On the other hand, if you dated for just a short amount of time but had an intense, passionate, kind of crazy connection, but had to break up because one of you had to move away and you didn’t want to do long distance, and now you’re back in the same city, your chances are much better.

Lost respect translates to lost attraction because a woman cannot feel attraction for a man she doesn’t respect/ feel is superior. If you even went as far as saying sorry to her at times when she gave you sh*t, then you can double the amount of respect and attraction lost because women don’t like submissive men. Submissive = inferior.

3rd Step: Collect all physical objects like Teddy Bear, Gift set, necklace, bangles etc and put them into a box. Put box somewhere in your home where you don’t go often or place that is difficult to reach without someone help.

How should I proceed. Is it still worth a gamble in the future if she was battling herself internally (due to depression/neediness,), should she stabilize her life. Or is it not even worth it given what I found out (hiding her ex, even if it was just as a friend).

Remember when she put you down in front of her friends? Or when she criticized you for having another beer? How about when she told you that you should probably spend more time in the gym? If she treats her friends better than she treated you, she does not value you for your worth. Don’t go thinking that if you drank less beer or lost some weight that things would change. She is still the same person. 

Hi, we were engaged,she called off our engagement, she is very egoist lying and stubborn and i was abusive (verbally), controlling, jelous, insecure, over possessive. I loved her from the best i have but her ego and stubbornness made me behave wrong to her, i pleaded begged and cried but she didn’t changed her decision, it was me who always use to go to her after every fight where she used to stop talking to me for several days, after broke up i re approached her but she wanted to be friends firstly i said yes but she was so casual and seemed moved on so i started no contact, its been three months i didn’t heard anything from her, she is completely moved on now she seems happy and outgoing and enjoying her life, and here i am so obsessed and crying and dying for her even though i have decided i wont ever contact her or give any signal to contact me, if she wants to workout again then she has to contact me, otherwise its over for me, i am down, i am low but ill get up and ill make it large.

You came along and led her to believe that she could trust you with her heart, but it wasn’t long after she married you that she began to conclude how wrong she had been about you. You no longer made her feel special. You were obsessed with work or anything else that interested you. The only time you acted romantically was when you wanted the marriage bed. She married you to build a relationship, but your mind was stuck on you.

Back and better than ever: Dating the second time around works for couples when partners become different people than they were at the onset of the relationship, while still retaining all of the attractive qualities that first drove their partner to them.

If your ex has fallen into the friend zone (for example, if he or she says “I’m no longer in love with you”), you might be able to recreate the experience of falling in love by building intimacy with your ex. In one study, a researcher had two strangers stare into each other’s eyes and then answer personal questions (like “What is your biggest fear?” and “What is your best memory from childhood?”). They were able to create an intimate bond between the strangers, creating attraction and even the feelings of love. Try spending time looking into your ex’s eyes and asking deep questions and see if this helps move your relationship back into intimate territory.[13]

I’ve learned a lot over the years about how to get an ex back. It can be complicated and difficult. However, I have developed a system to make it simpler, and I call this system my “3R System” — Recovery, Rekindling, and Re-Attraction.

Women are ticking time bombs in terms of their fertility, and you had better believe that there’s an evolutionary part of your ex’s brain driving her towards the goal of having a child. For that reason, women need to see progress in relationships that indicates to them that they are on course to have kids.

I am obsessed with her and cannot stop thinking about her or texting her daily, I am even failing managing to eat the way I want them back, I have learned from my previous mistakes, suffered damages, I feel broken beyond repair, but became a better person from it all because of the struggles I have been through, I am ashamed of what I have done and has accepted what I caused, but I am a new version of me and want a new start and to spend my life with them, I love and I miss them very much, and would do anything to get her back

Oritte Bendory is a Manhattan based writer and blogger at The Cougel Chronicles: Tales of a Jewish Cougar (Or, If Carrie Bradshaw was Jewish and divorced Big). Her remarriage memoir, “To Love, Cherish & Disobey,” is forthcoming. She is also a former screenwriter and film producer.

Hi , im a guy 29 iv been in relationship with my girl around 4 years and after that we break up , after 6-7 month shes got married with other guy i think just because of rampage after 6-7 month shes devorced , but i still love her i miss her , it is worth to take my ex back or not , and how ? I need ur help , thank you

Reconnect with friends- Friends are great. You can talk to them about your problems and they will listen. You can rely on them in the bad times to pick you up. Careful though, don’t let them talk you into calling him before the no contact period is up.

Its a 2.5 year distance relationship in which i said some bad things to her in my anger, we meet twice in a month or more, then suddenly she losses interest which result in arguing and fighting and she eventually break up with me I begged for 3 to 4 days then started no contact, I applied 30 days no contact and after that, we talked and clarified all things and suddenly next day she goes cold again and as a result, i feel breakup pain again and eventually asking for another chance she said no and then I start the no contact again another month is almost complete what should i do now?

Many abandoned men are in this predicament, because they have always discredited their wives’ “complaints” as emotionally based and therefore, unfounded. It is a wise man, however, who recognizes that whether or not his wife bases her feelings on an accurate view of the facts, she still truly holds those feelings. To her they are valid. For example, she may not have actual grounds to fear for the family’s financial future, but if she is afraid, then it is important to understand that those feelings of fear are real to her, and deserve compassion. Her feelings may be unfounded and not based on facts, but she feels them nonetheless.

Once you’re done figuring things out on your own, you obviously need to have a conversation with your ex. An honest convo guys, not one where you’re both just like, “I miss you, I can’t live without you!” Talk about what you both want to change, what you want in the future and what’s been going on while you were together. Get everything out there now!

1. Your ex needs some space and time to remove all the negative associations from the breakup and start missing you. People have a common misconception that if you don’t contact your ex, they will forget about you. But in reality, if you don’t contact your ex, you will give him time to miss you more and he will be wondering all the time why you are not contacting him. Remember all the mistakes in Part #1 of this guide. Every one of them made your ex think of you as a needy person. By not contacting him, you immediately become not needy in his mind.