In my book, “The Lovemap Code: How To Make Someone Fall In Love With You Using Psychology,” I reveal the psychology of how to program someone to fall in love with you. I also show how to implement this process in a situation where you are trying to get an ex back after a breakup. And one of the key ways I show how to do this is with the use of reverse psychology.
Boyfriend who puts handcuffed to his girlfriend and don’t allow her to hang out with her friends is very unattractive. By controlling your girlfriend way too much you feel down in your deep heart and think you don’t have high value than your girlfriend.
Even if you don’t bring up your past relationship directly, you can remind him of the good times you shared together in subtle ways. If he complimented a particular outfit, wear it again. You could also share a light-hearted memory with him. If you have a chance to meet him, do it in a familiar place where you used to enjoy good times together.
It is essential that you talk about experiences that your ex enjoyed. A lot of people screw up because they only talk about stuff that they miss. Make sure you are talking about stuff that your ex misses as well. Here is a good example of how this should be done.
Hi Lauren, I have a question that is related in a big way, but not too related in others. You mentioned the concept of men doing the pursuing and women doing the recieving. I’m on my 4th Mars Venus book – Mars and Venus on a Date – and I noticed that this is a huge theme in the book. So my question is: What do you do if a guy gives you his number and says “call/text me”? When I first met my ex, I felt like I was pursuing him a bit because this is the way he approached me. We met working on a project, but to build off of our newfound friendship I attempted to flirt and create the opportunity for him to pursue me. We dated for about a year and I thought he could have been the one – until recently when we hit a wall in communicating that I felt I had to end it (since then I’ve been educating myself through therapy and Mars Venus books!). But, while at the time I never questioned the success/failure in me doing some reaching out, looking back now I’m wondering if that’s something I could have done differently? The problem is, I wouldn’t know how! It’s a tricky situation. What happened was, like I said, he gave me his number (without me asking for it) and said to contact him. So I did and it went well! Then for our first date, from what I remember, I suggested that it would be nice to get to know eachother more. He told me to let him know when I wanted to go out. I pushed back this time and insisted that he should be the one asking me out, but he refused. To refrain from more back and forth, I planned the date. After that he became much more assertive and started asking me out and presenting me with ideas. But I’ll be honest, I was a little turned off at his insecurity at first. He later told me he wanted to ask me out but was just very nervous, so I decided not to dwell on it and just appreciate that it worked out despite how it happened. But because I didn’t want to do the pursuing, how would I have gotten him to do it?
Also, you need time to recover from the breakup and come out stronger, happier, and more positive. That’s just not going to happen in under 4 weeks, and it’s going to work against you if you try to do it in a shorter period of time.
we met abroad during an exchange and we don’t come from the same country. So when the exchange was over I decided to move to his country where he was finishing his study. I didn’t really know anybody there nor the language which made it a real challenge ( but I thought a real proof of my love).
Hi! I broked up with my boyfriend one month and a week ago, I broked up with him because he became distant with no reason, he was being very dry with me and I always asked him if I was being a good girlfriend and he always said that I was perfect. We didn’t have any problems during our relationship of 3 months. So, I broked up with him through a text “I don’t want to be with you anymore” and he replied that it was a good relationship but we were having many issues and that life made it complicated, so it was better to break up. I don’t know if I want him back because he became distant out of the blue, he didn’t call me or text me as much as before and he said “he was busy with his job” but I knew he had free time. I just want to know why he didn’t want to be with me if things were going well between us, I don’t know what my mistake was. I haven’t talked to him since we broked up, I deleted him from social media that day because I didn’t want him to talk to me. What did I do wrong in the relationship? Should I text him or should I let it go? Thank you, merry Christmas!!
I think you honestly need to sit down and figure out what it is you want. It looks like the crossroads here is between him, or starting a family, so it’s important to know which comes first to you, and stick to it. You wouldn’t want to regret down the road on a decision you felt wasn’t made based on thorough logic but whim of the moment and it’s too late to go back in time to change anything.
I need help! My boyfriend and I just broke up 4 days ago and we were together for 4 months but I’ve known him since we were in 6th grade (I’m a freshman now) and since then, he has liked me. So, a month ago I found out that he liked my best friend and I broke up with him. A week later, we started dating again. The problem is that I’m bipolar and I get jealous really easy, especially when he’s around the girls that he use to like. When we started dating again, we decided to be honest to each other no matter how bad it was and I did my job, from the beginning of our relationship, I told him I still had little feelings for my ex but it didn’t matter because he goes to another school. We promised each other that I wasn’t going to text my ex anymore and he wasn’t going to talk to my friend or even get near her. 4 days ago, my best friend and other 2 girls were in a group and I guess he was waiting for his friend but I didn’t care, I wanted him away from her. I told him to move and he kept saying he was waiting for his friend. I started counting till 5 and I turned around and left. He followed me but I ignored him. I knew that if I talked to him, I was going to break up with him and I didn’t want that, so I left. I texted him 30 minutes later explaining why I was mad and why I ignored him, I even apologized and all I got was “…. I dunno…” At that moment, I knew it was over. I begged him not to break up but he wouldn’t take me back. The next day I talked to him, I had to. I told him that… I might be pregnant. I told my mom and she was not okay, I lost all her trust. He also told his mom and she said if I was pregnant, she was going to support him but since I’m not, she doesn’t want us back together. I know he still loves me but I don’t know what to do anymore. Today I found out that he started talking to his ex, so I did the same. This is really affecting me. I did not go to one of my classes today because he has the same class, I also left school early because I couldn’t take the pain anymore. I feel like this is slowly killing me. I feel like I need him! :'( Can someone help me?
We met as broken people and all we did was fight cuz I pointed out everything he did wrong ( I was scared cuz I felt he reminded me of my ex and he was still hung up on his) and he said I was a nag, till one day I woke up and felt nothing for him after great sex, but decided to just hang in there. Not sure what he felt that morning but he started pulling away, so I left him, till I contacted him one day and he said he was on a date. I completely lost all control and sanity and it was an entire weekend of fighting via text messages cuz he wouldn’t talk to me over the phone, hurt even more cuz the ex I was broken from got married that weekend. He finally called when the weekend was over but by then I was over it and didn’t pick up or read his last text message.
If you now understand what you did to drive her away, do you also understand why she doesn’t want to risk with you? How much do you love her? Will she ever meet another man who loves her as much as you?
Hey, I need some advice in my situation. I dated this beautiful girl all senior year of high school. She was so far out of my league, I was just the luckiest guy. She made me feel so loved so happy so complete. She was the first and only girl I’ve ever felt like she could be the one. I know that sounds naiive coming from a 19 year old but it honestly felt so right. Sadly, we broke up because I had to go to college and she was a rising senior. We had other issues, mostly my issues like I wasn’t mature enough, I was selfish, I wasnt always the emotional support she needed. She was so selfless and loving and really deserved better. Anyway, we broke up the summer before I went away and we would talk maybe once a month for the next 9 months. I thought that we had built a semi nirmal friendship over that time. After 9 months, we saw each other for the first time. As soon as I feel back into her eyes my heart just filled with love. Just seeing her smile felt so right, a feeling I hadn’t felt since we broke up. However, it turns out she is dating this new guy. My heart sank so low when I found out that news. The past nine months I’ve been concentrating on growing in the areas that I lacked in our relationship. This is with the hope that one day I’ll hopefully deserve her. So finding out she dating again is a little discouraging. I could use some advice on what to do next. I really want her to be happy, she deserves nothing but happiness. I really don’t want to be a part of messing things up for them, I there relationship to play out how its supposed to be. So do I forget her and let her date this guy hoping that he makes her happy? Do I continue our friendship until I feel like I’ve grown? I really don’t know what is best? I want to do whats best for her, but also don’t want to lose her? Is there any hope I can achieve both? Should I back off from her when she dating this guy, even if my present intentions are to just be friends?
If you are living with tight budget then you can distract yourself from negative feeling by adopting new hobby or taking inspiration for one of your hobbies. Fun activities like swimming in the sea, caring your garden and jogging early in the morning with definitely help you in recovering from painful feelings and they will improve your health as well.
However, if you are looking to get your ex girlfriend back or your ex wife back, I recommend you check out this article with a game plan more focused on winning a girl back after a breakup and it comes with objectives and actionable tips. Click here to read it; I am sure you will love it.
Your job is to show her a great time and show her that you have changed and are well equipped for a healthy relationship. You don’t want to end the date with asking her on a second date. Instead, you want to let this experience linger in her mind for a while.
Let him see it, but don’t say it. Tell him you had a great time, and that you could meet up some time to hang out… he will feel like his leg was chopped of for not kissing, but he will know that you want more, that there might be a new, bright future for the two of you. All night he’ll be flipping around in bed, thinking about how beautiful you are and how much he wants to get back with you. I’m not saying you should be ice-cold when you meet up, on the contrary, be cold, but a bit mysterious, make him wonder.