a long while. It may be worth a shot to try contacting her once more and you could be honest and explain the situation back then and apologize for it, then see if she’s willing to still stay friends.

For instance, in the future when he was traveling for business and staying alone in hotels he would plan ahead what to do in the evenings: phone his wife, work on his computer, read, watch his favorite TV shows.  He would NOT go to the hotel bar. If he met people in the lobby, if the acquaintances were women he would speak with them briefly and then say goodbye.  He would go out to dinner only with men friends.  If women joined them, he would not engage in one-on-one conversations with them. Alcohol, private time with women plus loneliness and a disconnected relationship with his wife had been a dangerous combination for him. 

It sounds New Age-y, but moving around your furniture literally gives you a fresh perspective, which kind of gives you the kick you need to move forward. At the very least, spring for new sheetsit’ll help get him off your mind now that he’s off your bed.

But no matter what, you need to keep things casual on your end. Don’t chase, don’t beg, and don’t elude to a yearning for the past. You need to keep him guessing, wondering what your motivations are in wanting to see him.

For the last 3 yrs I was the one who reach out to him every time he leave, now I am applying the no contact, is been 2 weeks, is been hard but I told myself I will have to keep my ground for at least 3 months before I consider reaching out to him. Do you think he will reach out to me this time around? if so, any idea after how long he will reach out to me? I think I may got him used to me giving in all the time.

Another thing you can try is reconnecting with your old friends and family members to avoid isolated environment. Instead of sitting lonely you have to surround yourself with positive and happy people.

I want  you to repeat this motto three times every single day “I will make him regret the breakup, I will make him regret the breakup, I will make him regret the breakup.” Look at this fitness section as a way that you can improve physically. To become the hottest version of yourself.

Truth 3: Rebound relationships are relationships that usually form right after a breakup. Lucky for you rebound relationships don’t last forever. In fact, statistics show that 90% of rebound relationships are bound to fail. So, the odds are in your favor just make sure you keep your cool while he is dating his new girlfriend. Remember, if you freak out you are going to make a lot of mistakes and mistakes aren’t going to help get you two back together.

“I listened to my friends, who pointed out how he was a jerk, which really opened my eyes to how he really treated me. I also listened to ‘Potential Breakup Song’ by Aly & AJ, which made me dance and get over him!” –Sami, 14 [otp_overlay]