Heyy !!! It’s been two months I and my girl broke up.. As like normal guys v guys were in contact, latter on she kept on tellin you gotta move on and all that.. Recently I avoided textin her callin for lik two days, I had even tried avoiding her even b4 once she herself had called from front to know if I am fine.. I acted all fine.. Nd lst night I just bumped at her in place … V wer together boozing she had come with her friends, even then she ws full time wit me , all off sudden topic off our relationship started I was in tears , she wiped my tears , hugged nd kissed me on forehead .. Nd I got to know through her friends tat even she broke down… I really don know what to do??? I just love her alot!!! Tis is killin me .. Plz help.. Does she still love me ??
1) Don’t ever be desperate to get a girl back. She may perceive it as not being “mentally strong” or “healthy.” That said, it sounds like you’re in a tough/desperate place right now. I don’t know you, but maybe the best thing to do is to take some personal time to respect or work on other areas of your life.
Dating again to re-kindle the spark immediately after the breakup doesn’t usually work well, because not enough time has passed since then for real changes to have been made for fresh feelings to develop. Additionally, old habits would still remain, and it could easily turn into a situation where you face all the problems of a relationship, but not the full benefits of it since you guys are only ‘dating’. I suggest taking some time off to actually focus on yourself since he is doing the same, and gauge the situation again later on.
Making a girl want you back can be a challenge — especially if your relationship ended on a bad note. However, if you know that you have an unbelievable connection, then it’ll be worth it to pick up those soggy embers and try to rekindle that old flame. If you want to know how to make your girl want you back, then you need to give her space while making her remember how amazing you are. If you want to know how to do it, just follow these steps.
Realize that you know yourself better than ever before. You’ve looked into your own heart and sought to understand it. You’ve tallied your interests and goals, and made new friends without anyone there to affect your presence. In short, you know yourself now in a way that you didn’t before. You’re more poised, more possessed, and more confident as a result.
Let’s say you and your ex-girlfriend used to fight all the time regarding your possessiveness. Rate yourself; are you too possessive? If so, you should understand that it is not healthy for a relationship. If on the other hand, you saw your ex-girlfriend with another boy, one who is more outgoing than you, so you must change? No. You’re should never change, but you can improve yourself.
So, what are some of the things you might do that would be too obvious? Well, for starters, showing up at your ex girlfriend’s favorite restaurant with a new girl when you know she’ll be there is not very subtle. So is making deliberate attempts to post pictures of you and other girls on Facebook (although if you can do this subtly, it can sometimes work). And talking to your ex’s friends just so you can tell them about your new girlfriend (knowing your ex will end up hearing this gossip) is also too obvious.
My girlfriend just broke up with me tonight and I have never felt worse. She is already seeing other people. I really want her back and had no idea what to do until I came here. I don’t think I want the slut back now. What am I saying hell yes I do. I feel so confused would making her jealous help or maybe the new guy needs a fist to the mouth even though that would not help. I might do it anyways.
My gf broke up with me and it’s been weird she wanted me back and I Turned her down and now I realize I should have had her it’s so frustrating without her and I really miss her but I heard she kissed another guy what should I do?
HER REPLY: “I’m so sorry Ivan, from the bottom of my heart. The last thing I want to do is hurt you. But that’s exactly what I’m doing if I stay with you. It’s also what I’m doing to myself. I have been constantly thinking about our relationship and my feelings for longer than you realise. It’s been tearing me apart. I feel guilty for staying with you when I know I’m not reciprocating the same feelings back to you. But then I feel guilty for leaving you knowing your feelings, and not too mention that I truly care for you and don’t want to hurt you. Then there is my side and my feelings, how can I stay with someone I don’t love like that. I want to love like that, I want those feelings you have, I want to be happy too. I don’t want to go on hoping my parter cheats on me so I have some sort of valid excuse.
Consider meditation during your personal time, to help you sort things out in your head. There are various meditation methods; the most basic is to sit and breathe evenly, focusing on the physical sensation of your own body, until your thoughts become clearer and less overwhelming.
Nobody wants to be with a needy person. Pleading and being needy is unattractive and is only going to push your ex further away from you. It will only make them think that they made the right decision by breaking up with you.
I had a moment of weakness and messaged her cousin (she had a birthday night out or drinks last night, which both me and my ex were supposed to go to together) in the message I wrote “Hey Nat, just wanted to say have a fun tonight and happy birthday again for the other day. Sorry I can’t make it tonight. I assume you already know why ?
This may make you upset, but it’s the truth. I can’t guarantee that you are going to get your ex boyfriend back, I just can’t. We are dealing with a male human being here and as much as I would love to be able to just make him get back with you I don’t have the mind control powers that so many others in this “how to get your ex boyfriend back” community seem to have.
That’s good Emily, initiate No Contact first and give both parties some space to let go of any negative emotions or thoughts. He may very well be serious about the possibility of working out, but that’s definitely not something that can be achieved right now.
If you hurt her, apologize. If you really want her back, you have to be the man and apologize for what went wrong. If she was hurt by you, she’ll want to stay away from you for fear of getting hurt again. So man up and tell her you made a mistake.
Hopefully, if everything goes as planned, your ex will not be able to resist you and will start to warm up to you again. After that it should only be a matter of time until they are back in your life.
Then on the night you meet her and you’ve both been drinking, you can be a little more sexual and flirty… then you can drop in a get back together line… “What do you think about us seeing each other again?”.
If you haven’t spoken to or texted you ex-girlfriend in months/years/decades it might feel weird to just start saying words on your phone. Whatever you do, don’t lead with “I know we’re not speaking but…” This makes you sound petty and like you haven’t moved on. If you know you’re not speaking then why are you texting her?! (See Step 1.) A better idea is to start with “Hey.” “Hey” is the official start of any text to anyone who you don’t normally text. “Hey” makes you look nonchalant and cool like Fonzie.
It is good to improve your personality and getting rid of negatives. However, it is not only okay to change yourself for an ex-girlfriend who cannot love you for whom you are, then you deserve better. The time you spend away of your former partner, use it to take care of yourself. Try to improve your appearance and indulge in a particular activity that you like.
Whatever you do, don’t get sucked back in to your old relationship. First of all, don’t talk about your relationship. Not the good parts, not the bad parts, not even things you did together. For the love of G-d don’t talk about how your ex-girlfriend “always does this.” It is neither helpful towards starting over with someone nor moving on.
Try it out, exercise your agentic power, as Larry Becker would put it, take control of your emotions by way of your reason and your actions. And remember: you are not a Sage, but only a prokopton, one who (hopefully) makes progress. But progress is not linear, you will slide back. It’s okay, pick yourself up and keep going. Fate permitting, you have a long life ahead of you, rich in new and positive thoughts and emotions. In part, that’s up to you.
Get back in touch – After a couple of weeks, get in touch either with a text or a Facebook message. Say something friendly, maybe even inject a little humour. Something like “Hey, so I got the job… (yay for me) starting in a week” fancy a celebratory coffee? No kisses or desperate talk.
If you think that by being friends with your ex, you can stay in their lives and hopefully get back together again, you are just plain wrong. By being friends you are not giving yourself and your ex enough time and space to heal. Not to mention, you will probably end up getting friendzoned by your ex. You could end up listening to your ex complaining about their new lovers (cue : Ex-girlfriends) or they might propose being friends with benefits (cue: Ex-boyfriends).
Approach your conversation correctly. The best way to do it is to tell her how much you wanted to talk to her before and how much you regretted that your relationship failed. After that, you can start asking her if she is willing to talk about rekindling the relationship now that you already gained a new and mature perspective about you and her.
Turn up the romance factor. Bring her flowers and take her to a romantic restaurant. Now, you shouldn’t overdo it to the point that she feels uncomfortable. Just add a little bit of the romance that was probably missing before.
Then she say she dont want to and 1 week after my sister bday i ask her sister where she could be ? Because my sister invited her to my sister birthday party and she dont even reply it. Then suddenly at night she texted me that why you texted my family. Now everybody know and she tell me that she cant be with me anymore because we keep arguing and stuff. And she say for now she cant be in a relationship kind of thing.
Some people try to be there for their ex. They walk their dog, they show up at their door with some gifts, and other things. This hinders your value, and makes them wish you were gone. Aside from cutting off communication, it’s imperative that you are not visible. You cannot be seen by her, by your own doing. This will create value, as absence makes the heart grow fonder. You’ll force her to think about you, and will not let her have control, you’ll be in control.
It’s likely you changed over the course the relationship with your ex. You may have settled into old patterns and let some things slide that you didn’t before the two of you met. It’s understandable – you became comfortable in your relationship.
The best way to handle this situation is to accept your condition. This is because you can’t force your ex girlfriend to change her decision. Most people do completely against accepting their situation. They bombard their ex girlfriend with miss calls, text messages, Facebook messaging, sleep with ex’s friend and also do stalking to find out about their girlfriend. All these negative actions make their situation even more worst and in the end they lost their girlfriend to someone new.